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"I am willing to brave the world, and I strive with all my might, not only to save myself from the pain of cruelty, but to seek the settling of goodness, the establishment of personality, and the salvation of the soul." I will visit my only soul mate in the midst of a sea of people. I am blessed to have it; no, I am destined. Xu Zhimo's words are so touching, and how many uneasy and bland hearts have entered.
Soul mates have once become the goal of modern people' diligent pursuit. Whether old or young, it doesn't matter to men or women.
However, people only value the good of the soul mate, but they do not have a deeper understanding of what is "soul mate", and they have not correctly evaluated whether they have the qualifications to find a "soul mate" and whether they have a "pass" into the world of "soul mate".
A "soul mate" in the true sense is a person who has met a higher spiritual need after having no worries about food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. It cannot be established on its own apart from matter. If that's the case, it can only be like a house of very light snow in the cold wind, and it is easy to be blown away by the wind.
Imagine this: a person does not even have a place to live, even eating and drinking have to be all kinds of provinces, cut, and who has the heart and ability to realize the qualification to find that suitable companion for the soul?
In the past, more people chose one person only for the sake of old age and worked hard to take responsibility for it. Today's people, choosing one person to grow old is not satisfied, but also to choose a person who burns enthusiasm and vitality with the depths of their souls. This is indeed the progress of a social civilization.
However, such a partner everyone wants to find, but such a partner is not everyone has the capital to find, not to mention, it is originally a luxury that can not be sought.
Soul mates, like a very high-end global limited edition luxury, you have to have enough silver first, and then you have to have the luck to get a limited edition. After that, it is the happiness of embracing with preciousness.
If, the triviality of chai rice oil, salt sauce and vinegar tea has made you worry about the work, and even the abundance of food, clothing, and housing is unable to satisfy, but you are still paranoid and insist on talking about what soul mate, then your idea is not as simple as a luxury, it is simply a big joke.
In the past, people chose one person to live with a deep sense of responsibility, the responsibility of being loyal to their partners, and the responsibility of men to support their families and women to guard their homes. Nowadays, choosing one person to share the white head has become a "selfish" way to meet their subjective imaginary life, the sense of responsibility is fading, and the good and bad of self-feeling have become the only yardstick that determines the length and width of marriage.
You can be disappointed in a person at will, you can also easily be moved by a person, a sentence of "three views are not in harmony, you don't understand me at all" has become the reason for divorce, but it has never been fairly attributed to its own lack of responsibility and responsibility as an excuse.
Soul mates are good, but you also have to figure out if you really have the strength to have.
Just like those down-to-earth people in life, they will live their own lives in a down-to-earth manner, and they will be inseparable from those who have supported each other through the wind, frost, rain and snow for the rest of their lives.
They usually think of marriage as a lifelong event and don't think about divorce easily. Therefore, with the idea of walking with one person for a lifetime, it will "snuff out" the unrealistic little flame in the heart. Then, try to overcome the bad and get closer to the good. Boiled cabbage can also be safe.
On the other hand, those who are obviously only suitable for the ordinary life of ordinary people, but only focus on themselves, enjoy the feeling of being recognized, and being praised. Their so-called search for a soul mate is nothing more than the willfulness of not wanting to let themselves suffer a little grievance, but they have never thought about whether there is anyone who interacts with them under their poor materials.
Leaving aside the material, or talking about "soul mates" in times of material deprivation, is a big joke. It is simply the selfish desire of restless people to find someone who can comfort their souls in a moment when they are not living a satisfactory life.
But what he doesn't know is that no one is a selfless "God" who can redeem a "selfish" soul with an empty stomach.
There is no such thing as a person who is perfectly in tune with one's own spiritual height, and if you must say that it exists, then it can only be a subjective speculation of one's own wishful thinking.
Only in the case of chai rice oil and salt, even abundant, the pursuit of "soul" is your life to a higher level of leaps.
Human nature can only truly reveal its true face at important moments when it is about interests or facing life and death. Therefore, people, only when their own interests are fully protected or are not "threatened", will ignore the "ugly" side of human nature.
Did you know? There is a world of difference between the love of the first sight and the love that has not been tired for a long time, the former is enthusiastic and the latter is long-flowing; the former is romantic but easy to get tired, and the latter is plain but true.
Just like when many people are in love, the kind of glue-like knees that you and I are like, feeling that they are happy to fly, and they are the same as the three views, and they are soul fit; however, once they are implemented into the trivialities of marriage, they fall into the chaos of chicken feathers for the sake of chai rice oil and salt, only to find that they have been "deceived" by the other party.
But in fact, you are only blinded by your own selfish desires, and you are deceiving yourself, not that the other party has deceived you. That is the beauty that you enjoy the pleasure that the other party brings you and deliberately magnifies, just like admiring the beauty of the scenery of the mirage, once the sunshine of chai rice oil and salt blows away the "fog" in life, the beauty of the mist will be carved into nothing.
A person, only everything starts from the self, when choosing a mate, first look at what conditions they have instead of thinking about how suitable the other party's conditions are, and when there is a disagreement, first find the reason from themselves instead of blindly holding a magnifying glass to find each other's problems, only such a person, when finally choosing the person to accompany him, will be fortunate to meet the "soul mate".
That is to say, soul mates do not come out of thin air, nor can they be obtained by painstaking searching, but they have a good cultivation of their own.
Self-motivation, hard work, and cherishing the present are the true meaning of happiness, and they are also the most feasible and achievable way to invite "soul mates" into life.
The most taboo thing about marriage is greed, and the most important thing to do is to cherish the person in front of you. Contentment, gratitude, the most worthy of the soul of the good possession.
The "soul mate" that really has a beautiful meaning is that under the premise of sufficient material "offerings", two people with good disposition cherish each other because of similar interests, similar cultivation and at the same time know how to empathize with each other's perspectives to consider the problem, so that the soul mate can achieve good times and adversity can achieve the "luxury version" of the rest of their lives.