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Good mindset, all good.
With a good attitude, everything is pleasing to the eye, everything is sweet, and whoever you are with will be happy.
However, few people tell you how to adjust your mindset. Moreover, everyone's actual situation is different, and the way to adjust the mentality is also different.
The ancients said: "Let one step be high in the world, and step back is the zhang ben of progress." ”
High-level people are very humble and know how to give in. This is the great wisdom of "people going to a low place", but unfortunately many people are insisting on going uphill, not giving in, and not stopping for a moment.
Remember that giving up is the most comfortable state of mind for a person.
People mix in society, making others comfortable is wisdom, making yourself comfortable is the mentality.
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Give up "three points of appetite" and eat and drink seven points of fullness.
In the traditional concept of health maintenance, "seven points full" is the best state. However, in the face of food, we are salivating and can't stop at all.
At the New Year, my colleague Lao Li went back to his hometown, and at his parents' home, there were guests every day, and there were various specialties, and the taste of the Year was very strong.
After the New Year, Old Li complained that he was too fat and walked breathlessly.
For several months in a row, Old Li was on a diet, which led to physical weakness.
Going home for the New Year was originally a happy event, and finally made Old Li feel very painful.
When eating, we often have the feeling of "eating up". Make yourself uncomfortable. If you want to change, you must learn to give up the "three points of appetite" and maintain a proper sense of hunger. The body is comfortable, and the mood is naturally better.
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Give up "three points good", the lover has a distance.
Tu Lei, the teacher of love, said: "Seven points for lovers is enough, and the remaining three points are enough to love themselves." ”
If you love someone too much, you will lose the beauty of distance and bring disaster.
In "Husband and Wife Time Difference", there is such a plot: when Lin Nan and her husband Moltke in Beijing went to Canada to make a living, they did not want to leave the house vacant and entrusted their friends to rent out the house.
The tenant is a female online host in her twenties.
In Canada, Lin Nan met a terminally ill man, Hai. Lin Nan's concern for the sea made Moltke jealous.
Moltke returned to Beijing because of the adjustment of his life plan and had to live with Mao Mao. Mao Mao is very mean-talking and likes to pick out other people's shortcomings, which makes Moltke very irritable. After spending some time together, Mao Mao and Moltke fell in love with each other and learned to take pictures of each other.
Later, Lin Nan returned to Beijing and found that the relationship between Mao Mao and Mo Qi was not normal, and his heart was very painful. Moltke filed for divorce and the marriage was in crisis.
In the plot, Lin Nan and Moltke, because the distance is too close, the feelings are troubled; and because of the separation of the two places, the feelings have a crisis.
The happiest love is mostly "little farewell to the new marriage". Husbands and wives get along, there are many days of getting together, there are also moments of separation, adjusting each other, so that love continues to heat up.
Therefore, no matter how much you love someone, give up "three points of good" and don't love too much. Otherwise, love becomes a nuisance and loses a good attitude.
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Give up the "dispute", win or lose.
Lao Tzu said, "It is not as stingy as to govern people's affairs." ”
The best way to cure people and things is to save spirit. Many problems, you don't care, naturally resolved.
For example, when the child is three or four years old, the question of which kindergarten to go to, the family has its own opinion, so it quarrels. If you know how to shut up and say nothing, by the time the child reaches the age of eight or nine, the problem will disappear.
Many disputes are "staged" issues.
Our ancestors told us to "rule without doing anything." Face the problem with a natural attitude. Regardless of winning or losing, first learn to bow your head, and take time to see the aftermath.
You know, the person who looks down and smiles is the smartest person. Although he lost a little profit, his spiritual world was richer.
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Giving up "greed" and sharing it with others is a blessing.
There was a Zen master who took his disciples to the countryside to make amends.
On the way back to the monastery, I encountered heavy rain, because I did not bring an umbrella, and the disciple's rice bag was wet.
The disciple was very troubled and was sullen and unhappy along the way.
The Zen master said that there are two poor old people who raise pigs halfway up the mountain, so give them rice.
The rice was sent out, and the two old men "got the most precious treasure".
The disciple carried the empty bag, reluctant to give up the rice, still bored.
The Zen master said, "You didn't see that the two old men were laughing happily, so why don't you "go with the flow"? ”
The disciple had an epiphany, and like a happy bird, began to sing.
Some things are destined not to belong to you, and even if you get them, you have to give them away. In this way, you are truly blessed.
Learn to treat the happiness of others as happiness; know how to share your own happiness with others, and in this life, happiness will double.
Holding something in your hand, your palms become crowded, your palms spread out, and you can hold everything.
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Conclusion.
Han Feizi once said: "Therefore, if you see strongly, you will not see clearly; if you listen, your ears will not be deaf; if you think too much, your intellect will be confused." ”
Excessive use of the eyes will reduce vision; hearing is used too much, the ears are not sensitive; whimsy, panic. On the other hand, if the eyes cannot see anything, they are called "blind"; if the ears are not good, they are "deaf"; their thinking is rigid, and they do not distinguish between right and wrong, which is called "madness".
The wisdom of the old ancestors is to persuade us: in this life, people must grasp the "degree" of everything, and cannot go to extremes.
Giving up and having gains is not to let you give everything to others and give it up, but to grasp the balance of life, under the premise of protecting yourself, try to help others as much as possible, understand others, and contribute to society.
It has achieved a clear conscience, a carefree life, a harmonious and beautiful environment, and a natural improvement in mentality.
Adjusting the mentality is nothing more than changing one's own perception of society, seeing beautiful scenery with eyes, listening to beautiful music with ears, recalling happy pictures of the soul, and adjusting all the senses to the best state.
Circumstances arise from the mind, and if we can't change the world, then change ourselves.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.