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In our long life, we will meet many different people, some are just passers-by, come and go; some will accompany us, through the rest of our lives.
But when they first met, there was no obvious difference between them, and it was difficult to judge whether they could go to the end. The crux of the matter lies in how you feel deep inside.
If you meet the right person, you don't need to pretend in front of the other person, you are comfortable and real. You will not feel inferior because of the other person's excellence, but you will become excellent with the other party.
As there is a saying in "The Ladder of Ten Thousand Miles":
"In the face of true love, you don't have to be great, you don't have to be small, as long as you enjoy this love with your heart and maintain this love, it is enough." 」
Yes, in the face of true love, there is no need to deliberately disguise, nor do you need to suppress yourself too much, you only need to be the original self, which is already beautiful in the eyes of the other party.
If you want to judge whether a person is your true love, want to know whether this relationship is real love, you only need to see if you can share the following three things.
Even if it is missing the same, it cannot be regarded as true love, do not deceive yourself.
One: share growth and be willing to become a better person for each other
The first characteristic of true love is to achieve each other and grow together. You know that you are not a perfect person, and neither is the other person, but you are in love, and in the process, you will continue to restrain and improve yourself, so as to become a better person.
If a person always wants you to change, and he has never done anything, it can be seen that this love is extremely selfish and immature, and it is not true love at all.
In life, I have seen many girls who always love blindly and impulsively.
They will change themselves according to their boyfriend's requirements, such as long hair, such as changing their dressing style, such as giving up a hobby because their boyfriend is unhappy, and so on.
They think that making such a compromise will make the other person love themselves more, but in fact, the opposite is true, from the moment you lose yourself, the relationship has been out of balance.
He will look down on you, even look down on you, and how can he really love you.
Mutual achievement, always a sincere love, will have the most obvious characteristics, if only you are changing, he has not changed, it can be seen that you love wrong.
Two: Share interests and hobbies, and have a lot of common language with each other
There is a saying that words are not speculative for more than half a sentence.
Two people get along, if there is no common language, then even if they love each other at the beginning, there will eventually be a day of separation. For in the process, you will quickly grow farther and farther away from each other, until finally the far away can no longer be seen.
Only with common interests and hobbies, the distance between hearts and hearts will be infinitely pulled in, and feelings will become stronger and more stable.
From a certain point of view, the essence of love is the attraction of the soul, and only when the souls are close to each other and have a certain sense of resonance can the relationship go further.
If one of the two people likes to read and the other feels that reading is useless, how can they get along? The more you try to persuade the other person to accept your thoughts, the more depressed and suffocating the other person will feel.
You can't change a person, you can only adapt, and if you can't adapt, it can only mean that you are not suitable.
Three: Share the secrets between each other, and there is no talk between the two, and there is no intimacy
Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has their own secrets, and these secrets, under normal circumstances, will not be told to anyone, unless they meet a person who is 100% trusted.
And this person must be someone who is extremely close to him.
If you fall in love with someone but never know each other, you always feel that he has a lot of secrets to hide from you. When you take the initiative to ask, he always thinks about him, so much of the half shows that he is not sincere with you, nor does he regard you as the closest and most trusted person.
Don't love someone unilaterally, it's like playing a one-man show. Only by recognizing the other party's intentions in time can we make correct choices and judgments so as not to be hurt by ourselves.
Couples or lovers, if you can share the secrets between each other, it can be seen that the other party is the most important person, which is a proof of love and a sign of love.
Regarding the importance of love, Addison once said this:
"Love does not become indifferent because of reason, nor does it lose because of ambition. It is a person's second life, deep in the soul, warming every blood vessel, beating in every pulse. ”
True love has always stood any test, no matter how different you are, what obstacles there are, and eventually you will run to each other and achieve perfection.
On the contrary, if it is not true love, even a little wind will end this relationship hastily.
Is it true love, sometimes at a glance, do not deceive yourself, refer to the above three points, as soon as possible to make the right judgment.
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