Recently, seeing the hot search of Zhang Zifeng and Yan Xujia suspected of being in love, my feelings are complicated.
That feeling is like seeing Ma Sichun and Zhang Manle in love, and a lot of question marks flash in his head; and like seeing Guo Caijie's boyfriend being exposed, there are a lot of dirty words in his heart that he doesn't know whether to say or not.
However, I also understand that even if I don't understand their love choices, I have no right to interfere with other people's love freedom.
After all, this is not a problem that we melon-eating masses should worry about. They have money and resources, and they are more beautiful than us, even if they are really "deceived", it is much easier for them to start all over again than us.
But that's them. For us ordinary people, we don't have as much trial and error costs as they do. In real life, having a relationship with a "scumbag" is not a cool thing, and sometimes it even pays a heavy price.
Netflix's new documentary about love fraud, "Tinder Scam King", tells such a story - they fall in love with scumbags, and they are all covered in bruises.
Zhang Zifeng and Ma Sichun don't need us to care, their world is different from ours, but I still want to take advantage of the heat of everyone's discussion about "whether I should fall in love with scumbags" (it doesn't matter if I say I am rubbing heat), Amway's documentary about scumbags.
In the film, we can see the truth behind many love scams.
Are all stupid women with "love brains"?
"Tinder Scam King" is about Simon, an emotional con artist who is active in the dating software Tinder. Simon is on Tinder and is ostensibly a "handsome, goldy" diamond family rich man. In fact, he not only fell in love with many women at the same time, but also cheated them out of their money. Over the years, he has defrauded tens of millions of dollars.
Yes, this is actually a foreign "pig killing plate" story. Such a routine, everyone should be very familiar, why are so many people still deceived? And those who are deceived are "silly and stupid love brains"?
The truth may be exactly the opposite of what we think.
Tinder Scam King tells Simon's story from the perspective of three female victims. Their appearances shattered our past assumptions about victims.
First of all, they are not stupid, and they are all women with no low education.
The first woman to tell the story, Cecily, 29, Norwegian, graduated from the University of London with a master's degree and is currently working as an information technology consultant in London.
She is sweet-looking, outgoing, and claims to be a Tinder expert who has been playing Tinder for 7 years.
The other client, Penella, 31, lives in Sweden and has been independent since childhood.
She said she didn't want to find someone to take care of herself, but rather a man with whom she could share her life.
The third is Irene, a Dutch girl working in the luxury industry.
Honestly, all three girls are in pretty good shape: good looking and well-paid. Why did you fall into Simon's trap?
Because the cheater scumbag really provides the emotional value that women need.
Like Cecily, she is a girl who longs for love. Growing up watching Disney, she loved the story of "Beauty and the Beast". Because the heroine Belle, like her, is a girl from a small town. She also looks forward to meeting her prince and taking her into a completely different life, just like Belle.
Simon in front of her gave her such an imagination.
The first time we met was in the café of the Four Seasons Hotel. Simon tells Cecily that he is the president of the LLD company and that his father is the diamond king Leviev. (Of course this is his fake identity)
He was divorced. The daughter lives in London with her mother, and this time he came to accompany her.
Next, Simon said he was going on a business trip to Bulgaria and asked Cecily if she would like to go with her on her private jet.
Wow, in Cecily's eyes, it was a romantic adventure. Although Cecily's girlfriends reminded her on the group that it was likely to be catty, Cecily still got on the plane without hesitation.
On the plane, Cecily also met Simon's team as well as "daughter" and "ex-wife". The "ex-wife" told her that Simon was a good man and had taken on the responsibility of raising him when he was separated. With other certifications, Cecilia was more at ease with Simon.
Then, in the evening, they spend the night together at the hotel.
In bed, Cecilia saw the scar on Simon's back. Simon told her that he had been in jail for betrayal by his peers when he had previously made deals in South Africa and that he was innocent.
Simon's experience in prison not only did not scare Cecily away, but it fascinated her even more. This seemingly perfect man actually has such a fragile side. "He's the kind of person I want to save."
For Cecily, who has a Disney complex, Simon is the "prince" of her life: handsome, rich, romantic, and with a sense of vulnerability. He was so special, and he needed her.
Simon blinded Cecily with his romantic life.
Against Peña, he used a different approach.
Peñella is a girl with a personality, and she likes people who can share the spiritual world.
Simon showed a gentlemanly, elegant, and erudite side in front of Penella.
At the dinner table, he asked Petella many questions and listened carefully, making Hernella feel respected.
Penella felt that there was a little less romantic spark between her and Simon, as if it was not suitable for love.
Simon said, it's okay, then we'll get along as friends.
He still messaged Andeira every day and chatted with her. When Penella was unhappy, Simon would comfort her. At one point, Simon flew to The City of Penella just to accompany her over a cup of coffee.
