Introduction: In family life, parents are willing to give all their love to their children, but in daily life, adults who are accustomed to judging and measuring the right and wrong of things with adult thinking often can't help but throw tantrums at their children. At the same time, some parents think that it is not a "big deal" to lose their temper with their children, after all, as parents, they have grown up little by little in such an environment.
So, when the parents lose their temper, what is the child's heart thinking? I believe that parents who know the real answer will definitely hold back their children's temper next time.
Previously, there was such a small video on the Internet that aroused the attention of netizens, in which a pair of fathers and sons abroad had a disagreement because of a little "small contradiction". When Dad was cooking dinner in the kitchen, the little guy secretly knocked over the trash can, and when he was discovered, Dad didn't hesitate to spank his little ass.
For the little guy, Dad's behavior made him very angry, so he walked around the kitchen, and his mouth couldn't help but chant, "Don't think that if you ignore me, I will forgive you!" I certainly won't forgive you! "You're the most obnoxious dad in the world!"
After the little boy had been talking for a long time, the father turned to the little guy and said calmly, "Can you give me a hug?" Although the little guy said no, the body gave Dad a hug very hard. Then the dad said, "Then can you kiss me?" Although he always stressed that he would not forgive his father, the little boy finally chose to kiss his father's face.
In daily life, many parents can't help but lose their temper when educating their children, and even sometimes they will move their hands. In fact, only when parents keep their emotions calm and rational can they truly become the controllers in parent-child education, and can they avoid the further deepening of parent-child contradictions.
Parents are willing to give their children all their love, but in the method of education is often not the law, in fact, the process of education is the need to continue to explore and discover, the process of educating children is actually a process of parents to improve themselves. If parents are not willing to take the initiative to invest time and energy to explore educational methods, they are likely to be prone to emotional fluctuations because of "educational incompetence".
In the daily life with children, many parents will have a lack of patience in education, and when adults are accustomed to measuring their children's behavior by adult standards, they will find that children are not so perfect, and even say that the degree of completion of children is far from the degree of parents' imagination. Lack of patience and high expectations at the same time, which makes parents prone to emotional out-of-control situations.
In the parent-child relationship, parents are often in a strong position with their children's dependence on themselves, and have stronger initiative and control in parent-child relationship. This kind of unequal parent-child relationship is likely to make parents lack a period of control over emotions, and it is easier to ignore emotional control in front of their children.
First: Treat yourself as an equal individual
When parents place themselves in a condescending state, they are unable to maintain an equal relationship with their children. Therefore, in parent-child education, it is necessary for parents to build an equal platform for children to have the opportunity to talk about their ideas and make appropriate choices. When communicating with equal individuals, parents mostly keep their emotions calm, which naturally makes them more able to retain their reason and control their emotions.
Second: Shut up when you are "emotionally up"
When parents are coerced by negative and negative emotions, if they talk about education in a hurry, they are likely to hurt people and lose their temper with their children. Therefore, when parents are emotionally superior, it is best not to talk about education first, and the calm self-treatment of silence is more conducive to stabilizing their emotions, and at the same time, they are more able to find a breakthrough in solving educational problems for themselves.
Third: Have reasonable expectations for your child's education
Whether it is teaching children life skills or giving them growth expectations, parents should have reasonable expectations. If you expect too much from your child, or if you are too demanding, it is likely that your child will bear unnecessary growth pressure for this, and it may also lead to parents frequently losing control due to excessive anxiety.
In family education, if parents are not able to control their emotions, then the output of any educational concept may become a meaningless emotional vent. Children give their parents far more feedback of love than their parents give them, so parents should be more rational in the output of education.
Broken Thoughts:
No matter what kind of profession parents pursue, or what kind of achievements they have, in the eyes of their children, they are the most perfect people in the world. It is necessary for parents to learn how to properly express love, give love, and do not let emotional problems become obstacles in the parent-child relationship.
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