China is one life two, two births, three births, three births of all things, because we have a three, so many things are not opposites, but coexist. Therefore, Westerners always seek a right and wrong in doing things, while Chinese do things for a measure.
One life two, two more three, three lives of all things
The reason why some people can succeed and can go all the way is not only because of how smart and diligent they are, but because of their insight into human nature, they know what is appropriate, impartial, and know the principle of receiving what is good. In a word, they can grasp the measure. Being right is the highest state of doing things, not having to be absolutely "right."
Just right, spend a good full moon
Even if you divide right and wrong, even if you win, what's the point? Therefore, in China, to deal with brother quarrels, to deal with classmate fights, to criticize employee disputes, we must say that both are wrong, both should be scolded, and then tell them, reflect on each other, apologize to each other, and admit each other's mistakes. Therefore, Chinese pay attention to proportions, everyone should not be too excessive, they all leave a step for each other, and they can take the initiative to give way. There is something to discuss. Between husband and wife, between brothers, between colleagues, between classmates, if you must divide who is right and who is wrong, you will be divided into the final centrifugal division.
Even the best advice should be appropriate, know how to knock on the side, or express it in a roundabout way, and let the other party accept it from the heart, not just face it.
Impartial, just in time
Understanding human nature is far more important than knowing the skills of doing things.
Just right, spend a good full moon, harmony, consummation, is the ultimate in our pursuit!