BEIJING, Jan. 1 (Xinhua) -- No one ever doubts that "Dream of the Red Chamber" has written a lot of human nature: relatives calculate each other, brothers often have resentments, beautiful and pure love, and it is difficult to escape the impermanence of fate.
However, there is also the most common warmth here: Grandma Liu is sophisticated, but she knows how to repay and does her best to save Sister Qiao; Zi Juan is just a servant, but she always treats Lin Daiyu with sincerity, from small things to lifelong events, and tries her best to plan.
This is the most sincere friendship in the Grand View Garden, and the older I get, the more I understand its rarity.
Image source: Screenshot of the video of the 87th edition of "Dream of the Red Chamber"
One
When she first entered the Jia Mansion, Dai Yu brought two servants, one was a snow goose and the other was Wang Mama, who was extremely old. Later, Zi Juan was sent to Serve Daiyu.
Zi Juan quickly figured out Lin Daiyu's temperament, and also knew that her body was weak and sickly, and she must always pay more attention. She was diligent in her hands and feet, and took good care of Daiyu to the point of meticulousness.
Once, when it was snowing in winter, Dai Yu ran to Aunt Xue's residence and chatted with Bao Chao and Bao Yu. Snow Goose came to give Daiyu a small hand stove, "Sister Zijuan is afraid of the girl's cold, so I sent it." ”
If Dai Yu had a little temper and was too lazy to take the medicine, she would say a good word of consolation, "The cough is better, and I don't take the medicine again... Early in the morning, standing in this tide place for half a day, it is time to go back to rest and rest. ”
Occasionally Dai Yu and Shi Xiangyun jointly wrote poems in the Concave Crystal Pavilion, forgetting the hour, she and Cui Wei went all over the garden to look for it, "A garden has been traveled all over, even the aunt and wife have found it", but also worried that Dai Yu is weak, can not bear the wind cold and tossing.
Such careful companionship and care, some relatives may not be able to do it.
Two
Confucius once said, "Friendship is straight, friendly forgiveness, friendly is more heard, and beneficial." ”
For Daiyu, Zi Juan happened to be the outspoken friend. If Zi Juan's care for Dai Yu was only because of the master-servant relationship, then the advice between her words always revealed the warmth that only sisters have.
Because of poor communication, Dai Yu and Bao Yu had a fight, and later regretted it, and they were embarrassed to bow their heads first. Zi Juan discussed the matter and said that she was "too impetuous": Others don't know Baoyu's temper, don't we know? ”
Not only that, Zi Juan also dared to criticize Dai Yu and defend Bao Yu, "I see that he is good on the girl, because the girl is small, and she often has to distort him, so he is like this." ”
Bao Yu came to ask for peace, Dai Yu made the sex child not allowed to open the door, Zi Juan knew that she was "not in the same heart", and did not think anything of it, "The girl is not, such a hot day, the poisonous sun is underground, the sun has damaged him, how to make it?" As he spoke, he opened the door by himself.
By the way, he also ridiculed Daiyu with Baoyu, "The illness on the body is better, but the heart is not very good." ”
Or, Bao Yu and Dai Yu chatted and asked Zi Juan to pour tea, Dai Yu let Zi Juan scoop water for himself first, Zi Juan smiled, "He is a guest, naturally pour tea first, and then scoop water." "Talking, pouring tea and going."
Understanding and companionship are equally important. Many of Zi Juan's words and deeds exceeded the identity of the lady of that era, and she defended Dai Yu from the bottom of her heart, and also understood Dai Yu's kindness and reasoning, and concluded that Dai Yu would not be angry about it.
A true friend is the one who understands you, can see through your mind at a glance, and is willing to give the most sincere advice.
Three
Someone once said that there are three people in "Dream of the Red Chamber" who are really good to Daiyu, that is, Jia Mu, Baoyu and Zi Juan.
Needless to say, the first two were indeed Daiyu's relatives in the day after tomorrow, and they hoped that Daiyu would live a stable life. Otherwise, she would not have taken the risk of testing Baoyu's sincerity towards Daiyu and causing Baoyu to become seriously ill.
She understands the feelings between Bao Dai, and also sees the crux of the problem, a piece of sincere consideration for Dai Yu, "There are no parents on the top, no brothers on the bottom, who is the one who knows the pain and heat?" Early in the morning, the old lady also understood the tough season and made a big deal. ”
If it is said that Zi Juan has the so-called selfish heart, it is only worried that if Dai Yu is married far away, he and his family are here, and it may be inconvenient to follow. But if you don't go, and live up to the friendship of Su Ri, "for a moment, the two of us can't be separated."
Until the end, Dai Yu was seriously ill, and Zi Juan refused to participate in the "drop bag plan" and refused to please the family who was in charge; in the 87 version of "Dream of the Red Chamber", after Lin Daiyu died, she resigned to Bao Yu, "Second Master, I want to leave, go to the south, accompany Lin Girl." ”
Such a strong feeling also stems from Daiyu's attitude towards the Purple Crane. In the characters of "Dream of the Red Chamber", Dai Yu is often labeled as a "small sex" and "eccentric", but she has never posed the majesty of the master to the purple crane, nor has there been a hypocritical routine.
"Friendship is righteousness, not snobbery", which is probably the relationship between Daiyu and Purple Crane.
Four
Some time ago, there was a hot topic on the Internet about the character modeling of "Dream of the Red Chamber", and some people mentioned Zi Juan and Daiyu. Some people also lament that the book describes various complex human feelings, and their friendship can be regarded as a clear stream.
Everyone expects to have a companion and can not fight alone. But often you have to go through the ups and downs of the world, waiting for people to reach middle age, in order to understand the gold content of the word "sincerity" in the friendship relationship.
Icing on the cake is too easy, when the momentum is gained, no one will be stingy to say two more good words; it is rare to send charcoal in the snow, and when the momentum is lost, most people avoid it, and most of the people with slightly worse character will come to step on a foot, and then pick up the tall branches and fly away.
There is no distinction between nobility and inferiority, but there is a difference between good and bad in the heart. Putting aside interests, the feelings of thin water and long flow must ultimately be based on character. Years will screen out superficial acquaintances for everyone, and the last one left in life is a friend worth cherishing.
"Ten thousand gold is easy to get, but it is difficult to find a confidant." This phrase is used to describe true friendship, and perhaps appropriately. (End)