When we were young, we always felt that the friends around us would definitely be with us for a lifetime, and there was never a separation; when we grew up, we experienced a lot to understand that people will not stay together forever, but will only go on a journey to the end of their own world, and there is no intersection.
Two people can know each other, know each other, meet in each other's life trajectory and go all the way, in fact, it is already a rare fate. After all, living in the real world, there are too many people around us who walk and walk and disperse, and disappear when they talk.
Abruptly stopped, caught off guard, never a formal "goodbye", no hysterical "turning", each other in the silent drift apart, no looking back, no farewell.
This is probably the most tacit renunciation between adults, often silent, like a fallen leaf falling to the lake, without splashing a single wave, and then drifting farther and farther away, never looking back.
1 There is a kind of renunciation called "after a long time, the relationship will fade"
Technology is developing rapidly, communication is so convenient, but in the face of time, the relationship between people is still fragile, can not withstand the test of time, too many people because of the time, the relationship is faded, each other slowly out of each other's life circle.
Even if they used to be close partners, even if they were girlfriends and friends who didn't talk about anything, even if they were once inseparable, the mountains and the sea, once they were not together, with the passage of time, the passion that had once been there would slowly fade, and the once nothing to talk about also became wanted to talk and stop, did not want to bother, did not know what to say, time slowly lengthened, the relationship between the two people became weaker and weaker, and finally disappeared into the sea of people, completely without a word.
Or, the usual busyness makes you forget the existence of the other party, because the accidental moment thought of the other party, want to greet each other, but found that you can not find the other party at all, or change the name in WeChat, or have been blocked.
Once the time has passed, and they do not often contact each other, they will slowly intersect less, no longer a part of each other's lives, and the relationship between the two people will slowly come to an end.
In fact, everyone has their own busy things at different ages, especially when they are older, there will be too many things involving their energy, and there is no extra time to pay attention to the feelings of the past. As a result, what a beautiful relationship was once collapsed in front of time, and each drifted apart in his own life journey.
In the face of a silent farewell, there is no need to wander and be sad, after all, too many people are just passers-by in our lives, it is enough to have been with our hearts, there is no unbroken feast in the world, silently blessed in the heart, each of them is safe.
2 There is a kind of renunciation called "circles are different, each other is not the same kind of people"
I've seen a quote that says:
"The relationship between two people can be long-lasting, not just giving to each other, but two people belonging to the same kind of people."
Yes, two people are a type of person, will have the same three views, the same cognition, in the face of a thing's view will not appear "chicken and duck talk" embarrassment, not to mention around some views when there is "playing the piano to the cow" speechless.
When two people are a type of person, each other's circle must be the same, and the friends made by two people are also the same, so two people have something to say and talk about together, and the relationship between two people can be long-lasting.
On the contrary, perhaps the two people were like-minded before, but as each other slowly grew up and embarked on different life paths, the friends they made were different, the world they saw was also different, and when two people were not a type of person, they would often end up going against each other and going in opposite directions.
For example, one person likes to talk about poetry and distant places, and the other person loves money and fame, so naturally it is impossible to talk about it.
Also, one person likes to read to expand their horizons, and the other person prefers to brush videos to kill time, so two people will definitely not be able to go together.
Moreover, life is like a road leading to different places, where there is an intersection where the roads intersect, and everyone may have walked together before, but often then they have gone to the west.
When each other is not a road person, the circle of activity is also different, and slowly they become two people, and they will never get together again.
3 There is a kind of renunciation called "seeing through a person, no need to say much"
The relationship between people can be long-lasting, many times because of maintaining a proper sense of distance, so that each other can feel safe, and will not communicate for the purpose of interests, nor will they look at each other with a utilitarian attitude, two people will feel very comfortable getting along, and there is never pressure to be together.
However, there is a kind of renunciation called "seeing through a person, there is no need to say more."
Once, thinking that each other was friends and friends, they did not care about each other's excessive demands in the face of affection, and even chose to compromise, thinking that this would maintain this friendship.
However, the longer you get along, the more you make yourself feel cold, the other party does not treat you as a friend at all, but for the purpose of communication, once the goal is achieved, it will disappear immediately.
After that, when there is something to ask you for help, it will immediately post to you and tell you how good and true the relationship between them is, but in fact, the real purpose is still for their own selfish desires.
For such a person, once you see through it, you will feel that there is really no need to continue to communicate.
You take each other as friends, but the other party only treats you as a customer who makes money for themselves, such a relationship is chilling, it is better to leave decisively and do not look back.
Also, when you have always treated the other party as your best friend with sincerity, but he says bad things about you everywhere behind your back, and never admits what he says and does, so that people with different appearances will say goodbye as soon as possible.
In fact, there is no need to argue with the other party, just don't want to let yourself continue to be angry, it is better to choose to be quiet, just as a small episode in life, do yourself well, take care of yourself.
In people's lives, you will meet many people, some people just stay around you and leave, some people just rub shoulders with you, and there are very few people who really accompany you through the journey, after all, they are passers-by and will not stay.
As the saying goes: "The past is not in love, the future is not welcomed, the present is not disappointed, so good." ”
The past is the past, the ones who stay should know how to cherish, bless each other when they are separated, and live well in the present, which is the best kind treatment for themselves.
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