Diana's life, brilliant, frustrated, but not happy, she thought that marrying Prince Charles would be happy, however, all this is just her wishful thinking, the reason why she will have all kinds of strange behavior after marriage, and her family is inseparable, especially her mother.
On July 1, 1961, the Spencer family was filled with joy, because the three generations of single-handed Count Spencer were about to have his third child, and this child was most likely a son, so that the family title would have an heir.
Having a son was extremely important to the Count of Spencer, and if he did not have an heir, then all his property could only be passed on to his brother, or his nephew, and the Count did not want this to happen.
About a year and a half ago, in 1959, Francis, the wife of the Count of Spencer, gave birth to a son, but the poor child survived less than 12 hours and died, which made the Count and Countess extremely sad, so they put all their hopes on the third child.
At 7:45 p.m. on July 1, 1961, accompanied by a cry of a baby, their third child was finally born, and Mrs. Spencer's first words were to ask, "Is this a boy?" She sighed heavily when she heard that it was a 6.3-pound baby girl, and she knew that her earl husband would certainly be very sad.
Sure enough, after learning that it was a girl, the originally prepared bonfire party, no one went to light it, the child was born a week ago has not yet been named, and even Spencer said that the child is just a perfect specimen, the child known as the "perfect specimen", is the honorable Princess Diana.
After Diana was born, the original warm and peaceful home was gone, her parents quarreled because she was not a boy, and her mother was asked to do various examinations because she was not a boy, which was a thing that hurt Frances' self-esteem, because she felt that she was not respected, but at that time, she was not very old, only 26 years old, for everything her husband did, she thought it was a great humiliation, fortunately, three years after giving birth to Diana, she finally gave birth to an heir!
The reason why Diana's mother Francis will feel humiliated is because she was originally born into the nobility, Francis is the daughter of Baron Fromoi, her mother is also from a prominent family, is the heiress of the American Walker family, her marriage with the Earl of Spencer family is not high, can only be regarded as a strong union, from childhood to live carefree, no need to please anyone, but now because of the child's matter has suffered great grievances, the seeds of resentment have sprouted in her heart.
In 1964, Francis finally gave birth to Diana's brother Charles Spencer, she was no longer willing to accommodate Count Spencer, the two began to tit-for-tat, she found herself active, like all new and beautiful things, but Spencer is a quiet and old-fashioned person, the two people's interests are too far apart, and as long as Count Spencer is angry, or drink too much will beat her, Diana is often frightened to hide behind the door, which has caused her to spend her life pleasing others and pursuing the approval of others.
In 1968, due to only quarrels and little warmth between him and the Count of Spencer, Francis fell in love with Peter Chand Deggy, and at that time, Peter's relationship with his wife Janet also came to an end, and before they could divorce, Francis could not wait to be with Peter, which directly deprived her of the initiative, and she did not win custody of the child.
After her parents divorced, 6-year-old Diana wanted to see her mother until the weekend, and every time it passed, her mother cried all the time, which was also an important factor that led to her fear of unhappy marriage after she married as an adult, so she thought that as long as she pleased others, she could get happiness.
The pain caused by her parents' divorce to Diana was far more than that, more of a sense of loneliness and humiliation, because in that era, there were not many divorced people, and Diana's parents were one of the few, so she was always afraid of being laughed at at school, because she was different from other classmates and felt painful.
However, the saddest scene for her finally came, in 1976, her father fell in love with a woman, and on July 14, 1977, she quietly married and became her stepmother, Diana and her sister and brother did not like the new stepmother very much, they thought that it was because of this woman that the mother divorced her father, so Diana encouraged her friends to write to her stepmother, which was full of insults.
Diana's stepmother was no ordinary person, the then 46-year-old Renee, the daughter of the famous British romance novelist Barbara Cattelan, grew up with a superior life, a frank and enthusiastic personality, always dressed elegantly, combing delicate hair ornaments, but this did not win her the love of the Spencer children.
Since Renee married into the Spencer family, the whole family has changed dramatically, the manor has been cut down and opened to the public, and the cowshed stables have been converted into teahouses and souvenir shops to earn money from tourists.
Within a few years, countless paintings, antiques and other works of art were sold cheaply. Diana and her sisters resent Renee's behavior, and they feel that the stepmother is like an old witch who specializes in destroying their family, but what makes them even more incomprehensible is that their father, the Earl of Spencer, always defends Rennie's rough way of running the family.
Diana had always been hostile to her stepmother, never willing to communicate with her, and when they were young, teasing Renee became fun for her and her brother Charles Spencer, she and her sisters let her brother pretend to dance with Renee, and then took the opportunity to trip her up, and they laughed happily when they saw it.
