There are many ways to love, the most moving is to love you in the way you like, but most people love in the wrong way, they only think about themselves, but never consider the feelings of others, and even bind you in the name of love.
I believe that you will also encounter such a situation, he says that he loves you, but he has been doing things that hurt you, using cold violence against you, trying to control you with love, is this kind of love real love?
To put it bluntly, it is just an excuse for selfishness, true love is from the heart, for the sake of the other party, not possessive, demanding, controlling, these are your own desires, not real love for each other.
If there is a person who loves you in this way, then advise you to stay away as soon as possible, you will only be tormented in this love.
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People who only think about themselves
The person who really loves you, he will consider your feelings, he will think about you everywhere, if this matter, you are not very happy, or do not want him to do it, he will still respect your opinion, not just take care of himself.
But some people, just very selfish thoughts, he only thinks about himself, never thinks about other people's feelings, does not even think to take a step back for her, just tells her: "You can't interfere with me." ”
If so, then you don't have to interfere with her, two people live their own lives, feelings are originally mutual, if they only think about themselves, do not consider each other's feelings, then this relationship will not last long.
In the same way, the person who only thinks about himself and does not care about your feelings, to put it bluntly, still does not love you enough, but don't be deceived by his sweet words anymore.
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Cold and violent people to you
There are also some people, who usually say how nice they are, love you to the end of the world, as long as you are enough, but in fact, if you make him angry, he will only use cold violence against you.
In fact, the cold violence thing is the most hurtful thing, you can sit down and communicate about something, instead of saying nothing, just start the Cold War there, people feel inexplicable.
The key is to coax you, give you the steps down, you still refuse to come down smoothly, and you don't know what you want to do, which makes people feel too small.
Don't always say that you use cold violence because you love her and are afraid of losing her, when you do this, have you ever considered her feelings, have you ever thought about whether she will be sad and sad.
In the end, it is still based on her own feelings, if she does not do what you want, you will ignore her, you will continue to have a cold war with her, such a man or stay away as soon as possible.
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People who want to control you
If you love someone deeply, you will want to possess, you will want to be exclusive, which is normal, but this does not mean that you can control her, you can do whatever you want, that is not called love, that is called selfishness.
A person with a "desire to control" is terrible, you talk to a man, he will think that you are sorry for him, but also control your future actions, otherwise two people will not be able to live.
If you want to go out and travel, he will feel that you are not normal, and he will not even allow you to go, he says that it is for your safety, but he actually just wants to control you, and does not want you to act alone.
A person who wants to control you everywhere, he will gradually go from controlling your actions to controlling your thoughts, it is also very scary to think, before he is completely controlled, quickly remove the blackout, do not continue.
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Conclusion
What is true love?
True love must be for the sake of the other party, put her ideas first, but also respect her feelings, give her personal space, do this, is equal love, is sustainable development of love.
And some people call love, but to control the other person in the name of love, he thinks that this is all he can give you, but in fact, this way of love is very terrible, and it is not what the other party wants.
If you just love her in your own way and have no idea what the other person wants, then your love is just selfish, not real love, meet such a man, or stay away early!