Man begins to forget before he leaves this world. Sooner or later, more or less.
Because my mother-in-law was hospitalized, my father-in-law was going to stay with me, and he handed me the keys to the house. An hour later, my father-in-law called, my key is missing, is it not given to you?
Tell your father-in-law the medicine given by the doctor, twice a day, two tablets at a time. Half an hour later, I came home and got a call from my father-in-law: How did I get this medicine?
Friend Lao Liu came to visit his mother-in-law who was hospitalized, and his father-in-law looked at the familiar face that came to visit them every year, but he was confused in his enthusiasm, and asked him if he knew who it was, and his father-in-law shook his head and said: I don't know.
It's too hard to remember, too long to forget.
It's always easy for my father-in-law to forget what's going on in front of him, and no matter how important it is for you to tell him, how many times you tell him, it's hard for him to remember.
His memory was only half an hour, and he called over and over again, not to tell us about his forgetting, but to remember it.
People with Alzheimer's disease, although they can't remember the things in front of them, they often remember the distant past very well.
Every time he talked about his father-in-law's experience of going through the village to do small business when he was young, his father-in-law would tell him in detail how he suffered and how to make money. It was as if those things had happened yesterday.
When I came home the other day, my wife saw a worn-out hat hanging on the wall and was about to throw it, but she was stopped by my father-in-law, which I wore when I was married, and it has been 50 years, but I can't throw it away.
In the book "Remembrance of The Age of Water", it is written that time seems to have completely disappeared, but in fact, it is merging with our body.
It is true, 50 years, but 50 years ago, it seems that things have become part of my father-in-law's body. No matter how forgetful he was, no matter how severe Alzheimer's disease was, those distant things were close to his eyes and enduring.
Memories are too far away, forgotten too long.
Huang Bo, who is also a Native of Shandong, once talked about his father, once came home, saw his father politely invited him to drink tea, he felt a little strange, but the next moment his father said a sentence, let him suddenly chill and heartache.
The father said, "Isn't this my old comrade-in-arms?" ”
It turned out that his father did not remember him anymore, and his father did not even remember that he had a son.
Companionship is too short, forgetting is too long.
For the rest of his life, Huang Bo was deeply immersed in the disappointment of being forgotten by his father. When Huang Bo told Shu Qi about his personal experience under the camera, the tears in the corners of his eyes had quietly slipped down.
My father-in-law's forgetting had only begun in the last three years, and it was getting worse. The wife was afraid of facing the same situation as Huang Bo, so she often tapped her father-in-law's memory: Dad, will you not recognize me in the future?
My father-in-law laughed disapprovingly: How can I not remember you!
The poet Xu Zhimo wrote:
Legend has it that the fish's memory is only 7 seconds, and after seven seconds, it does not remember the past events. So, in the small fish tank, it doesn't feel bored. Because after 7 seconds, every inch of the place that swims through has become a new world... It keeps reincarnating for those 7 seconds. Not for the sake of forgetting, but for the sake of remembering.