A while ago, a friend who had a very good time fell out of love. A few years of feelings scattered, gave my friends a heavy blow, did not eat well, did not sleep well, drank all day and bought drunk. Out of concern, I asked him out for a walk and a chat.
My friend sighed: "My girlfriend and I have been together since college, going to school together, looking for a job together, surviving the most difficult moments together, and now it is flat and scattered!" ”
Seeing that I was puzzled, he further explained: "The two of them from the beginning of the glue like paint to the later cold as others, she seems to have no me in her heart, does not care about my life, does not care about all my possessions, so go on, how to enter the marriage, or scattered." ”
It was dark, and when I got home, I found grandpa watching TV and talking to grandpa about it. Grandpa said, "A person, if you don't have you in your heart, there will be no love, don't bother a person who doesn't have you in your heart." ”
Although he is 92 years old, Grandpa is still strong, as the eldest elder in the family, Grandpa is the wise man in our family, and he is the object of respect and love of all people.
Regarding feelings, Grandpa has always emphasized the view: "Whether it is love, friendship, or family affection, people have limited energy in this life, and if they have you in their hearts, they care, and they care about you, and those who are passers-by in life, don't bother." ”
01 Everything goes with the flow, don't be tough
Grandpa said: "The fate between people is really wonderful, thousands of people, but there are only a few people who can get acquainted." Everyone around is busy, for study, for work, for the family, even their own time seems to be gone, the relationship between people seems to have become weaker, and there are always some people in the vast sea of people who care about you, care about you, cherish each other, this is fate. ”
As this saying goes, "Sometimes there must be something in destiny, and there is no demand in fate at any time." "It seems that everything in the dark has a definite number, even if you are not good, the people who love you still love you; even if you are capable, people who don't care about you will eventually leave you." 」
Grandpa was right: "People get along with each other and fight all about fate." Who can say whether to love or not to love? What about Dominion? You may as well be a rational person, everything goes with the flow, don't be tough.
Usually, spend more time on those who have their own hearts, when they love, just love as much as they want, and those who don't care about themselves, don't force them, when love is lost, just wave your hand.
My friend is like this, in love with his girlfriend for a few years, he could have entered the palace of marriage, but because the other party did not have himself in his heart and separated, he attributed the emotional failure to "fate exhausted", not no love, just love, has become the past tense, people still have to look forward.
It is precisely because love arises from a cause and is not separated by a fate, so feelings have no right and wrong, right and wrong, there are thousands of emotions in the world, only love is the most difficult to say clearly.
For the lovelorn or the person who has been broken up, the person who does not care about himself should learn to give up, life is short, the energy is limited, the emotions are mutual, and those who do not have their own hearts should leave! Everything goes with the flow, don't bother others, disturb each other's peaceful life. After all, a past cannot represent eternity, and a relationship cannot represent eternal life.
Gather and scatter with fate, remove attachment, let go of others and let go of themselves, spend more time on people who deserve it, there will be unexpected surprises, the past will let it pass, what should go will still go, what should stay will still stay.
02 Love, to leave to those who have their own hearts
Grandpa told me, "A man who doesn't have you in his heart can't warm him no matter how warm the fire is." It is better to leave love to the person who has you in your heart. ”
People's sincerity is limited, to give more is the central air conditioning, it is better to concentrate on people who are worthy, and pursue this love to the extreme. For true love always brings joy to us and to those we love.
There is such a small story:
There is a boy, who has no friends since he was a child, and in order to have friends after school, he will share his candy with all his classmates and help his classmates wipe the blackboard on duty to do homework, but after a year, no real friend is willing to play with him.
Later, a new classmate turned over, became his tablemate, the two came and went to get acquainted, slowly became good friends, he no longer helped everyone, only gave his love to the same table, the two became lifelong friends.
Not only friendship, love is the same, life without coffee, without flowers before the moon, when the two people are all laundry, cooking and oil, salt and vinegar tea, the feeling of heartbeat in love, the eyes with the pulse of the heart are not there, is the real beginning, if the heart has no self, how can life continue?
Therefore, leave love to those who deserve it. The adult world is not easy, and no one can distract themselves from unnecessary things, and so are people.
Those relationships that are not beneficial to themselves should not be maintained strongly, do not put a hot face on the cold ass, open their eyes, understand which people are what they should love, focus on their love, and leave love to those who have their own hearts.
03 Bold to pay, there is a return
Grandpa said: "Each of us wants to be loved by others, hopes to be surrounded by happiness, but often forgets how to love others." In fact, the world is fair, how much love you give to others, others will return how much love you have. ”
Indeed, in life, each of us should remember that while harvesting love, we must learn to love others, many times, love can not only be exchanged for love, love can also dissolve the hatred in the heart, which is the meaning of living in this world.
Don't be afraid of whether you are hurt in a relationship, do your best to be ashamed, no matter what the consequences, as long as you pay will not regret.
As individuals, we have no reason to complain about the lack of love in this world, we should start from ourselves and give more love, just like the old song "As long as everyone gives a little love, the world will become a beautiful world."
We also have no reason to complain about the lack of human feelings in life, because this is the norm, if you find that you have no one to love, it must be that you pay less, do not do enough to love less, bold to pay is right.
In short, in Grandpa's view, people who don't have you in their hearts should not bother, why waste their time. After listening to Grandpa's admonition, I suddenly had a realization, and I also hope that everyone can know one or two from Grandpa's words and take fewer detours, that is enough.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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