We all say that people who are husband and wife should trust each other, but on the basis of trust, they should be trustworthy. And this also means that the husband and wife must be sincere enough to each other, sometimes there is no secret, the two people are close enough.
But many people can't do this, especially many people feel that even the closest people should have their own private space. But marriage is not the same after all, the husband and wife are originally from the original strangers to the most intimate people, if once one party has a little concealment, it is easy to cause misunderstandings and contradictions. And sometimes some words are spoken, but there are more ways to solve the problem.
This is why some people feel that they are not wrong, but eventually they still lose their marriage. Because concealment will disappoint, and this so-called private space is actually just their own selfishness. Because when the secret is revealed by accident, it also represents the end of the marriage.
Today's story comes from the sharing of netizen Cheng You.
Husband who travels a lot
Cheng You and her husband Zhang Chen met each other on a blind date, and at that time, because they felt that Zhang Chen's conditions were very good, So Cheng You ignored the fact that Zhang Chen was five years older than himself, and he had no emotional basis, and chose to get married after knowing Zhang Chen for three months.
Not Cheng You is well aware of the responsibility of marriage, so even if he is not familiar with his husband, Cheng You also assumed the responsibility of being a wife after marriage. On the one hand, he takes care of the housework, and on the other hand, he takes care of the in-laws and in-laws.
The most dissatisfied point for Cheng You after marriage is that Zhang Chen, who has taken over the burden of the family business, often travels on business, and Cheng You and Zhang Chen are only intimate with each other for a month after marriage, and they have to face frequent separation.
However, in this way, Zhang Chen felt guilty about Cheng You, and was usually very considerate of Cheng You, and Cheng You was not a person who did not know what to do, so he also accepted Zhang Chen's kindness. The feelings between zhang chen and Zhang Chen are also slowly deepening, sometimes there are few things at home, and Cheng You will go specifically to find Zhang Chen.
After half a year of such a life, Cheng You also found out that she was pregnant, and the arrival of a new life made the whole family very happy. The in-laws no longer allowed Cheng Youdong to run east and west, but instead would call Zhang Chen back every time there was something wrong. Sometimes Zhang Chen would joke that Cheng You was like a biological child.
And under such love and care, Cheng You also gave birth to a white and fat boy after ten months, when Cheng You gave birth, his in-laws, parents and Zhang Chen were anxiously waiting outside the delivery room, especially Zhang Chen, the moment Cheng You was pushed out, Zhang Chen pounced on the bedside and kept saying that Cheng You was hard.
At this moment, Cheng You suddenly felt very happy, and he didn't care at all whether he and Zhang Chen had a basis for feelings, and felt that he really married the right person, not only had such a good husband, but also had such a good in-laws and in-laws.
Father-in-law's suspicions
However, even though Cheng You had already given birth, the family's business still could not fall, so Zhang Chen only sat with Cheng You for a month, and then ran out to work again. Fortunately, Cheng You's parents have not left, so there are many people in the family who accompany Cheng You.
Coupled with the reasons for Cheng You's birth complications, so the in-laws and mother-in-law directly took over the burden of taking care of the child, in addition to breastfeeding, Cheng You basically did not have to worry too much about the child. This is also why, when Cheng You's parents left, they were very relieved, and they have always told Cheng You that after they are well, they should help their in-laws to share some family affairs.
Cheng You naturally agreed, and after returning to the hospital for examination after the confinement, Cheng You began to take care of the family's chores again, but with the help of her in-laws, Cheng You was not very busy.
This also makes many of Cheng You's friends and classmates envious of Cheng You, saying that Cheng You is a random person when he is on a blind date, and he can live so happily, and Cheng You is really very lucky. However, netizens feel that their current happiness also has the results of their own efforts, so they will not feel that they are not worthy.
However, just when Cheng You thought that such happiness would go on forever, the father-in-law had some doubts because of the child's gradual growth, plus the father-in-law had always been a tough person, so when the thoughts in his heart could not be explained, he simply asked Cheng You.
