She finally reconciled with herself, which is very good
Presumably Adele is familiar to everyone?
After 6 years in the music scene, she finally reopened her business and released a new album "30".
Insert: According to foreign media reports, Taylor Swift's record company learned of the release of Adele's new album and quickly advanced the release date of the re-recorded version of her "Red" to avoid colliding with Adele's album.
Back to the main topic, the debut song of the new album "30", "Easy on me", was released less than 4 hours ago, ranking first in the new song charts of mainstream music media such as iTunes and Spotify.
In addition to the impressive achievements, this song is also given the meaning of reconstructing the relationship with herself across time and space by Adele.
As she sings, "I used to think about your feelings and change my true self, but now I don't want to do that anymore." ”
In the MV, Adele drives away alone in a dashing and handsome manner, along the way she meets a happy family, a sweet newlywed... The black-and-white shot symbolizes that she is sorting through these lost pasts.
After that, the camera changes from black and white to color, and she gently tells her inner feelings.
In five and a half minutes, from black and white to color, from lost to calm, it presents the process of a girl reinventing herself.
More than ten years after her debut, Adele has won 15 Grammy Awards, 8 Brit Awards, 4 American Music Awards, 1 Golden Globe Award, 1 Academy Award...
In short, others are attending the awards ceremony, she is visiting the music awards wholesale market.
But behind becoming the top stream is a love life like "heaven and hell turning back", because the vocal cords are damaged and almost ruined, the malicious speculation of the network after 90 pounds of weight, the abandonment and utilization of the father, the sky-high breakup fee of 700 million...
Everything was painful enough, but every time she broke through.
Adele once said publicly at the Grammy Awards: "I don't love my father at all." “
Indeed, she had a terrible father.
In Adele's memory, her father was an alcoholic who drank two liters of vodka every day, in addition to frequent domestic violence against her mother.
Such days finally ended when Adele was 2 years old, because her father abandoned her and her mother.
The lack of a father role in the process of growing up made her always long to be loved, and also affected Adele's future intimate relationships.
At the age of 18, Adele met her first love boyfriend.
For love, she attends concerts everywhere to earn money to hold art exhibitions for her boyfriend, buy clothes and shoes...
But in the end, she exchanged the first love's split leg betrayal, and also insulted her as a "fat pig".
At the age of 20, she met her second boyfriend, Ned, who was 10 years older than her.
Unlike first love, Patience is gentle and considerate. For example, when Adele eats junk food and damages her vocal cords, Ned prepares a healthy meal for her.
But this meticulous boyfriend suddenly proposed to break up after a year, and immediately after the breakup, he was engaged to a new partner.
The poor emotional life seems to have taken a turn for the worse at the age of 23, as she meets Simon, an aristocratic gentleman who is 14 years her senior.
When the two are together, Adele's vocal cords have a problem, and her career is once shut down, and it is Simon who accompanies her all the time, taking her to see the best doctor and being her spiritual support.
In 2016, to celebrate the five-year anniversary of the two together, Simon meticulously prepared colorful notes at Adele's concert and wrote love words on them.
The man was extremely gentle, as if to cure Adele's childhood emotional lack.
Because of this, at the peak of her career, Adele did not hesitate to choose her feelings, and the two had their love crystallization in the second year of their relationship, and at the music awards ceremony, Adele would be happy enough to kiss Simon in public.
The marriage that outsiders seems to be happy and happy ends in divorce.
From meeting her first love at age 18 to divorcing at age 30, Adele has been looking for security, but every time she gets love, she loses it again, like going back and forth between heaven and hell.
But after the pain, always learn to heal yourself.
Thankfully, Adele had a mother who loved her very much.
After being abandoned by her father, her mother took her to live alone.
In order to create a good environment for Adele to grow up, her mother went around working without complaint and was willing to try no matter what kind of work.
In addition, her mother also inspired her musical talent.
Adele's mother, an art student when she was young, would share her favorite musical works with Adele and support her daughter's musical hobbies.
