A girl named Xu Xiaohan fell in love with her biological father. After this unrequited love lasted for seven or eight years, his father Xu Fengyi made a decision that he could no longer continue to entangle with his daughter, so he raised a girl in the same class who looked very similar to Xiao Han, Duan Ayaqing.
When Xiao Han learned that her father and classmates were together, she was very angry, and she went to Duan Lingqing's mother to let her discipline her daughter. At the door of the Duan family, Xiao Han was pulled home by his mother who was chased by a rickshaw.
After returning home, the mother and daughter opened up for the first time to talk about the topic they had been avoiding. His father no longer returned home, and Xiao Han blamed his mother for not taking care of himself earlier. Mrs. Xu immediately decided to send Xiao Han to a relative's house to calm down for a while and put an end to this obscure relationship.
The Xu family looks happy and perfect on the outside, but in fact, their hearts are twisted and deformed, and the unrequited love is closely related to their family relationship. Xiao Han's innocence and extreme narcissism lead her to be torn between her parents, monopolizing the attention and love from her father. This, in turn, was caused by the unhappiness of her parents' marriage and the emptiness of their respective hearts.
Xu Xiaohan is 20 years old, her face is the face of a mythical child, a bulging cheek, a small pointed chin, extremely long and extremely long black eyes, and the corners of her eyes are up. Her appearance had a strange and disturbing beauty, a short and straight nose, thin red lips, and a slight drooping.
It is such a girl, in fact, from the first appearance, Zhang Ailing set an unfortunate fate for her.
On a midsummer night, she invited several female classmates to the house to celebrate their birthdays together, and they chatted idly in the roof garden of the apartment.
Xiao Han sat on the trunk, as if she was alone there. Behind it was an empty blue-green sky, so blue that there was no slag at all—there was, precipitated underneath, pitch black, shiny, smoke-baked, noisy—that was Shanghai. There is nothing else here, only the sky and Shanghai and Xiao han. No, Tian and Xiaohan are with Shanghai, because Xiaohan's highest status is between Heaven and Shanghai.
Xiao Han, a girl, gives people a kind of independence, so her feelings are beyond the standards of her peers.
Xiao Han is always a father in front of his classmates, and he does not mention his mother. Two photos from a pair of dark gold and flowers photo rack on the piano at home, one is Xiao Han's and the other is her father's.
The classmate asked her mother, Xiao Han said, she did not come to entertain you, first, you are not a guest, second, she feels that there are elders present, it is inevitable that there is some restraint, today simply let us have a better time.
But she blamed her father for being late, waiting for everyone to eat and play enough before returning. She solemnly introduced her father to her classmates and laughed that you should recognize him clearly, so as not to misunderstand that it was my boyfriend the next time we saw him.
Xiao Han always pretends to be an innocent and cute child in front of people, she does not want to grow up, nor does she want to leave home, mainly do not want to leave her father. She thinks that a woman's love for men always has to be a little adorable, just like her attitude towards her father.
Therefore, for the pursuit of boys of the same age, she always comes to lose one by one. However, she does not know how to respect the feelings of others. She knew that the boy named Gong Haili liked herself, but she told Poland at her birthday party that Gong Haili liked her. Later, she wanted to introduce Gong Haili to Duan Ayaqing.
She is pursued by others, even if she does not love each other, she must let the other party remember herself, on the one hand, to show her own excellence, on the other hand, she told her father that there is a good boy who likes herself, indicating that she is not unloved, so she wants her father to cherish himself more.
Freud proposed that children will more or less appear in the Oedipal or Oedipal complex at a certain stage, which is a common phenomenon.
However, if this psychological tendency exceeds the normal degree, there will be harm between relatives. In Xiao Han's family, her father assumes an important role in the family, while the mother is in an invisible presence, which is an important factor that causes the child's heart to be distorted.
Xu Fengyi was not yet forty years old, and he looked dignified and tall. His career is thriving, rich, and status, giving outsiders the impression of a perfect man. Even Gong Haili, who has family property and achievements, once said to Xiao Han, "Your family is too happy and too idealistic." Even if I give you the best of my life, I am afraid I will not be able to satisfy you. ”
Behind the glamour is a different look. Xiao Han's father and her mother had no feelings for each other for a long time, and his feelings for his wife were empty. And his daughter Xiao Han, from the age of ten, unconsciously, has become his spiritual comfort.
He watched his daughter grow up, gradually becoming a big child with a rich, ivory flesh... Sometimes, however, he will be blamed by reason: "How can I be happy if I have a little heart?" I watched you delay yourself in vain. ”
He thought to himself that he could not continue with his daughter and had to make a decision. In order to avoid Xiao Han, he went home later and later, and did not go home to eat, and he and Xiao Han's classmate Duan Ayaqing lived together.
In the face of Xiao Han's questioning and rebuke, Xu Fengyi frankly stated everything, he believes that Duan Ayaqing is a realistic girl, she looks at her own money and status, and is willing to be with him for the rest of her life.
He thinks that although Aya Qing is realistic, she is also better than the naïve Xiao Han, a girl who can "do" everywhere, thinking of guarding her father for a lifetime. However, this attitude of his once again deeply hurt Xiao Han's heart.
A "father" who has harmed his daughter and cruelly abandoned her has deviated too far from the selfish desires of human nature.
Mrs. Xu is an invisible presence at home, and it is precisely because of her obedience and cowardice that she has preserved the integrity of the home, but she is full of love.
From the age of thirty, when she happened to wear a more beautiful dress or showed a little affection for her husband, she would be ridiculed by her daughter and husband. She was also suspicious of her daughter, but she didn't want to believe it until the last moment, and she always treated Xiao Han as a child.
Even if her heart will be uncomfortable and lost, she chooses to ignore her own pain and not allow herself to hate her husband and the "innocent child".
Mrs. Xu hid her feelings and threw herself into the trivial and complicated daily life, passing the day silently. She was there to wash dishes in the kitchen, arrange chair cushions, change water for vases, clean soot dishes, or catch worms under the pergola.
She is rarely closer to her husband and daughter as a wife and mother. She always appeared for necessary reasons, such as cleaning up, telling her husband to take medicine on time, putting away the bath water and asking her daughter to take a bath.
When Xiao Han learned that there was someone outside her father, she began to blame her mother for not taking care of her husband. Mrs. Xu said, what is that? It's even harder than this, and I've endured it all these years. If I were to be like your new people's temper and come to a nail with him to touch the iron head, I am afraid that you will not have this home for a long time!
Poor Mrs. Xu has chosen to be patient all her life, she thinks that if she keeps her family, she will keep her happiness, but the reality is so sad.
The occurrence of the tragedy is inseparable from the family, but Xiao Han's parents are also victims of the old marriage, the two people have no love, hurt each other, and also bring indelible pain to the children.
However, Xiao Han's innocence also hides the extreme insecurity caused by the lack of love, so she asks for it from her father and regards her mother as a love enemy.
The father's indifference is a disregard for the mother and a cover for the emptiness of the heart. However, in the end, he still indulged his spirit and brought his daughter into a situation of loss of control.
And the mother's arrogance and self-effacing, swallowing her anger, will only promote the breeding of deformed emotions between father and daughter. She is undoubtedly also an innocent booster.
In marriage, the maintenance of feelings is a necessary lesson; in the family, maintaining boundaries is also a means of harmonious relationship. For women, whether it is marriage or family, they should put themselves in the right position and play their role.
Only a healthy family of origin can fill the background of a person's happiness for a lifetime. Only when the heart knot is opened can we bathe in the sun and thrive.
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