Believe it or not: In real life, the more powerful people are, the more they often have these 3 kinds of "heart machines", which are destined to be the dragon and phoenix among people!
1, know how to spoil and not be alarmed
Life is a process of suffering, this view is not known how many people agree, but to seek development, we must "move forward steadily, modestly and cautiously, and not be insulted" which everyone cannot question. Because what is necessary for those who become great things is the composure of "Tarzan collapsed in front of him and the color remains unchanged".
The success of all those who achieve great things depends on the way they behave in the world. Once the results are achieved, they are excited, they show off their merits, and they can't stabilize their hearts at all, such a high-profile way of doing things is really not desirable. Truly wise people can be spoiled and not shocked, and even be able to hide their achievements and put the aura of success on the heads of others for the sake of Mingzhe' self-preservation.
In reality, there is such a situation: the merit is high. Since ancient times, people have paid great attention to this point, no matter what they do, they must keep their duties, and they must not monopolize honor and avoid high merit. Otherwise, it will cause resentment from others at worst, and it will cause unpredictable disasters. There are many such cases in history, and those who can not show off and enjoy the honor at key moments can all retreat and have a good ending.
There is an old saying: "If the six horses of the decaying rope are harnessed, the chestnut is afraid, and if it falls into the abyss." "It is to tell people not to be proud of their achievements, but to learn not to be insulted." When you become famous, you must stabilize your heart, be able to appropriately distribute the glory to others, and even for the sake of Mingzhe's self-preservation, it is also a good idea to retire after success.
2, know how to give face to others
Learning to "save face for others" is half the battle. When disagreeing with others, try to use a sentence that says, "That's the way it is!" You're right, and I often make mistakes about it, but thanks to your reminder this time, I won't make the same mistake. Ah, in my opinion, this is the most ideal result. "When you apply these terms to people, others will be grateful to you while saving face.
In real life, many people have learned the pain of arguing with people, as the saying goes: "Eat a trench, grow a wisdom." "Be sure to pay attention to this when dealing with people. If you want to behave smarter than others, don't deliberately show your eloquence to the other party, and don't trample on the dignity of others at will, and save enough face for others in public, which is a hundred times better than dying to face yourself. Know that avoiding arguments wins favors.
3, understand the small things to pretend to be confused
To be a person, we must learn to be "confused", be generous to others, and win the expectations of the public.
The famous general Wu Qi was very prestigious among the soldiers, and the soldiers were willing to be born and die for him. One of the important reasons is that Wu Qi can ignore the identity of the general, the suffering of the soldiers, and the happiness of the soldiers. He wore the same clothes as the soldiers, ate the same food, slept without a bunk, and prepared his own food when marching. Once, a soldier was suffering from a tumor in front of the battle. After Wu Qi saw it, he did not hesitate to suck out the pus juice in the tumor for him with his mouth. The soldier and those around him were moved. The soldier's mother cried bitterly when she heard the news.
Everyone else asked her strangely: "Your son is just an ordinary soldier, but General Wu personally sucked pus on him with his mouth. Why is it so sad? The mother replied: "In his early years, the former husband also gave up on General MengWu, sucking the pus in his tumor, and since then he has followed General Wu around to fight in order to repay General Wu's favor, and finally died on the battlefield." Now that General Wu has sucked out pus for my son, doesn't this show that my son will repeat his father's fate? How can I not be sad about this? ”
From this example, we can see that if we, as leaders, can always be confused about their own identity, serve people with virtue, and put people first everywhere, they can make a wide range of popularity and naturally gather people around themselves.
In short, it is not necessary to act in the world in detail, big things are not confused, small things are confused, and it is good for people and themselves.