I saw such a news on the Internet that an 89-year-old grandmother brought a group of retired elderly people to learn English together.
The old man, Hong Huijuan, is 89 years old, and after she retired in 2002, she worked as an English teacher at the community university for the elderly, and has been here for 20 years now.
The retired elderly who studied with her said that from the beginning of the Chinese stuttering to now be able to speak a complete Sentence of English, the sense of accomplishment is very great. In particular, an old man said that when his grandson asked him what the car and the house said, he was able to answer the grandson, and the grandson was very happy and instantly brought them closer.
What should I do when I'm old? Is it square dancing or counting the days? In fact, when you are old, you can also live your own wonderful, the elderly also have their own value, and the elderly can also exert their residual heat in the days of retirement.
As Grandma Eiko Hiruma, 97, said, "Time accumulates to heal us and make us resist our dreams."
Many elderly people will have a sense of frustration as they get older, always think that they can't go back to the past state is very sad, but also think that their learning ability has declined, unwilling to learn new things, the whole person's state is not good.
What state should the elderly be? See what the 97-year-old grandmother has to say.
"Time is a Good Medicine" is some of Eiko Biruma's life insights, from the 20s in the pharmacy as a pharmacist, experienced war, lost relatives, but her attitude to life is still worth learning. It is very appropriate to describe her as the phrase "old heart".
Although she is 97 years old, she still insists on going to the pharmacy every day to help people and do her job.
Live to be old, learn old, knowledge is changing with each passing day, every day there will be something new, maintain a learning attitude, so that better time to cope with this change.
Just like in the past, parents used button mobile phones or elderly machines, but the emergence of smart phones makes it difficult for them to adapt, and how to use them is even more difficult for them, especially for people over 60 years old, holding smart phones is not sure how to be good.
I remember a friend who said that in order to have more communication with her grandson, her mother decided to learn pinyin with her grandson. This old lady, who didn't even know 26 letters, didn't know anything from the beginning, had to memorize letter by letter, and finally learned to spell and was able to communicate with her grandson.
The decline in the learning ability of the elderly is a common phenomenon, but it does not represent giving up learning, which may be more difficult to learn, but the experience it brings is indescribable.
Grandma Eiko said that medicine, like the current online world, is changing with each passing day, and a little slack will lag behind.
So she often opens her computer in between receptions and inquires about new medicines, and as a pharmacist, she has been on her way to learning. Not only can it fill in the gaps in knowledge, but it can also help customers very well.
There was a staff member in her shop who stopped working in the early years because of raising children, returned to work at the age of 50, and worked again many years later, which brought her discomfort because she did not understand many new drugs and worried about whether she could re-learn.
With the encouragement of Eiko's grandmother, she spent time studying and finally became a good pharmacist.
Keep the state of learning, every time you learn a skill, the experience you bring to yourself will be different, such as you learn to photograph, you can take beautiful photos; you learn to wear, you can wear in line with your personality; learn to use the computer, increase the channels to understand the world.
Anxiety is really a daily routine for many people.
What to do if you don't find a job anxiety, living expenses; what to do if you don't like to find a job; what to do if you are anxious when you are single and have been urged by your family; what to do if you are anxious when you find your other half and don't treat yourself badly later.
Different identities have different anxieties, students are anxious that they can't go home and be scolded; employees are anxious that the work is not done well, it is not good to make a difference; parents are anxious that they cannot accompany their children; the elderly are anxious and can no longer help their children.
Anxiety is really like a shadow, and the more anxious you are, the worse you will find that the situation will be.
Just as there is a mother who has two sons, the eldest son sells umbrellas and the younger son sells cloth shoes. On rainy days, I worry that my younger son's shoes can't be sold, and on sunny days, I worry that my eldest son's umbrella can't be sold. Every day anxiety, every day frowning, eating badly, sleeping badly, the state of the whole person is not good.
One day, the neighbor told her why not think differently and live in the moment. The business of the eldest son is good on rainy days, and the business of the younger son is good on sunny days, and he does not need to worry too much about himself. Since then, the old man is no longer anxious about whether it is sunny or rainy, no matter what the weather, some of them will have business, and the smile on their faces has increased.
Anxiety can not change the status quo, will make the status quo worse and worse, want to change the status quo, you have to seize the time, live well in the present, the current things do well.
Grandma Eiko said, "She never worries about the future."
Because to worry about the future is to predict what bad things will happen in the future. In her opinion, no matter how worried, it can't stop bad things from happening. Not only that, but if you keep thinking about bad things, you will induce them to go in the wrong direction.
And she does the same, every day will not worry about what will happen in the future, first arrange the time in front of her, do something to make her happy. She treats her clients, too, telling them to want to get rid of anxiety about the future and focus on what's in front of them or something interesting.
Some time ago, there was a 50-year-old aunt who was on fire, just because she traveled by car and got high popular praise, why? Because everyone admired her courage.
The aunt said that she was usually very upset at home, but it was very painful when she got along with her husband.
She recalls the days of living with her husband, very desperate: "Since marrying her husband to the present, the economy has always implemented the AA system, and her husband never spends a penny for her, and even the family's expenses are rarely spent, at most it is to buy vegetables."
Even the INSTALLED ETC, after running the high speed, her husband will ask her for money. ”
Such a marriage made her live a very depressed life. When I was young, I put up with it for my children to have a complete family, and I felt that it was not good for my daughter to find a single-parent family, and I put up with it, and then I helped my daughter with my child, or I put up with it. Now that the grandson is older, the daughter does not have to worry about herself, and wants to live her own life in her own way.
Self-driving is the way she chooses, to travel, to drive wherever she wants.
In Eiko's grandmother's view, life is a journey to spend time to love herself. And the way she loves herself is to cherish time, spend every day to the fullest, and serve better.
For example, when guests come to their pharmacy, in order not to make them wait for a long time, the pharmacist will remember the name of the kernel that often comes and the medicine they are taking, so as to deliver the medicine to the customer as smoothly as possible.
At the same time, in order not to waste the precious time of customers, in the time they wait, to provide them with some convenience, you can chat or watch TV in the coffee area of the store.
Making guests feel efficient and comfortable is the time that Grandma Eiko has been doing.
Making yourself comfortable and happy is also the life that Grandma Eiko has been pursuing. In her consciousness, doing what must be done and developing habits, not being swayed by emotions, completing what should be done step by step, and skimming every day is the best way to use time.
With the accumulation of time, there will be indifference to life.
We always think that our lives are chicken feathers, and many times it lies in our mentality of looking at life, and if we have the right mentality, life will be smooth.
As the 97-year-old Grandma Eiko said in "Time is the Medicine": "Everything does not have to be rushed, time will give the best answer." ”
Now in life we will indeed encounter a lot of things, there will be a lot of pressure, to know that it is only temporary, pay attention to the present, grasp the present, in the long river of time, you will find that the difficulties that were thought in the past have long been insignificant.
The longer you go on, the more you will find that living your own wonderful is the most important thing.