Wow, what a sweet friend. For Penella, such a "comfortable" relationship is more precious than boyfriend and girlfriend.
As for the part with Irene, a Dutch girl, Simon spent 14 months "seriously", making the other party think that they were all going to enter the step of starting a family.
So, it's not just the ignorant who get cheated. Everyone has a lonely, lonely time, especially women, the emotional need is very high. There is nothing wrong with living alone and wanting to be resonated and comforted by others, but who would have thought that this would become a weakness used by scammers.
Previously, in the "pig killing plate" related topic of our interview program "Talking to Strangers", the interviewee said that it is often Kochi women who are deceived, because they feel that they can conquer this man, they need emotional connection more, "they believe in love more."
It's okay to cheat on feelings, it's okay to cheat me about money?
When these women step by step into Simon's emotional trap and develop a sense of trust in him, Simon begins his next step - to cheat money.
At this time, many people will definitely think of Yang Kasa's golden sentence: "It is okay to cheat feelings, but you can't cheat me of money." ”
The golden sentence is a golden sentence, and it really makes sense. But when you're in love, can you really be that sane?
Cecily was tricked into saying that late one night, she received a text message from Simon. Simon posted a photo of the bouncer's head smashed and a video of the two at the hospital. Cecily was nervous and asked what was going on. Simon said that the diamond business was taken in by the enemy, who wanted to threaten them.
The next day, Simon sent Cecily a voice message saying he couldn't use his credit card now. Because the enemy may follow him based on his swipe information.
Simon asked Cecily if she could borrow her credit card for two weeks.
For two weeks, of course, no problem, Simon trusted her so much that he sent her all the information about his life, and of course she had to support her boyfriend.
In the beginning, it was credit cards.
Simon then asked Cecily to bring $25,000 in cash to Amsterdam to give it to him.
Cecily asked: Why so much money, and it's cash? Simon said he was afraid of being followed. For her boyfriend, Cecily could only take out a loan and scraped together the 25,000.
With this huge amount of cash, Cecily finally met Simon. Cecily thought the nightmare was coming to an end. But who knew that what would greet her was an even more terrible future.
Simon receives a phone call from a bodyguard in Amsterdam, telling him that he has been spotted by the enemy again and must leave immediately. Picking up the cash, he could only hurry up and say goodbye to Cecily.
Seeing her lover in danger, Cecily certainly couldn't see death and not save her. Moreover, Cecily did not believe that the man who picked her up on the first day of meeting and took her on a private jet would not be able to pay back the money.
Next, she borrowed more money to Simon, kept opening new credit cards, and kept borrowing loans.
During this time, in order to stabilize Cecily, Simon wrote her a check, and the amount of the check was enough to pay off the previous debt.
But in reality, it was just a "blank check" and Cecily was slow to receive the money. In the end, Cecily, who owed $250,000 in desperation, had to confess to the bank that the money was spent by her boyfriend. The bank looked at the picture that Cecily had shown and said, "This man again." Cecily realized she might have been deceived.
And what did Simon borrow Cecily's money for? It was originally used to party with Peñella.
After a tense "being stalked" scene with Cecily in Amsterdam, Simon rushes to Stockholm, where Peregrine is.
He has a party there, he takes Peñella on a tour, and introduces his new "girlfriend" to Peña.
With Simon, Penella had a very pleasant holiday, and her affection for this good friend reached its peak.
Then Simon repeated the trick.
He "sold misery" with Penella, who already trusted him completely. He and Penella said his family was caught up in a diamond smuggling case and that his father was under investigation.
A few days later, he sent Peñera a picture of her bodyguard injured, yes, the exact same picture as Cecily's. "I was tracked." "I need thirty thousand dollars."
After much struggle, Peñella decided to lend her best friend Simon the savings she had wanted to use to buy an apartment.
Then, a similar story followed.
He asked her to borrow money, and she saw that he had pitifully lent it to him, and he used the money to continue spending time with another girlfriend/the next victim.
Simon is constantly using the kindness and sincerity of these girls to pay for his luxurious life.
△ The reporter who reported on this feature said that this is a Ponzi scheme, Simon cheated A's money, spent on B's body, and then spent B's money on C, so that his fake life can last forever.
In order to defraud Cecilia of money, Simon spent a month running his own princely setup. In order to win Penella's trust, he asked her to travel and have fun.
When you are a party in an emotional relationship, it is really difficult to pull out and identify this as a scam. Not to mention that it was a diamond aristocrat who never seemed to be short of money.
And for these victims, the thing that makes them most uncomfortable is not being cheated of money. When Cecily found out that she had been deceived, she briefly went to the psychiatric department for treatment, because she could not face that the person she once loved so much was "fake". Penella, knowing the truth, called Simon to ask for a statement, "Never tried to hate someone as much as she does now."
