Author: Tease
What would you say if you could meet your 18-year-old mom?
Below this question, the highest praise answer is:
"Don't marry my dad, don't give birth to me."
The second high praise replied: "Don't marry my father."
In the comment area, they are all hurting their mothers, and they feel that their fathers are not worthy of such a good mother.
However, when she was young, her mother was limited by her vision, pattern, and circle, and she did not have the opportunity to meet better people, follow the advice of those around her, and get married and have children early.
Unexpectedly, marriage is too early, men do not carry things, the mother's life is dragged down by the family.
There are many people who, after growing up and leaving home and working hard in society, understand their mother's difficulties.
After being wronged in the workplace, I understood:
It turned out that it was really not easy for my mother to serve my father and a big grandfather, and also to serve the grandparents with strange tempers, and it was almost used as a nanny.
When friends around me have children, they understand:
It turned out that my mother really hurt when I gave birth to me, but my father still insisted on sleeping in separate rooms with her, and he hated me for sleeping noisily at night, which affected his rest.
Friends around me complained that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too difficult to handle, and the mother-in-law has many things to understand:
It turned out that Grandma always deliberately picked when Dad was not at home to embarrass Mom, Mom was so bitter at that time, after Dad came back, he was indiscriminate, and would only say to Mom, "She is my mom, what can I do?"
It seems that after we have experienced a lot of suffering, we can empathize with our mother's experience.
However, my mother seemed to forgive the past.
Or maybe she didn't forgive, but chose to forget.
She said, "Grandma is also bitter, and she is not easy."
She said, "Your dad is also tired at work every day, there are many things in the unit, he is very hard."
She said, "Every day when I see you healthy and healthy, I feel that living is a meaningful thing."
She was so sensible, relieved herself, and everything that made her difficult for herself, whether it was people or things, was frozen and shook hands.
If she could, I wish she could be herself.
Don't hold back if you have grievances in your heart, it is true that you are happy.
Instead of living in the eyes of the world, being a virtuous wife and being a capable mother.
The reason why the movie "Hello, Li Huanying" touched people is probably this reason.
The daughter was distressed by her mother, and her wish was very simple, "If my mother had not given birth to me, she would have lived happier than she is now." ”
And the mother's choice, there is no remorse, even if life is repeated.
"She's not just my mom, she's herself."
"I remember beating my mother as a middle-aged woman. So I always forgot that my mother used to be a flower girl. ”
If you could come face-to-face with your young mom, what would you say to her?
The following suggestions are sincere and come from real life.
Reader A says:
"Please go to school, find a job, and don't waste your life for your younger siblings."
Reader B says:
"Don't marry my father, don't give birth to me, go to Beijing to work, sell clothes and everything, remember to buy a house when you have money, don't be deceived by men's rhetoric, find a boy who is good to you and has a serious job to marry." 」
Reader C says:
"Don't give all the money and things in the family to your uncles and aunts, but hurt your grandmother more."
After experiencing the experience of life, we understand and respect my mother's dedication to the family, she may not love her father so much, but she has created the best living conditions for herself within the scope of her ability.
She's the best mom in the world, impeccable.
I remember that in the TV series "Know It or Not", before her granddaughter Minglan got married, her grandmother Sheng Old Lady told her:
"Those concubines who want to take care of the family will not have any good fruit for you to eat, don't put it on your heart, and get angry with yourself." He protects you, but don't rely on him too much. We who are women, after all, we must be able to hold on to ourselves. You must have money in your hands and confidants around you, so that you can live a comfortable life. ”
In just a few words, the essentials of happiness were pointed out.
First, don't rest assured of the length of the big family, it doesn't matter if you have a bigger heart.
Second, men love you, but you don't rely too much on men.
Third, you must have money to dispose of, and you must have trusted people around you to discuss.
In the next life, I want to live a good life, the eyes are long in front, and I should have looked forward.
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Author: Tease, focusing on the study of gender marriage.
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