Times are different, and many things from the past are no longer called things

Since ancient times, the behavior of getting pregnant before marriage and having children before marriage has been despised by human beings, and it is felt that it is a very serious matter, and it is regarded as an improper style, bad quality, even illegal and disorderly, bad customs, and it is necessary to bear the name of the person who bears these things, so that it is difficult for people who share these things to look up for a lifetime.

Nowadays, unmarried pregnancy in the folk has been given a new name, there are called "de facto marriage", there are also called "Fengzi marriage", the premarital sex is usually plain, as if not married to get pregnant and have a child is not called a thing at all, which in some life film and television works also have propaganda and expression, so that the original seriousness of human marriage events, mysterious holiness are greatly discounted, I don't know how others see how to think, I feel a little sloppy anyway, completely upset and disrupted my cognition for many years.

I have been around me for this incident, two young people have completely rewritten their lives, I will tell you:

(1) The story of Zhou Jinglun, a lathe worker

In 1975, Zhou Jinglun, who had been serving for two years, was demobilized from the army and assigned to the turner group of our unit's workshop, and he may have done mechanical processing in the army, and once he entered the group, he was arranged to operate alone on a lathe, and his technical ability was remarkable, and he was really a good hand at work!

Xiao Zhou has joined the party in the army, coupled with good technology, calm personality, very valued by the leadership, the group of young and old are good with him, less than two years, because the original group leader was transferred, he was appointed and promoted as a team leader, and at the same time entered the workshop branch as a branch committee, the whole workshop people feel that with Xiao Zhou's advantages and strength, it is possible to soon enter the middle level of the workshop.

Life and work were spent in ordinary peace, and just in the middle of seven or nine years, when Beijing's state-owned enterprises raised wages for the second time, Zhou Jinglun had an accident!

The scandal was stabbed into the factory by the neighborhood committee of xiao zhou's neighborhood, saying that he was not married but had a girl for several months, and if he did not hear the children crying, it was simply that people were unaware of the ghost, and asked the unit to cooperate with the investigation. (At that time, family planning work was being carried out strictly.)

Is it any wonder that Zhou Jinglun was always depressed and depressed for a long time? Later, it broke out that he and his girlfriend from a high-ranking cadre had been in love for more than three years, and they had reached the age of talking about marriage, but they were categorically rejected by the woman's parents, and they did not let their daughter register marriage with Zhou, until the daughter was pregnant and gave birth to a child, and still did not get approval and forgiveness!

At that time, Xiao Zhou's girlfriend had been admitted to the Nanjing Railway Medical College when she resumed the college entrance examination after the end of the Cultural Revolution, and had just entered the first year of college, and was also expelled from the school because of this incident. After round after round of interviews and investigations, Xiao Zhou not only transferred out of the lathe team on the grounds of safe production, was arranged to recycle the old material warehouse, and spent all day with the scrapped copper and rotten iron, but also received serious party disciplinary punishment.

Before I was transferred out of my original unit in 1985, I heard that Zhou Jinglun's unmarried girlfriend had long since left him, and he took his daughter who had not gone to the household registration to live in his parents' house.

(2) The story of the girl Su Shengying

Su Shengying, a 24-year-old girl at that time, was a young woman with a secondary school education and outstanding performance in all aspects, and at a young age, she was already the director of the workshop of a machinery factory in Beijing and became the youngest middle-level cadre of a large state-owned enterprise.

Just when Xiao Su's career is as great as day in the day, she was introduced to Lu Yuanzhen, a young man in our unit, who began to meet and fall in love, Lu Yuanzhen, who was in his youth, was also in the hearts of many girls in our unit chasing the dream lover he longed for, and the conditions in all aspects were also very excellent, tall and tall, the facial features were very attractive to men, no matter the political conditions, the economic conditions were first-class superiority, and soon su Shengying was in a hot love.

Just when the two established a relationship between lovers, only to wait for the house to be married, one afternoon near the end of work, the factory security department suddenly received a call from the railway public security, saying that there was a woman surnamed Lying On the Rail in the Puhuangyu Road Section, who was killed by a speeding train, and after investigation, it was found that the woman had a suicide note and a pregnancy diagnosis certificate, and the suicide note just mentioned the name of Lu Yuanzhen in my workshop. The call to the factory was to ask the security department to go to the scene of the accident with the relevant personnel to identify the body.

The matter was quickly confirmed and confirmed, Su Shengying, who was killed by the collision, was only because she was unmarried and pregnant, she could not forgive her own temporary negligence, causing irreversible consequences, felt that she had failed the party's cultivation of herself, sorry for the trust of the unit workers in herself, resolutely decided to commit suicide, she did not want to be said to be a woman with moral corruption and misbehaving life style, so she ruined her life's great future, and death was the only way for her soul to obtain peace and comfort. But it left everyone and Lu Yuanzhen, who loved her deeply, endless sorrow and sorrow.

The story of two young people all happened forty or fifty years ago, around me, love and marriage have made them sweet and beautiful at the beginning, but they have also paid a heavy price for their own careless behavior, and every time they think of it, they are lamentable.

If it were left until now, would it be a thing?