The four siblings also noticed that the stepmother was very powerful, particularly "sincere" for the noble, and very dismissive of the poor, so they decided to tease Rennie, and one day, Charles Spencer brought a friend home and asked the friend to pretend to be a rich man's child, and as a result, when his friend said that he was the son of a tycoon, Renee immediately said with a happy face: "Are you Hanna's son?" ”
This made Charles Spencer and others laugh, they like to use such jokes to make Rennie ugly, express their dislike for her, Diana's hatred for her stepmother was suppressed for a long time, but she never thought that when she became an adult, after experiencing the pain of marriage, this stepmother who made her hate incomparably became her close friend, giving her more tolerance and love than her mother Francis.
On December 31, 1989, Diana had a phone call with her lover, James Gilbe, and she kept telling James about what was happening around her, such as that she saw an injured little girl, or that she had just finished watching a movie, and that she hated Prince Charles, and finally said that she did not want Gilbe to be hurt a little.
On the phone, Gilbe called Diana "dear" fifty-three times and "warm nephrite" fourteen times, and said he wanted to take her into his arms and hug her tightly. He said, "Warm Nephrite, I love you, I love you, I love you!" ”
Early the next morning, however, the conversation between the two was exposed and became the front page news on New Year's Day 1990, with a big headline that caught the public's eye:
Princess Diana, 29, and "car dealer" James. Gibber's affectionate call log.
For a while, Diana's reputation was discredited, her image plummeted, the royal family was extremely angry at her behavior, she was subjected to public opinion and pressure from all sides, at this time, Diana thought of her mother Francis, sought her comfort and help, however, her mother not only did not give her comfort, but even criticized her, saying that she had lost face to the family.
In 1996, the royal family announced that Charles and Diana were divorced, and Diana was sad and once again thought of her mother, wanting to get a moment of warmth from her mother, as a result, her mother once again comforted and scolded her, saying that she should not divorce, but try to save, which made Diana more desperate.
At this moment, Diana suddenly thought of her stepmother, and thought of how sad she must have been when she was a child, when she resented her, incomprehension, and even ridiculed and teased! Therefore, she decided to apologize to her, but she did not expect that her stepmother not only did not calculate, but also enlightened, comforted her, and often chatted with tea about life, and the two were like a pair of close friends.
In 1997, when Diana was with her boyfriend Dody and planned to get married, her mother, Francis, not only did not support it, but also openly criticized her daughter in front of the media, saying that Diana's behavior was no different from that of a "prostitute"!
This caused Diana to break up completely with her mother, and in her final months, she did not say a word to her mother, made a phone call, and did not make peace with her mother until her death in a car accident on August 31, 1997.
Even at Diana's funeral, her mother only quietly went to the scene and secretly wiped her tears, perhaps at that moment, she realized that she had hurt her daughter, only to realize that she had lost the daughter she said was like a "prostitute" forever, but she could never say "sorry" to her daughter in person, and some apologies eventually became regrets.
Throughout Diana's life and her character, as well as her marriage, there are shadows from an unhappy childhood, and she is snubbed because she is not a "boy", so she learns to please, please others, and get a little attention.
Because of her parents' divorce, she is afraid of losing, because of her father's snub, she wants to be loved and cared for, because she has not been around her mother for a long time, she wants to get her mother's love, and because her parents are divorced, she feels that she is different from others.
When Charles and Camilla's relationship is exposed, Diana is swallowed up by an innate sense of fear, and her parents do not teach her how to face it, do not teach her how to love herself, and finally lead to the complete breakdown of the marriage.
It would be unfair to blame Francis for all this, who was only 26 years old when she gave birth to Diana, and who had already had three children (one of whom died prematurely) because of the child's death, and she was suspected of having a physical problem and was asked to do various examinations and suppress her pain and resentment for a long time.
In 1964, after Francis finally gave birth to a son, her long-term resentment broke out, knew how to resist but this caused the dissatisfaction of the Count of Spencer, so the two quarreled all the time, and even Spencer beat her, which made Francis, who was also from the nobility, intolerable, so it was common for her to choose divorce, for the children, she fought for custody, but the Count of Spencer could not let her raise the child, but the children would not understand, they only knew that the parents divorced, they were abandoned, Thus affecting their lives.
Diana's stepmother, Renee, has been an elegant person all her life, and she does not actually blame her in the face of the children's teasing, she is not the hateful "witch" in Diana's mouth, she cares deeply about her own image and reputation, on the contrary, she is a more understanding and tolerant lady than Francis, giving her relief at the lowest point of Diana's life.
Now that it has been 24 years since Diana's death, and her two mothers have also gone to Elysium, perhaps, in heaven, they will let go of those past events and forgive each other!