''I was not born when I was born, but I am old when I was born.' Hate is not born at the same time, every day is good with the king. I was born and did not give birth, I am old, I turned butterflies to find flowers, and roosting grass at night and night. ''
Although this poem that challenges secular prejudices is not included in Tang poems, it is widely circulated because of the beauty of the verses themselves.
Hu Yousong, the daughter of Hu Die, a great star during the Republic of China, married an old man who was 48 years older than herself.
She married Li Zongren in Beijing in 1966, when Hu Yousong was 27 years old, and Li Zongren was already 75 years old. Agreeing to marry Li Zongren made Hu Yousong receive great criticism at that time, and she used her life to prove the shallowness of the world.
Life is complicated and bumpy
Hu Yousong, whose original name was Hu Ruomei, was born in Shanghai in 1939. As Hu Die's illegitimate daughter, she did not have her own home since she was a child and has been living in someone else's home. Hu Die was a female movie star with the same name as Ruan Lingyu on the beach, often running around, no time to take care of her daughter, she was later imprisoned by Dai Kasa for a long time,
So Hu Yousong was taken care of by others for a long time. According to Hu Yousong's own recollection, she never saw her mother again after she was six years old.
In her memory, there was never a father in her life. Her mother didn't take care of her very often, and her father didn't know who it was, so some people speculated that maybe her life had other hidden feelings, and she wasn't actually Hu Die's daughter. But all this has been too long to verify. But the certain fact is that she grew up without fatherly love and without maternal love,
Perhaps this is one of the reasons why she will choose Li Zongren in the future.
In Hu Yousong's childhood, due to the absence of her mother, she recognized many officers' wives as dry mothers, among which the mother who took care of her for the longest time was Shen Wenzhi, the aunt of the warlord Zhang Zongchang. But Shen Wenzhi did not treat her well
, either hit or scolded her
，
She was also often left hungry
。 Throughout her early life, although she can wear beautiful clothes, go in and out of high-end places, and ride in high-end cars, deep down, she actually lacks love.
Identity sensitive life is bitter
After graduating from middle school, Hu Yousong went to medical college, and after graduating from medical college, he worked as a nurse in Beijing Jishuitan Hospital. But at that time, her identity was too sensitive, and the mother who took care of her growing up was the aunt of the old warlord, and the mother who gave birth to her had an unusual relationship with Dai Kasa, and some people even rumored that she was Dai Kasa's daughter. Rumors were a sharp sword that hurt people, and coupled with the fact that they had just been liberated at that time, the social environment was quite complicated, and Hu Yousong was under great mental pressure in the face of these public opinions.
Hu Yousong didn't have many friends at that time, and Zhang Chengren was one of them, so she told Zhang Chengren all her bitterness.
And he expressed to him that he wanted to change jobs.
Zhang Chengren was a famous screenwriter and translator at that time, he met Hu Yousong when he translated the script for Hu Die, he knew that Cheng Siyuan was helping Li Zongren find a wife at that time, so he asked for a photo from Hu Yousong in the name of introducing the work.
When the lady dies, she will find a good couple
Li Zongren was an important figure in modern Chinese history, he promoted the cooperation between the Kuomintang and the Communists during the Northern Expedition, and he was the commander of the Battle of Taierzhuang in the War of Resistance Against Japan. As
national party
After liberation, he did not go to Taiwan with Chiang Kai-shek, but flew to the United States through Hong Kong.
Li Zongren stayed in the United States for sixteen years, during which time Chiang Kai-shek also removed him from his party position in Taiwan, and he did not set foot in politics in the United States. However, he always pays attention to the situation in China, and as he gets older, the feeling of returning to the roots of the fallen leaves is getting deeper and deeper. Finally in 1965 he chose to return to China, Premier Zhou Enlai personally went to the airport to meet him, and he was also received by Chairman Mao.
However, soon after returning to China, Li Zongren's wife Guo Dejie died. His relatives and friends are all in the United States, and friends around him see that he is too lonely, so they help him find objects, and there are more than 60 photos provided to him.
When he learned that the other was a nurse and that the age gap between the two was nearly 50 years old, he decided to hire her as his health secretary.
Happy knots and widowhoods for a lifetime
When Premier Zhou Enlai learned of this, he thought that this was not appropriate, and he said that now that New China had been established, he could no longer be together like the old society, so he encouraged Li Zongren to propose to Hu Yousong. Therefore, when Li Zongren met With Hu Yousong again, he openly and honestly proposed to her the intention of marriage, and explained that this was the concern of the leaders of the country.
Hu Yousong, who lacked family affection since childhood, faced Li Zongren's marriage proposal, it was difficult to decide for a while.
On the one hand, she especially admired this anti-Japanese hero and had a good feeling for Li Zongren; on the other hand, the age gap between the two and the discussion of people around her made her feel that she needed to think about it.
After careful consideration, she still agreed to Li Zongren's request to marry. In this way, Hu Yousong, 27, and Li Zongren, 75, held a wedding in Beijing.
This marriage caused a lot of turmoil at the time, and many people thought that Hu Yousong's marriage to Li Zongren was nothing more than coveting his property and a bad woman who loved vanity. But outsiders say that after all, life is their own. Two people live after marriage
It was sweet
。
Li Zongren printed many copies of their photo, and each copy was followed by his own handwriting '' This is
My wife Hu Yousong '',
Sent to friends at home and abroad. Once Hu Yousong was sick, he said that he would be fine if he wanted to eat four or two pumpkin seeds, and then carefully peeled a plate of pumpkin seeds and brought them to his wife's bed. But
happiness
The days did not last long, and more than two years after their marriage, Li Zongren died.
In Li Zongren's last days, it was precisely because of Hu Yousong's meticulous care that he was greatly satisfied and comforted when he was dying
。 She also said,
She was also very happy
For this, Li Zongren's children abroad are particularly grateful to her, and they have maintained friendly contacts with her after the death of their father.
Perhaps, for Hu Yousong, the lack of paternal love and the indifference of family affection in her youth make her tend to find an older husband to give her love. And Li Zongren's love for her also made up for her lack of affection for many years.
Let her feel the warmth of home.
The union between them is not, as the world speculates, merely an exchange of money, power and beauty.
In fact, Hu Yousong inherited a large inheritance after the death of her husband, but she was not a person who coveted wealth and wealth, and handed over all these properties to the state, but she herself converted to Buddhism and spent her old age of poverty in the company of the Qing lantern scrolls.
Hu Yousong was childless and childless in his life, and finally died of illness at the Jinshan Temple in Shandong Province in 2008 at the age of 69. In this way, she completed her bumpy life and left countless legends about her to the world...