For example, she would invite neighbors to her house to give Adele a "concert" and encourage her to show her hobbies.
Perhaps it is because of her mother's strength and love for her that Adele is willing to believe in love in the days to come, and bravely walk through those pains.
"The people I've had the privilege of meeting are miracles in my world."
After being insulted by her first love, Adele had a period of living on alcohol and grief, but in the end she decided to put the past down and look forward.
As sung in "Chasing Pavement" on the album "19":
"I have made up my mind that I don't want to think pointlessly, rightly or wrongly, and I don't want to be tied to a hopeless future."
Of course, the album "19" sold 9 million sales just after its release, and the next year it beat the big names Katy Perry and Pink to win the Grammys for "Best Newcomer" and "Best Female Singer".
After the second boyfriend proposed to break up, Adele had resentment and despair towards her ex, and sentimentality about the loss of love...
In the end, the emotion of lost love turned into music with alcohol and expressed through the album "21".
Among them, "Someone Like You" is her sadness about the lost love when she learns that her ex-boyfriend is about to get married, and "Rolling In The Deep" is a battle song after getting rid of defeat.
At the same time, the album pushed her to the pinnacle of her career.
After the album was released, it topped the music charts in several countries, and in 2012, it won 6 awards for the album "wholesale".
Later, speaking about this experience, Adele said that it was her mother's love and companionship that put her back together.
In her happy life with her ex-husband Simon, Adele once expressed her reconciliation with the past through the album "25", but after that she disappeared.
It wasn't until 2019 that Adele suddenly announced that she was divorced.
The 7-year relationship with her ex-husband doomed this breakup to bring her an even bigger blow.
Indeed, after the divorce, Adele suffered from a severe anxiety disorder, so she tried various methods such as psychological counseling and meditation, but with little effect.
Eventually, she discovered that the sense of strength that exercise brought to her could give her a sense of ease and freedom from anxiety.
"If I can make my body stronger, then one day I can also make my emotions and thoughts stronger."
To this end, she also changed her diet, although there is no diet, but eat healthier.
It was also in this process that Adele began to examine her relationship with herself and think about what she wanted.
"I used to rely on the sense of security that comes with immutableness, but three years ago I threw myself into a labyrinth of inner chaos.
Along the way, I learned a lot about myself and found a healthy and effective mindset to guide my life, and I felt like I had finally found myself. “
Yes, she found herself again.
If you've seen Adele's recent interviews, you'll see that she's become more independent, powerful, and intelligent.
She has tasted all the hardships in her feelings, and she still has no disappointment in life.
This year she began to fall in love again, although she did not know whether this relationship would accompany her to old age, but the sheep knew that Adele was very happy now.
In addition, Adele at the beginning of her debut was very plump, and she suffered insults from her first love and heard a lot of ridicule.
But she didn't think so, and even replied domineeringly: "You are here to listen to the old woman singing, not to see the old woman walk the catwalk." “
And when she lost weight, some people dissed her "in order to cater to the mainstream betrayed plus-size groups", "after losing weight and getting old and ugly", "no features at all".
But Adele lost weight not to cater to anything, but for her own health.
In the face of the outside world's judgment of her body, Adele said:
"I wasn't shocked, I wasn't even impressed. Because throughout my career, my body has been objectified. People used to say I was too fat, and then they said I was too thin; some people said I was beautiful, and some people said I wasn't good looking, but I never judged a person because of my body.
I don't need to take responsibility for how others feel about their body, and if someone feels bad about their body because I've lost weight then I'm sorry, but that's not my job. I'm trying to live my life well, and I can't worry about myself anymore. "
Looking back at the life she has walked, it is full of growing pains, but it also responds to the sentence "If you can't kill me, it will only make me stronger."
Today, at the age of 33, she has a career and wealth that is difficult for ordinary people to achieve, as well as a better future.
Perhaps many people envy her for having enough money and time to heal her grief and get out of trouble.
But maybe we can look at it the other way around.
It is precisely because she healed herself bravely and strongly that she gained the wealth of life.