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In the popular suspense drama "The Mist of the Octagonal Pavilion" a while ago, Xuanzhu once said a sentence when chatting with Nian Mei, which impressed me.
She said: "The inner look is the real way a person is." At that time, Xuanzhu and Xuanzhen had not yet been exposed 19 years ago, but I felt that Xuanzhu seemed to have a meaning.
Sure enough, as the past unfolded 19 years ago, the profound meaning of this sentence was truly understood by the audience.
19 years ago, in the eyes of outsiders, Xuanzhen was beautiful, generous, confident, and seemed to have many suitors.
And the twin sister Xuanzhu, the temperament seems to be completely opposite. A little withdrawn, a little inferior, and a little rebellious.
Therefore, whether it is an adult in the family, they prefer the cheerful and confident Xuanzhen.
But in fact, as the memories unfold, we learn that our things are not what we see on the surface.
True Xuanzhen, conceited, arrogant, possessive, she seems to want to concentrate all the love on her. Even if she found out that the school grass liked Xuanzhu, she still couldn't help but sarcastically ridicule Xuanzhu and think that she was not worthy.
Not only that, she also took the initiative to approach the boy with her own beauty and wanted people to like her.
In the end, Xuanzhu and the school grass boy finally parted ways under her agitation, and Xuanzhu left his hometown sadly, not returning for 15 years, and not contacting his family for 15 years.
In fact, it can be seen that Xuanzhu has gone away and has not been in contact with his family for many years, which must have some resentment towards his family's eccentricity.
It's just that she is very kind, does not show these resentments, and does not retaliate against anyone for it.
But Xuanzhu was different, she used her pride, arrogance and beauty, and successfully attracted Commander Ding to like her, and hurt Commander Ding's wife for half a lifetime.
But it is precisely because of her willfulness, selfishness, disregard for the feelings of others, step by step to provoke the crazy infatuation of The Leader of the Ding Regiment, which also led to her tragic ending.
So you see, just like XuanZhu's sentence: "The way a person's heart looks is what she really looks like." And when the truest side of everyone's heart is exposed, many people are plunged into ruin.
If someone had penetrated the superficial disguise of these people earlier, these tragedies might not have happened.
02
There is a Uyghur proverb: "Not all the larks who spend the night under the roses." ”
We are often deceived by appearances, making false judgments and ultimately missing out on some of the most important things in life.
In the novel "Notre Dame de Paris", the bell ringer Cassie is ugly and physically mutilated. And the court bow and arrow captain Phoebes is handsome and handsome, and the vice-bishop Claude is powerful.
But in the end, the girl Esmeralda is about to be hanged, and the girl's beloved Phoebis is extremely cold and flirting with other girls.
Archbishop Callod, who loves Esmeralda madly, has a twisted and ugly heart and wants to possess Esmeralda.
The last person to kill Claude to avenge Esmeralda is quasimodo, the ugly bell ringer.
In this novel, the pure and noble in the heart, but the ugly on the outside, handsome on the outside, either on the moral and moral, or shallow and frivolous, worthy of the girl's love.
Through this novel, Hugo has long revealed to us the great contrast between the appearance and the inside of things, so that we understand that many times, what we see on the outside and what we see on the inside may be very different.
One wife was diagnosed with a more serious illness. Who knew that after the divorced ex-husband knew, he actually ran back to ask for a remarriage and take care of him around.
But who knows, in the end, the most gentle and gentleman-like person, but in the depths of his heart live a twisted devil.
So you see, many people, many things, are not as simple as we see with our eyes.
As the saying goes: "What the eye sees is not the truth a lot of times, and you have to look at it with your heart." ”
A man who swears and talks sweetly may also be a liar; a sincere and kind, infinitely enthusiastic person may also be deliberately approaching you for some purpose; a handsome man who makes you want to have children for him at first sight may not like women...
Therefore, many times, when interacting with people, whether it is making friends or finding a partner, the last thing you can do is to see the appearance and think that you see the essence. The result of this is likely to be that you will regret it with your whole life.
03
In many people's childhood shadows, "Don't Talk to Strangers", the outward Sven, kind and Sven doctor Anjiahe, is twisted on the inside and beats his wife for a long time.
But because he was too well disguised in front of outsiders, many colleagues who had worked with him for many years did not know that he had such a terrible side.
For this reason, there are so many tragedies in life about deception and hurt.
Therefore, many times, no matter how smart people are, they are often confused by the appearance of things, so as to make wrong judgments and decisions.
And a mistake may be hitched on the happiness of our lives.
These two days, there is a news on the hot search.
You know, this man's income is not high, and if he wants to further treat his wife, he can only sell the house.
But he did so willingly.
It is estimated that even his ex-wife did not expect that when he encountered great setbacks in his life, this divorced man would actually take the initiative to come back to accompany her.
As soon as the husband's behavior was on the hot search, it warmed up and cried hundreds of millions of netizens. At a time when many people believe that "husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and fly separately when great trouble comes", this and the actions of men have made many people believe in the existence of true feelings in the world.
04
Shakespeare said, "Not all that shines is gold, and not all that sounds good is good." ”
If you want to live a good and smooth life, you really need enough wisdom. Only with enough wisdom can we see through the layers of things, see inside, and see through the essence.
Only by seeing through the essence of a person and a thing can we make the right choices and be closer to happiness.