In modern society, family units are atomized, and in cities with high-rise buildings, when you return home and close the door, you enter a world that is completely your own. But the road of life is so long, we all long for love and affection, and we all long to leave away the loneliness of sorrow. But in today's highly independent and extremely bounded society, fake intimacy has become the first killer of our intimate feelings with people.
What is false intimacy? It's that we live together every day, but it's as if we never know each other. Children may be depressed to the extreme, about to jump off the building, parents still do not know anything, thinking that the years are fine. Husbands and wives sleep in the same bed, but each holds a mobile phone, each has its own world, and there is no intersection. The person who knows himself best is the closest person.
There are many reasons for this. But the first thing is that we are no longer willing to talk and compromise for each other. Love is an intimate sharing and compromise. Love does not come out of thin air, nor is it taken for granted. It requires us to constantly express and convey it in gentle and delicate words. The rule that "silence is golden" does not apply to the maintenance and management of intimate relationships. Communication and exchange are breeding grounds for love. Of course, it must be under conditions of equality and inertia. If the opening of the mouth is to reprimand and suppress, it will only bring endless confrontation and hatred. Let the heart be filled with sunshine, let the love surround you and me.
Second, we need to make ourselves brave and tenacious. Many times false sexual intimacy is due to people being too sensitive, afraid of injury, afraid of showing weakness, exposing shortcomings. But none of us are steel men, and everyone needs a warm embrace, a sheltered harbor to rest. If you just blindly burrow into your own thick protective shell and pretend to be right to your lover and loved ones, it will only plunge yourself into boundless loneliness and darkness. Maybe we will really be hurt when we expose ourselves, but we will also reap love and healing. If you just cover up the wound layer by layer, it will only hurt more seriously and there is no way to treat it. Be brave to love, brave to express yourself, brave to expose yourself, the whole world will open up a different landscape for you.
Finally, love must also be the courage to give. Sometimes, if you count too clearly, you will inevitably lose a lot. Be brave and give, just like a farmer working hard in the spring. I believe that you will harvest a whole autumn full of sunshine and love. If you suffer from gain and loss at the beginning, refuse to pay half a point, for fear of loss, the last thing that greets you will be the cold and haze of the harsh winter.
Abandon fake intimate relationships, let us use communication, love and respect, and pay to harvest the most beautiful scenery of life.