In the process of my work and life, I often see two people arguing for a thing, the work is fine (I have quarreled myself), at least there has been no thing to move my hands, but I have encountered several times in my life, according to the current public security punishment standards, basically people on both sides may have also entered.
Every time I go to understand the reason, there are always some trivial things, and these small things always cause big trouble in life, people often say take a step back and the sea and the sky, but every time they encounter these small things, they always can't control the impulsive emotions. I have a little personal summary for your reference
This has a lot to do with personality, and people who are prone to accumulation of negative emotions are particularly prone to form this personality. For example, I am a relatively easy to get excited person, negative emotions are easy to accumulate, and when I encounter contradictions, I am likely to explode in an instant, which is my weakness. But after getting married, I was very concerned about and hoped to change slowly, so I tried to maintain an optimistic attitude, specifically through exercise (by the way, exercise is really useful, whether it is running or swimming, you must need aerobic exercise), doing housework, taking the whole family out to play, reducing the time to play games and leaving time for children to play together, etc., gradually I found that my mentality has indeed changed a lot, it will be much softer. In the past, I quarreled with my wife for five minutes, and now the last quarrel was half a year ago... Usually, when I feel that there will be contradictions, I will remind myself to calmly coax the Lord not to reason [cover your face].
The heart is facing the sun, facing the sea, and the spring flowers are blooming
In particular, this way of improving emotions must be integrated into life, if you do not have a baby and no wife ([dog head] don't be afraid, there will be), then keep exercising, often decorate the home, go out to play and so on are all good ways, in short, you have to mention your love of life, to find more fun.
This is especially reflected in the working environment, we often encounter the Internet two big enemies quarrel scene, product manager and programmer tearing scene, although there has not been a case of hands-on, but there are still a few crying and arguing. The product manager has nothing to blame for everything from the user's point of view, and the programmer questions the real situation and rationality of the demand and the cost of implementation, etc. Do have their own thinking, quarrel, brick or have to move, and finally have to be mediated by the superior.
Speaking in another way, the product manager: "Dude, help me see my needs, users want to do this, but I think you may be too cumbersome to implement, is there any good suggestion?" 」 Brother programmer: "Brother, your design is very shiny, but there is a simpler solution for conventional operations in the industry, such as this?"" , feel completely different, don't talk too bluntly, don't use imperative tone, affirm others more, and then put forward your own opinions, sigh, Nice!
This is the next step, and it is not recommended until it is a last resort, but it is indeed the fastest way to resolve the current conflict [laugh and cry]. But you also need to pay attention to the way you speak, especially not saying, "Yes, listen to you, you are right." Don't let people perceive the negative emotions, otherwise in the long run, you will really lie flat in the workplace.
People who are not sages can be blameless, everyone has emotions, people who can control emotions can have a smooth ride in work and life, you are qualified to improve your communication skills, expand your circle of communication, and also increase your chances of success
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