Many film and television works, at different ages and stages, looking at the same things will have different feelings, some of the appearance value seen at the time, some pictures are lively, but when they really grow up, they will experience a lot of life perceptions that they could not understand at that time.
When I was a child, I didn't know what to do, and when I really tasted the truth, I am afraid that people have entered middle age.
When it comes to animated films, what would you choose if there was only one left in the world? I'm afraid that many people will have the same choice as me, that is, "Spirited Away".
I used to think it was just a cartoon full of magical colors, but then I realized that she was a metaphor for life and many marital problems.
There are three endings to a person's life:
The first is to become a pig, the second is to become a demon, and the third is to become a man.
The first two are going astray and paying the price for their choices, and the third is to really grow and mature, but it takes firm perseverance and continuous transformation to succeed.
The loss of the self
One day, parents may become "pigs"
We have all worshipped and relied on our parents, but in the end we have become resistant and even disgusted with our own parents, and everyone seems to have secretly vowed never to be like their parents.
But as you grow up, the pressure of life, the pressure of life, and the uncertain circumstances, you are not sure when you may become a person like Chihiro's parents, there is no transformation that is expected, there is no depravity, it is a destination that has been planned from the beginning.
This is definitely not alarmist, but because we are born in the world, there are too many things that we cannot change.
Like Chihiro in the film, she is forced to move with her parents, and no one cares if the girl in the back seat is happy or not, and what emotions she has.
Indeed, parents may have their own considerations, and they have their own strength to take care of, but for whatever reason, when people grow up to ignore and forget that being children also need respect and communication, in fact, they have begun to become "pigs", which is a change in the heart, not simply the transformation of the five senses.
Suddenly find a strange "road", even children will be afraid, and as adult parents are bent on going their own way, sometimes "adults" are more like children, that is the immaturity of the mind, rather than simple age.
They force their daughters to follow them, but they don't care about their children's fears, they don't analyze the hidden crises of reality, how can a desolate place suddenly pop up in a restaurant? Why does one person not have so many delicacies?
Behind this behavior, the focus is not on their naivety, but on adult greed, because of too much self and blind confidence in the consequences of their own control, so the resulting cost can no longer be borne, they have never cared about the child's emotional feelings, but also ultimately hurt themselves, involving the children.
Many parents in life often make their children obedient, but in the end" is it right to "listen"? But not necessarily under the cognition of parents, it is a completely correct model.
At the same time, too many children's compromises are not necessarily identification, nor are they unaware of problems, but she is more afraid of the loneliness of being separated from her parents than dangerous.
As a parent, the lack of empathy is the greatest harm to the child.
Too many children are like Chihiro, they are inattentive little hairy children in the eyes of their parents, many things do not have the right to know, as long as they abide by it, but in the end, many of their own decisions may not be wiser and more rational than a child.
Living with parents who lack empathy, children are lonely and may not even be able to heal their inner feelings of helplessness for the rest of their lives. Not being seen, always groping alone in the dazed world, the feeling of wandering, like the magical and terrible other world in which Chihiro is living.
Parents and children are a destined to separate travel, sooner or later, we will all stand alone in different places, but as parents, if you can be a little more considerate in the company to enhance empathy, I am afraid that the child's road will be flatter, and compared to ignoring the child's solipsism, but can be home and everything, to avoid unnecessary disasters and risks.
Couples, who can be happy and stable to accompany each other until they are old, need not only to walk together with one heart, but also to synchronize at the same time, but also to keep one party calm, in order to keep the family away from danger.
Redemption:
All the people in the dream are actually yourself
In the world of Spirited Away, different levels have different survival rules:
Bottom: Coal ash coolies, with a little use, manual labor in exchange for survival
Middle-level paid employees: Chihiro, there are some uses
Last management employee: Bai Long, very useful, belongs to the indispensable talent
Senior leaders: Mother Tang is the CEO, the rule-maker and manipulator
Greed: Becoming a pig
In this world, the survival cost of an adult is always the value that he can provide.
The key to what you can survive and live is to see what level of use you can have, this "magical" world, every day on its own to create a new world.
Maybe you, like your mother-in-law, can decide the life and death of others and manipulate other people's lives, but still raise the offspring of giant babies due to poor parent-child relationship.
No matter how high your power and status, by how gentle your heart is, how gentle the motherly relationship with the child is, the wrong way to get along, let him become a greenhouse flower, may be the most cruel way to love.
The white dragon can soar to the sky, with supreme magic and honor status, but it is only a sharp weapon in the hands of Tang Mother-in-law, once scrapped, she can mercilessly let him die.
The faceless man can conjure up countless golden beans, once angry can eat all the living creatures, he broke into TangCheng, he can use money to eat all the treasures of the mountains and seas, get everyone's admiration and support, and when he wants to exchange money for emotion, Chihiro's refusal, for a moment, it seems that his strength and the strength he has become meaningless.
He may have great lethality, but the emptiness and loneliness in his heart, only Chihiro alone notices his existence, and only Chihiro is not respectful to him because of money, let alone betray himself because of money.
Sometimes what we need is nothing more than a pure sincerity, without any worldly factors, but the "value transaction" also needs to meet the right person, and your payment needs to be exactly what the other party takes, so that you can hit it off and become a partner who moves forward hand in hand.
The experience of growing up seems to be like this, searching and finding, is a process of constantly facing the mutilated self, going around and around, we are all accepting and facing the new self and the people around us.
Inner Reconstruction:
Find living purpose and belief
In this illusory world of "man eating man", what is the goal of Chihiro's life? Quite simply, rescue your parents and escape from here.
A person's growth and motivation often stem from this firm belief and goal, knowing what they live for, and working in this direction, it is possible to break through many obstacles.
What is the sentence that people most desire to hear when they are most desperate, helpless, and confused? It's not that I love you, it's "don't be afraid, I'm here"
The White Dragon gave Chihiro the energy, which was not love, but a strength that parents should give their children.
In times of crisis, he tells Chihiro to hold his breath and avoid the security guards, and he teaches Chihiro how to survive how to be a useful employee without being strangled. He taught Chihiro the way to survive, how to survive on her own, rather than surviving for her, giving her completely closed protection.
In the same way, he will quietly comfort Chihiro when she is in pain and helplessness, which can make the girl cry.
In the "cruel" world, the strength of each child comes from the people around him, and sometimes he is misguided and crooked, not because of his misconduct, but because of his influence, he lacks positive guidance and encouragement.
It's easy for a person to grow old, but it's really not easy to grow up smoothly. In addition to the individual's intelligence, the situation and everyone around him have a certain degree of influence.
Inner reconstruction hope has the same love as a white dragon, but if not, then you need to rebuild for yourself. Tell yourself that as long as you persist, there is hope that tomorrow, perhaps all suffering and misfortune, is an inevitable transformation process of suffering.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.