In modern times, regarding the bride price, men and women have their own words, and some women believe that the bride price is a guarantee for themselves, and it is the importance that the in-laws attach to themselves, and the higher the bride price, the more the in-laws attach importance to themselves. There is also a saying that the bride price is to increase the sunk cost of the man's home, so that when the man wants to break up or what happens to his feelings in the future, it seems that at such a high cost, the man will not act rashly.
If the bride price is only a small amount, the man generally does not matter, go through a formality, everyone is happy to succeed, everyone is happy. However, if the bride price is a large amount, the man will have to pay harder, and the man will also complain. They will give an example, in ancient times, when a woman wanted a dowry (bride price), the woman had to have a dowry, and the value of the dowry was not lower than the dowry given by the man.
Moreover, after the ancient woman married, she served her in-laws and taught her sons, became a good wife and mother, and was content in the room. And modern women after marriage to the mother's parents to fulfill the obligation of support, sometimes stay in the mother's home more than in the in-laws' home, whether to marry or not to marry there is no difference, why do you want a bride price, but also a large amount of dowry?
In short, the more bride price, the greater the controversy. The big news caused by the bride price in the country is not small.
The dowry dispute between the Li Chang family and the Zhou Mei (Zhou Muzijun, Zhou Muzi) family is just one of the hangovers.
Zhou Muzi, Zhou Muzijun, Zhou Mei... She has many names, but her original name on the hukou is Zhou Mei, and the later four-character name and three-character name are very fashionable, but Zhou Mei on the hukou book is a real rural girl.
After graduating from junior high school, Zhou Mei went out to work and rarely returned to her hometown for more than a decade.
Now Zhou Mei is brightly dressed, assertive, and even a little aggressive. If it weren't for the people she knew, she wouldn't know that she came from the countryside, Zhou Mei, like a fashionable woman born in the city.
The hukou book states that she was born in 1988, but the rumor she released to the outside world is that she was born at the end of the month in December 1989, as if she was born in the 90s.
Zhou Mei has worked many jobs and done many careers in more than ten years, but the most well-known is yoga instructor. Look at her self-introduction, wide range of interests, love of travel literature and poetry, etc., are quite elegant.
Zhou Mei, who is over 30 years old, has not been able to take root and settle down in the city for so many years, and has been single. Her parents were also anxious about her marriage.
This year, she and her mother opened a marriage agency in the township, but the business was not good and it was very deserted.
During the time when she opened the marriage agency, Li Chang, a young man over 30 years old, often came to her marriage agency to get married.
But Zhou Mei's marriage agency could not give Li Chang a suitable blind date. In the end, Zhou Mei's mother introduced her daughter to Li Chang.
Zhou Mei looks good, and Li often looks at it correctly. When Zhou Mei heard that Li Chang's land was to be moved, she felt that his family's conditions were good, so she agreed to the exchange.
Li Chang is not good at talking, in his early 30s, he has not officially talked about love, and after meeting Zhou Muzi (Zhou Mei said to him that his name is Zhou Muzi) several times, he decided to get married.
The Li family prepared the wedding room and the wedding should be a matter, the two sides went to get a certificate, took wedding photos, gave the woman a bride price according to customs, and widely distributed a happy post, but on the eve of the wedding, the newlywed Zhou Muzijun, that is, Zhou Mei, Zhou Muzi, disappeared, and also blacklisted Li Chang and all the WeChat of his family, and the Li family could not contact her and could not find anyone.
The bride price was given, and it was much higher than other people's homes, a total of 200,880 yuan.
Why do you charge more than other people's homes?
Because Zhou Muzi asked to give her this number.
The Li family was anxious to let their son start a family and agreed.
The Li family is actually not rich, the dowry money is borrowed from everywhere, and his family expects to get a sum of money after the relocation, then everything will be easy to handle. But people are not as good as heaven, and when they move, they bypass this area and go to the other side. In other words, the Li family was not requisitioned to move to. As for whether it will be relocated in the future, it is difficult to say.
At the beginning, the Li family told the Zhou family that it was possible to relocate, but did not say that it would definitely be relocated. But Zhou Mei heard that the Li family would relocate, went to the Li family to see it once, and felt that the Li family would not be too bad in the future, so she agreed to marry it. The Li family failed to move, and the hopes of both sides were disappointed.
As a result, the wedding was about to be held, and the bride ran away with more than 200,000 dowry money.