And Cheng You was also surprised to find that the child and the father-in-law really looked nothing like each other, and the previous elders said that the grandson would be somewhat similar to the grandparents, and his children and the grandfather did not have any similarities, and it was no wonder that the father-in-law was suspicious.
With doubts and doubts, Cheng You still had some grievances in his heart, and also explained to his father-in-law, "It is not necessary like this thing, you can't think that I am not disciplined because of this, so it is unfair to me." ”
As a result, the father-in-law was really kind, and it was also a tendon to be tough, and looking at the way Cheng You did not admit it, the father-in-law was even more angry, "My son has been doing business outside for many years, do you say that there is no one outside of you, do we believe it?" Look at this child and I are not at all like me, designated is not our family species, if you are really not sorry, take the child and me to do a paternity test. ”
Mother-in-law's concealment
Cheng You was also angry when he heard his father-in-law's words, and in order to prove his innocence, Cheng You did not intend to refuse. As a result, the mother-in-law, who was still silent on the side, was anxious when she heard about the paternity test, and quickly stood up to persuade Cheng You to say that she would not, she believed Cheng You.
As a result, the father-in-law did not forgive, and the mother-in-law was finally forced to be anxious, directly yelling at the father-in-law, "If you dare to do it, leave." ”
The mother-in-law's sentence made Cheng You and the father-in-law stunned, because everyone is not a fool, the mother-in-law's reaction is a little too strange, and the mother-in-law, after calming down, also understands that she seems to have said too much, opened her mouth to explain something, but did not know what to say.
But the father-in-law seemed to think of something, his face brushed and became miserable, he directly called Zhang Chen back, and the next day he ignored his mother-in-law's obstruction and took Zhang Chen and his grandson to do a paternity test.
The results were reported, but it showed that Zhang Chen and his grandson were biological father and son, but they had no relationship with their father-in-law. Looking at this report, the father-in-law fell to the ground, and the mother-in-law wanted to go up to help, but the father-in-law threw it away.
Finally, the mother-in-law had no way, which told the truth of the facts, it turned out that the mother-in-law and the father-in-law also got married within a few days of knowing each other, and at that time, many marriages were promoted by their parents, so no one doubted. But in fact, the mother-in-law already had a boyfriend at that time, and she was pregnant with her boyfriend, but the boyfriend accepted the work arranged by the family and insisted on breaking up with the mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law has no way, which is why the father-in-law is regarded as a receiver, and in these decades, the mother-in-law has been particularly good to the father-in-law because of the guilt in her heart, and is a standard good wife and mother, so the mother-in-law feels that she has atonen for her sins and hopes that the father-in-law can forgive her.
As a result, in the end, the father-in-law still could not accept it, insisting on divorcing his mother-in-law, and Zhang Chen was also caught in a dilemma between them. Fortunately, after a period of time, because of years of getting along, the father-in-law did not deny Zhang Chen's son, but the in-laws' marriage was finally broken.
We always say that fidelity is important in marriage, but sometimes sincerity and trust are more important than loyalty, because most couples can stick to the bottom line in marriage, but not all people can do it without a little secret to the other half. Sometimes, it is precisely because of these secrets that the marriage is broken.
Just like Cheng You's mother-in-law, if she could choose to confess in decades of life, it may also be the result of divorce, but it will not be so stiff. However, the mother-in-law felt that as long as she cared enough about her father-in-law, she could offset the mistake of her deception. In the end, it made a paper appraisal report reveal everything, and everyone could not accept it.
So in marriage, no matter what the result is, you should open your heart to the other half, marriage is a process for two people to spend a lifetime together, if you can't treat the other half sincerely, then how can this life go on? And if a person knows that his pillow person has been hiding things from himself, then this has become a hurdle that can never be passed.
Today's Topic:
Do you have such a mother-in-law around you?