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Baby Anne once said: "Higher feelings eventually form spirit and consciousness; lower feelings can only be reduced to feelings and temper." ”
Some people eat and drink every day, and when they are down, others do not even answer the phone, and can only lose their temper with themselves.
Some people insist on going it alone, and when life falls into a trough, rely on themselves, survive the past, and the willows are dark and bright.
If you don't meet someone on the same path, walk alone. Loneliness is not terrible, what is terrible is blind sociability.
A person, if you want to go to a high place, you must integrate into the high circle, do not let the low-level relationship drag you down.
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Low-level relationships are just flattering each other.
Li Guoqing, the founder of Dangdang.com, once said: "In today's society, most of the rules that teach you to deal with people and interact with people are to please others." ”
In order to get a promotion and a raise, subordinates desperately try to please their superiors and bribe their superiors with money or materials; scumbags deceive women who like him with rhetoric and tricks, and falsely send out a bunch of roses; some women, with beauty schemes, obtain unjust gains; some bosses, stepping on the shoulders of honest people, continue to climb up.
If someone takes the initiative to approach you and secretly takes what belongs to you, then you should have an extra eye and refuse the other party's goodness.
Of course, you don't have to please others, you have to learn to be yourself.
Everyone is an independent individual, with different personalities and ideals, if you please each other, people will only drown in the crowd.
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In the lower circles, there is only a brief period of pleasure.
There is a word called "red face disaster water".
During the Shang Dynasty, the beautiful woman Daiji became a concubine of the King of Shang. After entering the palace, he let the king of Lu find pleasure all day and ignore the government. At the same time, dai ji provoked contradictions among the ministers. The demise of the Shang Dynasty also has a "credit" to Dai himself.
Xi Shi in the Spring and Autumn Period, beautiful as a heavenly immortal. She carefully controlled her husband's words and deeds, allowing Wu Guo to go downhill.
In the real world, how many people, because of extramarital feelings, lead to family disharmony, husband and wife divorce? We always think that after divorce, we will meet better people, and in the end, the marriage fails, and the person who once swore to you to "love each other for a lifetime" also quietly ran away.
The meal of eating and drinking is very happy, but the "feast that is all over the world", after the meal, everywhere is a mess. Put down the glass, the drinkers do not know each other.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", it is written: "After the taste is full, the thick and light realm is gone." ”
After a short period of pleasure, go back to the food and beauty, all the beauty, is gone. As a person, you should repent of life in this way, so that you don't make mistakes at the beginning.
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The high-level relationship is the real "like-mindedness".
Someone said, "Treat those who are in the same way as friends, and do not have to treat those who are in the same way as friends." ”
Those who come together for the sake of profit are nothing more than a ragtag bunch.
In the "Sayings of the Partisan Party", there is such a sentence: "When they share the same interests, the temporary party regards them as friends, and the pseudo-party; and if they see the benefits and compete for the first, or if the benefits are exhausted and they are alienated, they will be thieves and harm each other, although their brothers and relatives cannot protect themselves." ”
Low-level people gather together, and when they argue over the sake of profit, it is the brotherhood and sisterhood that cannot be saved. It can be seen how vicious the human heart is.
Smart people, insist on going their own way, some people are willing to go with the same road, just walk hand in hand, if not, do not force.
People with the same goal are not without quarrels, but they can tolerate and understand, seek common ground while reserving differences, and will not shoot two apart.
After the husband and wife quarrel, they will love each other more; after the couple quarrels, they can further understand each other; after the parents and children quarrel, they will take the initiative to reconcile; friends fall out, when they fall down, they can also help each other... Such a relationship is advanced.
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When you are in a low-level relationship, you need to do the opposite.
True masters are long-termists and are not tempted by short-term interests.
The low-level relationship, the thorny rose, is held in the hand, will be stabbed, placed in a vase, and withered in a few days. If you don't want to throw it away, the rose will rot. Over time, everything that has dragged you down.
First, drag down time. With low-level people, eating and drinking every day, and complaining together, time will be controlled by false feelings.
Second, it drags down people's feelings. When you are deceived and hurt, it is difficult to believe that there is still truth in the world. "Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope", really good people, will be rejected.
Third, drag down morality. Little people together, there must be no good thing. Perhaps, everyone will use illegal and disorderly behavior to get huge profits. When the matter was revealed, no one had good fruit to eat.
Fourth, drag down the ideal. Low-level relationships, like swamplands, you step in front of you and there's no way to get out. You want to go to a higher place, but you have more than enough and you can't move. What's even more frightening is that "pulling out the radish and bringing out the mud" has stains all your life.
Fifth, drag down the family. In order to maintain a low-level relationship, you will alienate the family and hurt the marriage.
To be human, when dealing with relationships, be cruel. Learn to pull out in order to stop the loss.
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Conclusion.
"Growing up in a relationship" writes: "In every encounter, we will unconsciously transfer these emotions out, looking forward to the satisfaction of love and the lifting of hatred!" ”
We always expect others to bring something to us, and often rely on others. The idea is beautiful, the reality is cruel, and it will always expose the ugliness of human nature.
In these years, it is not easy for anyone, how can you rely on the strength of others to complete your own life?
Han Han said: "Some people live in high-rise buildings, some people are in deep ditches, some people are naked, and some people are rusty." ”
When dealing with people, we must see his level clearly, and do not be taken into the deep ditch.
To get rid of low-level relationships, you need to "clean yourself, study hard, surpass yourself, dare to refuse", etc., no matter who the other party is, don't follow it at will.
In this life, the biggest noble person is himself, why should he look down on himself?
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.