Parents should learn to "ming xiu zhan dao, darkness Chen Cang"

I have a student named Guangjun, whose grades are not a mess in the seventh or eighth grades, but they can be called very bad. Fortunately, my parents never gave up, and barely managed to stay at the bottom when they were in the ninth grade.

The change occurred after the ninth grade school sports day. At that games, he won two gold medals in the high jump and the 100 meters alone, and the high jump also broke the school record. After that, he represented the school and Guangde City in two county and municipal competitions, and won better places respectively. This experience finally awakened his sleeping soul, and he began to exert efforts in learning. In the middle school entrance examination, although he failed to achieve his goal, Guangzhong Middle School, the score was only less than twenty points. For him, this progress is enormous and unimaginable.

Let's analyze his path to victory. In seventh grade, he finished fifth in the high jump; in eighth grade, he rose two places. I didn't think he was going to stand out in sports, but he told me he liked sports. So he went to the gym privately and started practicing muscles or something. Unexpectedly, when he was in the ninth grade, his small universe actually exploded, which surprised everyone.

Let's talk about my cousin, a dwarfism patient, in elementary school and junior high school, it was a joke-like existence. Under the shadow of inferiority, the grades and height remain highly consistent. What will happen to such a child in the future? His parents helped him choose the path of calligraphy and found his own value in helping the villagers write the Spring Festival. After graduating from junior high school, he studied calligraphy with his teachers while helping the bamboo chair factory to brand calligraphy. The calligraphy teacher told him that if he wanted to make a breakthrough in calligraphy, he must pay attention to the study of cultural classes. So he re-entered the school and finally succeeded in his studies. Now, he has his own studio in Yixing and also occupies a place in the field of purple sand pots. In addition, he also married a beautiful daughter-in-law, settled in Yixing, and had two lovely babies.

There are many more such examples, which will not be enumerated for the sake of length. Smart parents, what do you gain in these stories?

Yesterday, a parent gave me WeChat and asked me to help her child choose two books for writing, I said not to buy, she was in a hurry, saying that the child's reading ability and writing ability are very weak. I called her back and told her what she should solve in the moment. Of course, I'm not necessarily right, because I'm not a bull, not an expert, but there should be a revelation.

For the grades, every parent, including the child himself, is very concerned. People who are born not to be good, I really haven't seen them at the moment. However, we can't just focus on grades, especially for children with average grades. What should we do? Play with your kids first.

Make no mistake, play? Yes, you heard it right, just play, but not blindly. When we encounter a plate of very special dishes when eating in a restaurant, can we discuss and discuss, go home and try to make a meal, and then talk about the eight major Chinese cuisines? When traveling, tell the story of the scenery and humanities, or tell the story of the international gold medal tour guide? Spring Festival, see the good Spring Festival, can you stop, pretend to appreciate, from the content and writing to express some admiration? Watching TV shows, can you find some common topics about the stars in the show business or sports world that your child likes? In the summer, Beijing held an international comic exhibition, are you considering taking your children to play? In this way, the subject matter of guidance is all over life. Not all talks, but according to the child's personality differences to choose the content of the talk. Why talk? Find the child's interest point, the point of spiritual support, and then achieve the purpose of awakening the soul in the interaction.

While not being impatient, gently and firmly urging children to pay attention to the study of textbooks, while using this approach to find children's inner dreams. When your child's internal drive is stirred, do you still need to continue your nagging that makes everyone irritable and inefficient?

Looking back at Guangjun, who won gold and silver, I firmly believe that he will definitely make great progress in his three years of high school. Looking at the great success of my cousin, it can be described as a successful example of "saving the country through the curve".

As a parent, in the face of inattentive children, do not simply hope, anxious persecution, but to actively do homework. Don't face the gang, in addition to losing both, it is difficult to gain good. At this time, try to break through from the periphery, and you may be able to see "willow dark flowers and bright villages".

This is what I call "Ming Xiu Zhan Dao, Darkness Chen Cang".