The Li family found the Zhou family, the two families blamed each other, and finally the more they talked, the more excited they were, and the two sides moved their hands and fought each other.
In fact, the Zhou family father is an honest man in the eyes of the neighbors, the Zhou family is also ready for the daughter's wedding, but the daughter is finally unwilling, Zhou father said that he can't help it, the daughter is the daughter, the parents are the parents, they can't be the daughter's master. What the Zhou family's parents said is also reasonable, the daughter is more than 30 years old, is an adult, they can persuade, but can not make decisions for her.
In the end, zhou mei was contacted, she said that she did not say that she wanted a divorce, and that the divorce was proposed by Li Chang, not her intention. If the Li family wants to return the bride price, they will sue the court. Otherwise, she is required to take the initiative to return all the bride price and avoid talking.
Li Chang said that Zhou Mei was born in 1989 at that time, and later learned that she was actually in 1988 when she got married and took the hukou book, that is to say, Zhou Mei's actual age was one year older than Li Chang. Zhou Mei lied about her age, and her dishonesty made Li Chang lose trust in her.
Li Chang said that zhou mei's change of attitude toward him was that after his family gave the bride price, Zhou Mei's attitude towards him became very cold. They looked like they had been in love for months, but in fact they had not lived together once, and Li Chang had not even pulled her hand once.
The Li family believes that the Zhou family is deliberately cheating on marriage.
The Li family's appeal is that since the marriage cannot be completed, the Zhou family should refund his family's dowry of more than 200,000 yuan. But Zhou Mei insisted that she had not said that she wanted to divorce.
If so, can the wedding continue? Zhou Mei never gave a clear attitude. Moreover, she refused to communicate with Li Chang face to face, and even did not bother to meet Li Chang's face.
Father Zhou also said, you want to return the bride price, you go to court to sue, how the court will judge, how we will enforce.
The Li family said that the money is borrowed, and it takes time to go to court to fight a lawsuit, can your family directly refund it? The Zhou family insisted that there was no money for it, and the court would see it.
Zhou Muzi, who has been out for many years, has seen a lot, and she originally did not look down on Li Chang, who was honest and wooden. If it weren't for Li's father saying that the family would be relocated, she wouldn't have considered interacting with Li Chang, "He is psychologically immature, his thinking is not like an adult, and he listens to everything at home." ”
Zhou Muzi's willingness to pull the marriage certificate with Li Chang is to see that his family will relocate, and when the relocation is impossible, the point where she is willing to marry into the Li family does not exist, and Li Chang has become a footer for her, and it is not a pity to abandon it.
Although there is no love, Li Chang still has a clear understanding of himself, if it is true as Zhou Muzi himself said, her interest is elegant and extensive, then Li Chang and she really belong to two different worlds, barely married, the two eventually can not go together, talk about a piece, there is no common topic, and finally will still end up breaking up. Mo Ruo separated and found the right object for himself again.
The idea is good, but the reality is that the bride price money has not been returned, the bride is gone, it is going to be divorced, the woman is hiding, and the divorce cannot be done.
"I'm afraid that someone will be safe, and I don't dare to meet him alone." Zhou Muzi's such and such a practice, it seems that it is also a bit of a thief's heart, for Li Chang's meeting requirements, she can push and push, in short, can not see the best,
The Zhou family should be thankful that the Li family is not a fierce and evil person, otherwise, so many recent massacres of the door are not enough to attract people's thoughts, and everyone is in danger?
Worry about worry, money everyone likes, there are more than 200,000 yuan in their own pockets are not fragrant, then the court gives to give again, how long is the energy consumption. After all, it is a person who has traveled for many years in the wonderful world outside, and this account, Zhou Mei will calculate.
At any time and in all places, as in modern antiquity, it is best for men and women to enter into marriages on the basis of feelings. Those who are together because of certain interests may eventually become resentments because of the change of interests, and become wrongdoers, and finally make trouble between you and me, and both sides will suffer backlash.
Li Chang and Zhou Mei have no emotional foundation, such two people want to live together, day and night, think about it and feel embarrassed for them. Breaking up is the right one.
It's just that Zhou Mei dislikes Li Chang for not being an adult, and she drags on not returning the bride price, and the person is not seen, and the way she refuses to communicate and solve it is not necessarily much smarter than Li Chang. (Image from the Internet)