There are many things in life, if you can't grasp it, the past will become a miss, leaving only regrets.
Because it was not grasped in time, everyone has many regrets, whether in life or career, or in feelings.
Xiao Xiang is like this.
When she was in college, she had a crush on the senior of the same department, and her friends encouraged her to confess, but she always withdrew at the critical moment.
Seeing that the senior was promoted to senior year and was leaving school in less than a year, Xiao Xiang decided to confess that Christmas that year.
As a result, on Christmas Day, the school club organized an activity, and it was very late after the end of the activity, Xiao Xiang hesitated again and again, and once again chose to wait.
She thought, let's wait until the end of the term begins. When the final exam was over, she thought again, wait until the holidays. Finally, when the winter vacation came, she still couldn't say the words of confession.
During the winter vacation, Xiao Xiang looked at the circle of friends of the senior every day, while secretly making up his mind to confess when the school started.
But she did not expect that the epidemic came, the school was closed, the senior, like all the graduates of that year, participated in the graduation ceremony, while Xiaoxiang was isolated in his hometown, watching the senior post a photo with his girlfriend in the circle of friends, constantly regretting that he did not confess earlier.
A friend learned of this incident to comfort Xiao Xiang, but Xiao Xiang said: "In fact, I know that even if I pluck up the courage to confess, I may fail, but failure is better than not daring to try, and there is at least no regret when I fail." ”
Each of us will have a timid time, facing an unfamiliar environment and challenges, facing people or things that make us nervous, we will feel afraid and dare not try.
To overcome timidity and make yourself brave, everyone needs to change.
Some people, because they are worried about not finding a better job after leaving their jobs, swallow their anger in the face of the unreasonable demands of their bosses and superiors; some people, because they are afraid of entrepreneurial failure, eat and wait for death in positions they don't like; some people, because they are afraid of failure and shame, do not do any new attempts and breakthroughs.
Most of these people are superficially stable, but they are not happy.
When people are young, they all like novel things, snacks they have never eaten, toys they have never seen before can make us happy, and the desire to try new things is better than the fear of failure.
In fact, almost everything worth doing in life requires bravery, not being afraid of failure, not being afraid of suffering.
In Brave Rather Than Perfect, a best-selling book on women's growth, Rashma Sajani, an inspirational woman, proposes several roles of bravery that affect everyone's life.
Love needs to be built on trust and closeness, and to be close to others, you need to reveal yourself more authentically.
However, the real self is flawed and imperfect. More often, we choose to hide ourselves like this, when we want to be loved, want to enjoy love and be loved, we need courage, reveal our true selves, open our hearts openly, in order to make interpersonal relationships truly intimate and stable.
"Courage can change all of our relationships, turning what was false and superficial into a sincere, natural, and real relationship." When we take off our masks and take off our mental defenses, we not only feel that the distance between people is getting closer, but also experience unprecedented ease.
Because our true hearts are liberated, because we live as our true selves, even if it is only for a short time, in front of those close to us, it is enough for us to release pressure, relieve uneasiness, and resurrect with blood at the gas station of love.
The fundamental reason for not being brave is the fear of failure, the fear of disappointing those close to you. This bravery comes from our pursuit of zero failure and zero shortcomings, but this state is impossible to achieve.
People who are not brave are very concerned about their failures and shortcomings, so they will also fall into anxiety. In addition to themselves, they are also harsh on the people around them, especially for their children.
Many parents are afraid that their children will fail in the future, so they prepare in advance, urge their children to study hard and work hard, and ask their children too high. However, this will not only deprive children of happiness, but also make parents exhausted.
If you can bravely give up those unrealistic expectations, do not expect their children to be excellent and excellent, or even perfect, parents can be tolerant enough to allow their children to be more authentic and do what they like to do.
This kind of tolerance is also true in oneself, giving up excessive requirements and accepting one's own shortcomings is truly brave and can also obtain real happiness.
No matter what kind of dream, the first step to realization is action, and action requires courage.
This kind of bravery can make us ignore whether this dream can be accepted by people, whether it is a "good choice" in people's eyes, but strive to complete it, without being disturbed by external voices, and moving forward.
Some people want to become executives, some people want to quit their jobs and start a business, some people want to become dancers and singers, some people suddenly want to run for a long time when they are more than half a hundred years old, and some people want to quit school and retake the exam in famous schools...
Bravery can always help us achieve our dreams, even if this dream is worthless in the eyes of others, bravery can also make us ignore this view and work hard for what we think is valuable.
There are always some bad things in life that we can't control.
It's possible to be unemployed, to lose a loved one, to face a health crisis – the reality is harsh and we can't avoid it.
However, when real difficulties come to us, bravery can withstand the blow.
It can be frustrating, sad, and even cruel, but at least we can face them head-on and hold on.
As Scarlett said in Gone with the Wind, "Tomorrow is a new day", this is the role of bravery.
"Bravery doesn't guarantee that everything will be satisfactory, but it allows us to stand firm in the face of life's setbacks and hardships and keep moving forward."
Bravery doesn't guarantee that everything will be satisfactory, but it does guarantee that even if we don't, we'll be fine. No matter what demons we face, bravery can make us stand firm and keep moving forward.
As Winston Churchill said, "Bravery is the first virtue of mankind because it makes all other virtues possible".
Every woman, in this cruel world, we must learn to live bravely, bravely accept ourselves, bravely face challenges, and bravely endure pain.
Only when a person is truly brave, there will be less regrets and more happiness in life.