Ghost Valley Thinking Three: Blindly sympathizing with others will plunge into a deep well, explore their virtual reality, and have no tricks to win

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The wisdom of Oniguzi is built in the network of interpersonal relationships, and although we have no way of knowing the true intention of his initial enlightenment and elaboration of thought, we can faintly feel a glimmer of light passing through the broken walls of history through the literature of historical scholars.

These rays of light are enough to sweep away the darkness of the mixed part of your and my life's encounters, and re-ignite the desire for life, rather than going with the flow and dreaming of one day having poetry and distant places.

The authors of the first and second parts of the Oni Valley Wisdom have briefly said it earlier.

The first thought is about the saints who were born before sentient beings, and their main role is to be between the "Tao" and the "multitudes" and to convey to the multitude the essence and method of application of the "Tao" to the multitudes, so that the foolish will not fall into the danger of misfortune and unconsciously. Therefore, the saint has the meaning of carrying on the upper and lower levels.

The second thinking of the oni valley is that the vertical and horizontal family does not take the vertical and horizontal thinking extension as its own side, but takes the golden point of the two, and when circling with the other party, it is changed without change, dissolved and unenvolved, and does not read its thoughts.

What we are talking about today is the third thinking of the ghost valley: blindly sympathizing with others is equivalent to digging a pit yourself, because you simply can't figure out the true feelings of the other party.

The world knows to be a good person, but it is actually difficult to be a good person. Crossing the line will become an "old good man", and failing to do so may flow into the opposite of truth, goodness and beauty.

A good person in the true sense should be able to judge the situation, understand what kind of words are said on what occasions, and what kind of people should be treated with what kind of attitude they meet, and acquiesce to it before they have found out the details, and do not make too much pretense.

"Ghost Valley":

The husband is not inferior, wise and foolish, courageous and cowardly, but he can be punished, but he can be closed; he can advance, he can retreat; he can be lowly, he is precious, and he has nothing to do. Examine whether there is a reality or not, and see its aspirations according to its desires. To seek the truth is to be true, and to be more expensive than to be true; to be generous to him, to seek his benefit.

Each of us walks in society, and all kinds of people will encounter it.

Some are virtuous and benevolent, some are unscrupulous and talentless; some are wise, some are ignorant; some are warm-blooded and brave, some are cold and timid...

All these phenomena show that in the thousands of worldly states, everything is just in the destiny of each peace, no one thing descends from one thing, and no class is higher than any level, just let nature develop, it is the right path in the world.

Just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, if the leaves all look exactly the same, there is no beauty at all, and when the wind blows, the tree will inevitably be uprooted.

The difference of all things in the world is also inevitable, and it is also a kind of naturalness, because all things are following the laws of nature or survival or death, or extinction or longevity, do not participate in too many artificial interventions, that is, the Heavenly Dao.

Then, in the face of such a large and complex network of characters, Oniguzi gave a set of winning tricks, which is:

When communicating with different individuals and things, we should adapt to changes, some places use "squatting", sometimes need to move in and out freely, different people need to be treated differently in a cheap or expensive way, some things need to be left unchecked, and some things need to be restricted by statutes and laws.

In this way, good people are indeed not easy to do, you not only have to look at the face of the person, but also take into account the occasion scene, but also to be accurate, can do these three aspects at the same time, in order to explore the other party's virtual reality.

But it's not too difficult, in fact, people are the easiest to deal with, much easier than communicating with other species that have no ideological characteristics.

Because as long as it is a person, he has desires, and if he has desires, there will definitely be key points that you can take advantage of, which is what Oniguzi said, "Follow his desires to see his will." ”

Desire will make a person out of proportion, will be his preferences and intentions in the public at a glance, even if his schemes are not fully exposed, you can feel the fluctuating and disorderly physical and mental magnetic field through his hands and feet, thereby inferring his falsehood and falsehood.

This is a relatively superior technique of attacking the heart, which can only be done by a wise person who has cultivated to the point of sincerity.

"Ghost Valley":

Or open and show, or close and close. He who opens and shows is the same as his feelings; he who is closed and closed is different from his sincerity. It is possible or not, to judge its schemes, to make them similar and different. Clutch and keep, first from its ambition. That is, the noble week of desire, that is, the noble secret of desire. The meticulousness is precious, and it is chased by the Tao.

To be admonishes is to be enlightened; to be closed is to be closed.

The heavens and the earth open and close, just like the interspersed negotiation between day and night, when the day opens, everything awakens and prospers. When the night is closed, everything goes to sleep, and there is silence between heaven and earth.

Between the heavens and the earth of life, it is natural to rest and recuperate in accordance with this iron law, rather than reversing day and night, otherwise it will disrupt the biological clock, and all kinds of diseases will therefore eat a person's spiritual lifeline, which is really not worth the loss.

Heaven and earth open and close to show the living relationship between all things, the same reason, between people, as well as between people and things, people and things, only by mastering the core code of communication, you can calmly and generously solve various mixed practical problems.

The code of communication lies in the opening and closing of the physical and mental world.

When our hearts are open, you can't help but sympathize with the people around us, and this kind of compassion is actually blind and does not have much rationality; and when our hearts are closed, we will be excessively suspicious of the external environment.

In the end, under what circumstances can be opened, under what circumstances can be combined, this is "clutching and keeping, first from its aspirations."

"Shou" is the "sage shou si qi portal" in the wisdom of the oni valley, the portal is the key to survival, and the "clutch" is like the clutch of the motor vehicle that we often use in daily life, which should be loosened when the hand is released, and the pinch is tight, which must be decided in advance by looking at the road conditions.

Of course, people's temperament also has a clutch, how to grasp it well, relying on the other party's "ambition" to show, throw in their own aspirations, you will stabilize the situation, anti-passive for the initiative, anti-guest-oriented. Of course, this is not static, and the role switching between the host and the guest is very natural.

Only those who practice the way of the saints can change and remain unchanged, from the end of the natural fit, without self within and invincible on the outside.

Live to be old, learn to be old, the Tao is endless, the more you study, the more you feel mysterious. Continue when the author has some leisure time.