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What is most important for people in society, some say it is dignity, others say it is money. If one day you don't even have money, you will find that you will lose all your dignity.
Just like an old Chinese saying that "people are poor and short-minded", from a psychological point of view, when a person is short of money, he is often limited by his own thinking.
When a person has no money, his mind will involuntarily worry about life, set limits for himself every day, lack of long-term consideration, not to mention what planning for future life.
Once a person is short of money, they have to bow their heads for life. He has lost his independent personality, has to live under the oppression of the company leaders every day, and struggles for his family, the reality is that the poor who have no money are not qualified to talk about "dignity".
Voyeuristic psychology
There is a concept in psychology, "Peeping psychology," which refers to a person who is missing something and involuntarily focuses his attention on these things.
People with this kind of psychology lack the overall situation, there is no pattern in talking and doing things, their vision is limited, they only pay attention to their current situation, and they do not consider the development and layout of things.
Poverty forces you to work every day just to make ends meet, not to improve your abilities. In the future life, personal development is stagnant, and it is difficult to make great achievements.
This is the reason why many people spend their days in such a muddy nightmare and still cannot get rid of poverty. Therefore, when people say that poverty is difficult to cure, they mean that the heart cannot be changed.
A successful and promising entrepreneur once said that a person's delusional desire to talk about love and ideals when he has no money is actually empty talk.
Although making money is not the starting point for people to pursue their ideals, all the struggle and effort without money will become worthless.
Just like in the excellent foreign movie "The Wolf of Wall Street", the life experience of the male protagonist Jordan has left a deep impression on people.
Jordan valued money very much in his youth and even made making money a hobby. In order to continue to gain more wealth, he let himself come to the legendary Wall Street and learn from the successful stockbrokers.
His starting point was not high, and his initial job was only the lowest level of a company. But he worked very hard and used every opportunity to learn and improve his professional ability.
He continued to hone his eloquence after work, learning to speak and making himself passionate about the job.
He used all his fragmented time to obtain an agent certificate, and even learned hooliganism with some people, making himself a small success. He then left the company and set up a company in his garage by contacting customers.
He doesn't give up on every potential customer, and he even makes stockbrokers for some people who sell contraband, helping them choose stocks for earnings.
He works hard day and night, works steadily and carefully, and has a keen eye in the stock industry.
In the end, with superb professional skills in exchange for the reputation of customers, more and more people came to Jordan as their own stockbroker. Little by little, he has made the company's business bigger, and he has become a well-known stockbroker in the industry.
After becoming famous, many young people came to him and followed him to learn how to be an agent. So Jordan began leading his own team, training the group to become professional brokers, and instructing clients on how to buy stocks for profit.
Jordan thus truly achieved wealth freedom. But after the success, he did not stop, he embarked on the road of breaking the law, and Jordan, who made huge profits by manipulating the stock market, was finally arrested.
Although Jordan's last move was illegal, his success was by no means accidental. His sentence was recognized by everyone: "It is not glorious to be poor."
After a person has no money, he will lose self-confidence and be trapped by the trivialities of life. People around them will also stay away from themselves and will not get the respect they deserve. If they lose their dignity, they are also afraid to interact and communicate with others, and lack recognition of self-worth.
The theory of social exchange
Social exchange theory (Social exchange theory) holds that people in social interaction activities, will subconsciously approach successful people or rich people.
This is also the behavior of people to follow social exchange, simply put, people's interactions will measure each other's interests and losses, so as to effectively socialize in the social circle they have set.
The "reward" mentioned here refers to the benefits that people can get through social networking, or things that are valuable to themselves, such as obtaining resources or harvesting love.
Through the explanation of "reward", people can better understand the theory of social interaction. Why do those people flock to the rich and powerful and despise some of the poor? Because they know that once they run out of money one day, they will lose all their dignity.
So the most terrible thing is not poverty, but to fall into the poor mode of thinking and lose initiative. Therefore, in social life, people always have to look forward, look at the long term, and enlarge the pattern.
No matter how busy the work is, you must take time to continuously improve yourself and make yourself more competitive, in order to develop better in the future.
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Author | Tommy
The First Psychological Writing Group | A group of young people who like to look up at the stars
参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205