Therefore, the phrase "cheating feelings can be done, but cheating money is not" is light to say, but it is actually difficult to do. And, for some people, cheating on feelings is often more hurtful than cheating money. Their spiritual world is likely to collapse in an instant at the moment they know they have been deceived.
There are no cool films in the real world
Look at the end of this irony
And the most infuriating part of this story is not Simon's deception process, but the end of this deception.
Unwilling cecilia, determined for revenge. She contacted VG, Norway's largest newspaper, told reporters about her experience, and gave all the chat records and videos as evidence to reporters, hoping that the other party would report everything. To destroy Simon, she didn't mind exposure.
Through the information provided by Cecily, the reporter found Simon's "hometown" in Israel, knowing that Simon was his name changed after 2017, and his original name was Shimon Hayut. He had also been in prison in Finland for fraud.
The reporter also found Peñella's name based on the transfer records provided by Cecilia. And, they reached out to Penilla via social media.
At this point, Penella and Simon were still in touch. With Penella's help, the reporter took a recent photo of Simon. Then, with the information provided by the two girls, VG wrote a feature revealing Simon's true mask.
The report was out, and there were large reports in the newspapers and the Internet, Simon should be finished, right?
But what is cruel is that many of the comments at the bottom are scolding the two victims for being stupid and self-loving.
"They must be gold worshippers, otherwise how could they be deceived?"
However, their bravery is also seen by another part of the people.
More and more media want to report on them.
Other victims have come forward one after another to testify against Simon. It's not just women, it's also men, who see Simon as friends, but are also used and deceived by him.
Eventually, the story was seen by a girlfriend Simon is still dating, the Dutch girl Irene mentioned at the beginning.
Shocked at first, she also borrowed more than a hundred thousand dollars to Simon. And what's even more egregious is that the feelings of that year and more were wrongly paid. So, she can't do that, she has to help the police catch Simon and get her money back.
Irene is a brave and resourceful girl who pretends to still love Simon deeply, first gaining Simon's trust.
Then, when Simon asks her to borrow money, she says she has no money for the time being, but can help Simon sell his clothes, shoes, and bags through her own channels. In order to pretend to be rich, Simon has put a lot of effort into the installation, and Irene, who has done it in the luxury industry, knows that these things are valuable.
Simon was cornered and could only agree. Erin quickly packed these luxury clothes home and hung them on the Internet to sell. The clever Erin also speculated about the flight that Simon was going to take based on the offline time of Simon's mobile phone, and informed the police of this information.
With the cooperation of the three ladies, Simon, finally arrested, went to jail again.
Is there a big deal?
However, it is very helpless that there is no real cool drama in the real world. Simon went to jail, but he was only in jail for five months for "forging fake passports and fake checks." He was not convicted of fraud against the girls. Except for him, the others in his cheating team were not punished accordingly.
After his release from prison, Simon continued to operate in Israel in a new capacity, setting up a business consulting website, and on social media, he still lived happily.
He bought a new car and made a new beautiful girlfriend. Under his social media, there are still many admirers.
The three heroines in the documentary, Cecily, Penella, and Irene, are still paying their bills.
This is the story of the scam king, do you find it ironic?
But how real it is.
Simon, the fraud king, deceived so many people, and only spent five months in prison. Then, he can happily live another life and continue his "hunting" journey.
I have to say that in our society, the cost of making mistakes for men is too low and too low, and it is the same everywhere. So many male artists in the entertainment industry, splitting legs, cheating news exploded so much, they are still peach blossoms. Even now there is a worse way to say, it seems that compared with XXX, XXX looks good to the eye ┓ ( ' ) ┏
(There is no picture here, everyone should not sit on the right number)
Women, many people like Cecily, are always desperate for "true love".
Yearning for love, of course, there is nothing wrong with this. However, really don't be too "virgin", don't always want to save the scumbag.
In the past, there was a saying that women grew up by "loving scumbags". Isn't this a form of brainwashing? I admit that a cone-hearted love does make people grow up in an instant. But why can women only grow up through love? Can't we grow up in the workplace? Can't we just be strong in friendship?
Disney's current princess stories are not acted like this, and really don't instill the idea of "going through robbery in love" to girls anymore. The pain of being slagged, for ordinary people, can not experience it, do not experience, not everyone can survive.
Finally, I hope that everyone can have a little more empathy for the victims.
They are not far away from us. We're not smarter or stronger than them, we're just luckier than them and haven't met scammers.
I quite agree with Douban netizens @ sleep to say, not that those girls overestimate their charm, but that we all underestimated the kindness of girls in their feelings.
Kindness should be cherished, not ridiculed and exploited.
The world of Zhang Zifeng and Ma Sichun has nothing to do with us, so let's eat melon and don't worry about it.
But back in real life, we can't be too cautious, because there are traps called "love" that await good girls everywhere.