As the saying goes: "The son is like a mother, and the golden brick wall is built", in fact, the second half of the daughter's sentence is the real essence!
The elderly in rural areas have an extraordinary "obsession" with getting married and having children, so many elderly leftover men and women will suffer from the "marriage-urging bombardment" of the elders. Once married and having children, the elders will watch the new life, and they will say, "Oh, it's exactly the same as when his father (or his mother) was a child." ”
Therefore, in the countryside there is such a saying "son is like a mother, gold brick wall", in fact, the second half of the daughter's sentence is the real essence, have you heard the second half of the sentence saying what is the saying of the daughter?
On this topic, the ancient sage Oniguzi has the most say.
The most powerful thing about Oniguzi is to speculate on people's hearts, and his study of people's hearts can be said to be extremely high. The ability to see people and recognize people is really powerful, otherwise it would be impossible to teach students who are all famous in the world. Therefore, the knowledge and wisdom of his old man is worth learning.
As the saying goes, "The son is like a mother, and the walls are built with gold bricks", the literal meaning has some exaggerated elements, but it does not prevent it from conveying spiritual connotations. The so-called "image" here: on the one hand, "like" refers to the "face", rural people are very concerned about the face, if the son's facial features and the mother look very similar, then the rural people will think that this is a kind of "auspicious image"; children with such a face will have no worries about food and clothing in the future, which is also called "rich and noble life".
On the other hand, "like" refers to "personality phenomena." As the saying goes, "there is a difference between men and women", unlike the father's thick branches and leaves, the mother is often delicate; therefore, if the son can inherit the father's iron will, but also learn the mother's heart is as delicate as a hair; this can be described as "strong and soft together", which is of great help to the child's future growth.
Therefore, there will be such a saying as "the son is like a mother, and the golden brick wall is built"!
Traditional culture has always pursued "symmetrical beauty", and the saying is no exception, since the first half of the sentence is about the son, the second half of the sentence is definitely about the daughter.
Many rural people think that the proverb "sons are like mothers, gold bricks build walls", in fact, the second half of the daughter's sentence is the real essence, that is, "daughters are like fathers, there is no shortage of food and clothing". The "like" here actually focuses more on "personality phenomena".
Women in the old society were "not out of the door, not out of the door" before they married, and various etiquette customs were very harsh. In addition, the mainstream of society at that time was "inside the female lead, outside the male lead", so the status of women was very low. At this time, if the daughter can learn the masculinity of her father, it is even possible to reach the realm of "not letting the eyebrows be shaved".
For example, the "Mulan Poem" wrote: "Grandpa has no eldest son, Mulan has no eldest brother, and is willing to be a city Kurama and march for Grandpa from now on." It is precisely because Mulan learned his father's masculinity that he was able to make a move to serve in the army for his father. Therefore, if the daughter's personality is like her father, then she can be relaxed and moderate, "soft and rigid", and the worst can also "eat and wear without shortage".
In summary, this saying "the son is like a mother, the golden brick wall; the daughter is like a father, there is no shortage of food and clothing", in fact, more emphasis is placed on "character cultivation"; whether it is for the daughter or for the son, parents will always be the best teachers for the child.
Therefore, as a father and a mother, we must pass on our own good character to our children, and only by leading by example can we make future generations "stronger than the next generation." What do you think of the proverb "The son is like a mother, the wall is built with gold bricks; the daughter is like a father, and there is no shortage of food and clothing"?