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The reason why there is no sound height must be very clear to everyone, when a group of people are in a noisy discussion environment, often the person who speaks in a smaller voice and quieter is more able to attract the attention of others.
As if in the modern impetuous social environment, quiet is a kind of difference. For the individual psychologist Adler, quiet people have more power than ordinary people, they have the courage to be hated, and they have the stubbornness not to be afraid of the world.
First, quietness is different, living out of oneself
I believe that everyone has had such an experience, when we are walking on the street, we suddenly see a lot of people gathered in a certain place, like what happened, everyone who passed by here wanted to go over and see, and the crowd was increasing.
Even if they know that this matter is mostly not related to themselves, most people will choose to take a closer look.
However, there are still some people, no matter what new and interesting things happen in other places, no matter what the movements of the people around them, no matter what other people are doing, they can always keep themselves away from the crowd and always look like they are standing still.
In the student stage, most of these people are academic bullies, no matter what the classmates are doing, what fun things happen in the class, they can sit calmly at their desks, should read books, should study and learn, and will politely refuse the class students' various invitations to go out and play, and try to participate in the gathering between classmates as little as possible.
It's not because they don't fit in, but because, at this moment, they have something more important in mind to accomplish.
In short, whether they are really not interested in playing, or pretending to be maverick, in order to appear maverick, the person who can do so at least proves that he has enough courage and perseverance.
However, there are also many introverts who often place themselves in a solitary space because they pay more attention to their inner feelings and experiences.
However, that doesn't mean introverts don't make friends, it's just that they don't want to socialize and don't need to socialize.
Such people are usually able to spend their time in the most critical places and maximize the value of time, so such people can always achieve the greatest success in the field they are engaged in.
Human beings have a strong social nature, so communicating with people is an indispensable part of people's lives.
In the interaction between people, there is a very common psychological phenomenon, that is, the phenomenon of conformism, what the people around you do, you also follow what you do, whether this thing really exists or not, just to appear to be "gregarious".
Because living in a group, you will be affected by this group, thoughts and behaviors will be gradually affected, if you are in the same group, everyone is doing one thing and you do not do it, you will be separated from the group, if the incidence of this situation continues to increase, you will be rejected by this group.
Therefore, people who can maintain their true selves and dare to be different from the people around them, especially those who are very unique, are people who really have courage, perseverance, opinion, and position.
Second, quietness is down-to-earth and clear in heart
With the continuous development and progress of society, information life has become more and more developed, as long as people through smart phones, they can understand the world's major events.
But the speed of information dissemination is getting faster and faster, there are also many drawbacks, in addition to positive positive energy news on the Internet, there will be many negative energy news, once a large amount of negative energy is invaded, the individual's mental state will take a sharp turn.
Secondly, there are often behaviors of showing off wealth on the Internet, and if individuals are jealous because of those behaviors of showing off wealth, then your life and your state will become worse and worse.
In today's impetuous social environment, people who can maintain inner peace, are not invaded by these external negative energies, can focus on their work, life and family, can achieve their life goals, achieve themselves, and contribute to society.
Third, quietness is to look long-term and live in the present
There are many people in life who, after experiencing some difficulties and setbacks, will always think about the causes of these setbacks repeatedly, and have the idea that if I did not do this, the result would be better, and the more I thought about it, the more angry I became.
And those who can really be calm, for their own life have some very clear planning, whether it is long-term goals or short-term goals, they are clearly organized, everything they do is to complete their ideals and goals.
Therefore, even if they face failure, they will not repeatedly struggle with the results of failure, but will find reasons in failure, learn lessons, and never make the same mistake the next time they do something similar.
Quiet people in life is not only less talkative, their temperament is also very quiet, when you come into contact with such people, there will always be a sense of quiet years.
- The End - Author | Tommy edits | It does not rain the first psychological main writer group | References for a group of young people who like to look up at the stars: Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205