01.
Have you ever heard: Murphy's Law.
Sometimes, the more you want something, the more you won't get it.
And those outcomes you don't want, no matter how low the probability, can happen.
Such psychological hints are not uncommon in the topic of emotions.
When a person gradually matures and begins to understand love;
Whether it is the juvenile age of youth and madness, or the old age period that is close to sunset, it is possible to fall into love.
But as people often say: there are nine sorrows about love.
Being able to look at each other and be happy with a lifetime of love is really rare in life.
Those lovers who miss out often become the existence that people want to forget, but can never forget.
Many people say that the best way to forget a person is:
It is to cut off the connection between each other.
Then throw yourself into time and wait for the wound to heal.
But the more this is the case, the more the other party will be immersed in the years, for a long time.
The best way to forget a person is not to break the connection, but to "gather and disperse".
02.
"Good dispersion" is solemnity for both sides.
The scene that determines the fate of the fate has a thousand different looks.
But they have one thing in common;
That is, you have decided that you will part ways from now on.
No matter what has happened between you, how much love you have loved each other;
Or, how much guilt there has been, it's all a thing of the past.
From now on, you belong to two separate individuals.
Your life has gone through intersection and begun to prepare to step into a life that is no longer entangled.
The past experience will become a memory precipitated in the years with the passage of time.
Maybe it's beautiful, it's gray, but it doesn't matter.
Say goodbye well, not just to him.
Even more to that, the self that I once loved deeply.
I remember that in the movie "Thirty-three Days of Lost Love", Huang Xiaoxian had a car chase scene.
At that time, she had already broken up with her boyfriend Lu Ran for a while.
In addition to her grief, she felt that in those past days, she was not right.
So she wanted to get back to the other side.
Say sorry to the other person, want the other person to give him another chance, and want to start over.
But under Wang Xiaojian's slap, she was awake.
Her monologue changed.
She said that from now on, she still had to live like this.
And it was after that that she began to face life seriously and got back on track.
Sometimes, you can't forget the other person.
It's just that you're missing a solemn "goodbye."
This farewell is not for the other party, but with the deeply loved self, solemnly waving.
Tell your heart: I'm really ready to leave.
03.
Bow your head and tidy up your life.
No matter what happens in life, people always have to look up and walk forward.
In the face of the departure of love, people will always have a period of time, falling into addiction.
This is not a bad thing.
After all, the other person is the person you once thought would be with you for the rest of your life.
You have loved so much that you cry hysterically.
But life, in the final analysis, is to move forward.
Your life is not only the love of your children, but also your own, poetry and far away.
After saying goodbye, organize yourself and move on with your life.
After saying goodbye to Lu Ran, Huang Xiaoxian moved out of the apartment full of memories.
Pack your bags, pack them, and seal them one by one.
Then follow the vehicle into another empty space.
In this process, Huang Xiaoxian's mentality is also slowly changing.
In the days that followed, Huang Xiaoxian slowly walked out, and she moved into a brand new home.
It also finally ushered in its own, new love.
It was ushered in, the Wang Xiaojian who was always standing behind him.
To organize your life is to pack up your past self.
Rearrange and generalize, and then better prepare for the future of life.
When a person is just immersed in the past, how can he talk about coming out.
This is not something that can be solved by disconnecting.
Because what you really can't let go of may not be the lover who has left.
It's the one, full of the other person's self.
04.
Look up for the next day's rising sun.
Love is like life.
You can watch the day and the moon set with the same person.
And after the other party leaves, you will still have the next person to accompany you to watch the stars in the sky.
The pain of the present is to regret the past.
But tomorrow's sun will still appear on time and illuminate your life.
So, without hesitation, you will always encounter the next light.
In the face of love, people always want to grasp something.
It seems that only by holding it tightly in your hand will the other party not leave.
But don't forget, the cause and effect of dependent arising and dissipation, in addition to a part of you, there is also the existence of the other party.
When in love, loving well is the best solution to this relationship.
And all we can decide is ourselves.
If you want to forget a person, don't break the connection with your mind, it will only throw yourself in the past.
Straighten your chest and "get together and disperse" with the past.
Solemnly, say goodbye to your past self.
At the same time, also look up, to the future, say hello.
Beautiful, just ahead, never left.