Of all moral qualities, the good nature is most needed in the world— Russell
In ancient times, women were subjected
restraint
Beyond the imagination of many people, three from four virtues, they are forever bound to the fence erected by others, they want to break free and cannot do it, and their lives are miserable and rarely fair. The talent of the Qing Dynasty
Shi Han
I once married my widowed sister-in-law because there was no travel fee for the exam, but no one escaped the cycle of cause and effect in the world.
1. The situation of women
In ancient times, for widowed women, their choices can be said to be very few. In general, widowed women are divided into two categories.
The first category is that if the husband unfortunately dies, then the widowed wife will choose to remain celibate,
Never marry again for life
。 After spending the remaining decades of their lives alone, the widowed women died alone. After their deaths, the local government erected a memorial arch for them to pay tribute to their virginity. Not only that, but they will be praised by the locals and praised by the imperial court. That is, women who choose to keep the festival after the death of their husbands are rewarded in all aspects.
Therefore, this is also a behavior that the whole society promotes, and at the same time, it is also a choice made by most women.
And this second type is a more open-minded woman, who will always be only their own master, never afraid of other people's eyes and rumors. After the death of their husbands, these women will keep filial piety for their husbands for 3 years, after which they will choose
remarry,
Start a new marriage. In this way, the widowed women also have a new dependence. However, in ancient times, such behavior was mostly criticized by people, because in the eyes of the world, these women lost their chastity and femininity.
2. Special circumstances
In fact, in addition to the above two kinds of women's behavior, there is another special situation, but the above two are the woman's own choices, and in this special case, the woman can only be like
commodity
It is the same as being bought and sold arbitrarily.
This is the case where if the husband of a married woman dies and the woman herself wants to remain widowed for the rest of her life and never marry, they will remain in her husband's home until she is old. But at this time, there will be people from the woman's husband's family who will come out and obstruct it, because the person who will marry the woman out of the husband's family can get it
advantage
Therefore, some women will be forced to remarry, which is seriously contrary to their desire to keep the festival for their husbands for life.
3. Qing Dynasty Talents
During the Qing Dynasty, such a thing happened when the husband's family forced the woman to remarry.
During the Kangxi Dynasty, there was a Xiucai in Zhejiang named Shi Han. At that time, it was just in time for the Xiucai exam, and if Shi Han wanted to get a meritorious name, he had to go to the provincial capital to take the township exam. Helplessly, Shi Han's family was very poor, and even eating and wearing warm food became a problem, let alone collecting the cost of the road to the provincial city.
However, missing this opportunity, Shi Han had to wait for several years, because of the problem of money, he really had a headache.
However, by an unexpected opportunity, Shi Han suddenly remembered that he also had a widowed aunt in his family. As a result, Shi Han had an idea in his heart.
It turned out that Shi Han regarded his aunt as a cash cow. The uncle has long passed away, in order to protect the virginity, the aunt has always chosen not to marry, but the uncle was still very young when he died, and the aunt is naturally beautiful.
And such an age-appropriate woman could sell for a good price at that time.
Shi Han told his father his idea, and instead of speaking for his sister-in-law, his father strongly approved of Shi Han's idea, because only in this way could Shi Han have a glimmer of life in winning the name. Therefore, for the sake of his son, Shi Han's father secretly found a matchmaker for his sister-in-law, and when his sister-in-law did not agree,
He took matters into his own hands and married his sister-in-law to a farmer.
At that time, if a widow got married, both the widow's relatives and friends and neighbors could get money, and Shi Han was naturally among them. He married his aunt and got it
Five twos
Silver, therefore, Shi Han made up enough money to go to the provincial city for the exam.
However, this was a serious violation of his sister-in-law's wishes, but Shi Han couldn't manage so much, and the only belief in his heart was that he must get the money.
Fourth, the causal cycle
After getting five or two pieces of silver, Shi Han rented a boat to go, because his silver was not enough to afford to buy a bookboy, so he took his wife with him, so that it would not cost too much to take care of him. However, something strange happened.
Soon after boarding the ship, Shi Han's wife was invincible
Heartlessness
。 In desperation, Shi Han could only temporarily abandon his plan to go to the provincial capital, and he took his wife home and found a doctor to treat her. With this toss, Shi Han had already spent 2 taels of silver. Shi Han couldn't wait any longer, so he left his sick wife at home to take the exam by himself.
Finally, Shi Han came to the Gongyuan to take the exam, but after the process of the exam, Shi Han suddenly felt very tired, he
drowsy
, actually had a dream. In this dream, Shi Han met his uncle who had passed away for a long time, and his uncle scolded him and was very angry. Shi Han woke up from the dream, and has been restless since then, so he did not have the heart to take the exam, only wrote a few words and handed in the paper, the result was natural
Failed
finish.
After returning home, Shi Han had been haunted by the dream in the examination room, he was very scared, and he had been worried. As a result, Shi Han suffered from mental weakness and could not sleep all night. Even though he fell asleep, Shi Han still woke up from the nightmare and never dared to fall asleep again. Shi Han had also asked several doctors to treat him, but every time
Nothing improved
。
In order to cure Shi Han's illness, Shi Han's father took him out in a small boat to find a famous doctor, but on the way the boat was traveling, there was a strong wind on the sea, the ship lost control, and Both Shi Han and his father were buried in the sea.
In this way, Shi Han's wife also became a widow, and she originally wanted to observe the festival for Shi Han and never marry for life, but she did not expect that Shi Han's people would also forcibly force her
Sold
Just as Shi Han forcibly married his aunt.
In this way, everything in the world cannot escape
causally
Two words. It is not false that Shi Han forcibly married his aunt, and it is not false that he obtained the silver, but it is also true that Shi Han did not achieve his goal. Because he had done something wrong, Shi Han had always been very afraid, uneasy in his heart, and people with unstable hearts naturally could not do anything, including taking the meritorious name.
In the end, Shi Han still paid the due price for his original behavior, the ship sank into the sea and was buried in the belly of the fish, perhaps, Shi Han's fate should be so. However, the fate of Shi Han's wife is also the same as the fate of Shi Han's aunt, just for the sake of fly head xiao profit, the clan forced her to remarry someone else, perhaps, the fate of Shi Han's wife is to atone for Shi Han's sins, and at the same time, it is also a repayment for Shi Han's aunt.