Adult men and women, love and be loved, this is a common thing.
No matter how the times change, loving someone and loving a person is always a beautiful thing.
At a certain age, everyone is the same, they will want to meet a confidant, and they will also want to be held in the palm of their hands by a person.
When we are young, in our eyes, we may feel that all love, that is the same, should be sweet and sweet to each other, like each other, achieve together, single-mindedly, but when we grow up, we will understand that this is not always the case.
In this world, people are different, and the same is true of love.
Some love is shallow, can not withstand any wind and rain, some love is profound, always let people forget the self, some love makes people miserable, gradually lost themselves, some people let people slowly grow up, become a better self.
Generally speaking, according to different feelings and different ways of getting along, love can often be divided into three forms.
In the name of love, keep asking for each other.
A friend, many years later, when a classmate said that he liked her, had liked her for many years, felt the other party's infatuation, and at the same time she also felt that the other party was okay in all aspects, so she decided to give the other party a chance to try to see each other.
She had thought that since the other party liked herself so much and liked herself for so long, she would be very good to herself and cherish this feeling, but after really being together, the other party was always asking her in various ways.
Let her dress up according to her own preferences, give everything, do this and that for him, in order to prove that she is sincere.
Basically, she rarely feels the other person's intentions, and it is always the other party who asks her for love, asks for gifts, and reaches out in various ways.
Many people seem to have met such love, in this, you will even suspect that the other party does not love you at all, but just wants all kinds of control over you, and all kinds of taking advantage of you to satisfy their own selfish desires.
However, although it may not seem normal, it is also true that this is how many people love someone.
In his heart, he feels that he loves you, you should be grateful, you should be all kinds for him.
The way he loves you is to see you love him, to kidnap you with his love, to make you have to listen to him, as if you owed him, you deserved it, you should return it.
Value swaps will carefully weigh the trade-offs.
Of course, not all love is a person who is constantly taking, and a person is constantly giving.
More, after knowing each other, they will weigh each other's various aspects of the situation, and then the heart will carefully calculate whether the other party and themselves are compatible, and whether they can win together.
Once there is a big difference in all aspects of each other, it is easy to have a future, and only if they are similar to each other, it is easier to have a future.
Such two people have some good feelings for each other, but they also feel that being with each other will not drag each other down and can achieve each other.
As each other feels that each other is good, a relationship begins like this, and after the beginning, at this time, everyone who has the heart to go down together, basically will show sincerity, are more active, and will also care about each other and cherish each other.
On the way forward, some small things, you will not be so calculated, but in the accumulation of time, you will also silently calculate in your heart, thinking about whether this feeling is worth it or not, whether there is too much imbalance.
If one person always gets more and the other person loses more, even if they have been together for a long time, the relationship may still be terminated at any time, and only if it is relatively balanced, you will be willing to continue.
Most loves are like this, each exchanging values and pursuing a more equal way.
No care, unconditional love for each other.
Naturally, not all love is so unbearable, and so worldly, full of trade-offs.
There will also be some love, which does not know what to do, and goes deeper.
Like a person, is for no reason, when you like each other, for that person, there is really no demand.
You will not always ask the other party to change according to your own ideas, just love the other party as it is, you will not always want to get something from the other person, and you will always want to dedicate yourself to the other party from the heart.
Between each other, you will not always worry about who is taking advantage, nor will you always care about winning or losing and right or wrong, you will only want to spoil each other and be with each other well.
Just by falling in love with each other, you already feel that this is great, and you already have a lot.
Your love is so desireless and undesirable, all you want is to hope that the other party can be happy, can be happy, as long as the other party can do so, let you pay more, you are also willing.
Your love, without mixing too much else, is just special purity, each other is willing to tolerate each other well, and they are willing to make special efforts in order to be able to give each other a better life.
As far as love is concerned, if love is just a kind of taking, this is certainly not counted.
When you meet a person who only knows how to take and takes your efforts for granted, you had better stop the loss in time.
If they are evenly matched and can support each other, even if they don't like it so much, they can still continue.
However, after really being together, it is best to be able to treat each other well, to turn less like into identifying each other, to make the foundation of the relationship more solid, and to go on well together.
If you can do this, it will also be a good relationship.
Needless to say, the most enviable, what everyone wants most, is, of course, unconditional love, love very seriously.
Unfortunately, such love can not be sought, want to meet, it really needs a little luck, even if you are lucky to meet, after the encounter, mutual good management, it is also very necessary.
Text/Tan Meng
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