Brush entertainment news often see some stars such as Zhao Liying, Jiang Shuying, Song Zu'er, Tong Liya, etc. sometimes holding a plush toy or doll, and even male stars such as Wu Yifan, Xiao Zhan, Chen Tingwei, Wang Yuan and so on will hold a plush toy or doll. When I saw this situation when I was not yet a child, I felt that it was purely personal or attracted everyone's attention for the sake of concave shape.
When I have children, I see many children as well, holding dolls everywhere they go, including my daughter Miki before she goes to kindergarten. Although she doesn't bring her dolls with her when she goes out now, she must be inseparable from her favorite dolls when she sleeps at home. Why?
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Small appease dolls have a big effect
The second month after my daughter Miki was born, I bought her a Kaloo comfort doll and named Itknito. One is to exercise her grasping ability; the other is to have a doll to accompany her and give her a sense of security. Gradually, she treated the twisted rabbit as a little friend, whether she slept or woke up, she had to grab it, poke her eyes with her little finger, touch her ears, and play for half a day without crying or making trouble.
Once, when she spit on the milk, she soiled the twisted rabbit, and I washed the twisted rabbit. As a result, the sad thing happened, twisting the rabbit washed and dried for two days, she began to become anxious, even crying, and could not sleep for a long time. At first, I didn't find out that it was because of the doll, and I thought it was because she was uncomfortable. Twist the rabbit dry after giving it to her again, the moment she saw it, she smiled hahaha, grabbed it and held it. Holding her tightly as I slept, I had an epiphany about the importance of twisting the rabbit to her. It turns out that a small comfort doll can actually play a significant role in adjusting children's mood and sleep.
In order to avoid the child's uneasiness during the doll cleaning again, I bought a Kalo twisted bear, played with the dirty purple twisting rabbit during the day, and let the pink twisted bear sleep with it at night. Her two little friends stayed with her until she was two years old. On her second birthday, I gave her a bigger, dirt-tolerant Bonny rabbit, and since then I've been going out with the Bonnie rabbit.
My neighbor's child, when she was more than three years old, every time she took a nap, I could always see her holding a towel. Once, curiously, I asked the neighbor why her daughter had to take a towel when she got up. The neighbor said that in the past, her daughter used to sleep with her every time she slept or pinched the neighbor's clothes, and then stuffed her with a towel to drag when she slept, and over time, the neighbor's daughter could not leave the towel, and there was no towel to sleep. I later gave a bonny rabbit to my neighbor's daughter, and I never saw her hug her. The neighbor said that after many attempts, she still had to sleep with the towel in her arms. It turned out that the towel had long become her indispensable comforting partner and could not be replaced.
In fact, for newborns, the body's organs are not yet mature, hearing and vision are not yet perfect, the only thing that can stabilize the baby's mood and let the baby have a sense of security can only rely on the "sense of smell", so the mother's taste and long-term companionship dolls can bring the baby a sense of familiarity and security in many cases.
Many child development psychologists will encourage the introduction of a comforter to the child from this point onwards. When children have a need to seek comfort from a comforter, it just shows that this is a kind of progress, and it also shows that their sense of security is very sufficient, so they can take a step forward.
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When to introduce appease dolls
Every child has the need for an "emotional transition". Instead of developing into a child who likes to touch their mother's clothes, towels, or eat hands to soothe them, it is better to offer a more "healthy" way to replace.
1. When to introduce
The sooner the better, although the newborn baby will not grasp it, but the comfort doll can meet the baby's need for security from the smell.
2. Let the soothing dolls have the smell of mother
Before introducing a comfort doll to your baby, "bring" it to your mother for a few days and let the comfort doll attach a "mother's smell".
3. Start with the introduction of holding the baby and sleeping
Every time you hold the baby and read a picture book to the baby, you can stuff the comfort doll into the baby's holding, play with the baby during the day with the comfort doll, and personify the comfort doll to talk and interact with the baby. Let your baby's little hands touch the various parts of the appeased doll and tell your baby what it is, it will be a great touch experience game.
4. Do not choose dolls that are too large or too heavy
When choosing to soothe the doll, do not choose too large or too heavy dolls, the baby should often pick up and play, too big and too heavy will make the baby lose a good sense of experience.
5. Pay attention to the choice of material
Because the comfort doll will be in close contact with the child, every day will be held by the child or rubbed on the face, so you should choose a soft plush doll. For children under 2 years of age, try to choose short-haired or muppets to avoid having too long hairs eaten into the mouth by children. In addition, the problem of hair loss should also be paid attention to screening.
When a child is faced with a stressful situation, it can accompany the child to cope with it more independently. Think of when Miki was two years old and went to kindergarten, she never left me in a completely unfamiliar environment, and in order to alleviate her possible separation anxiety, she chose to take the comfort doll to kindergarten. Although the doll could only be placed in her bag and could not be taken out, she knew that with the doll not far away, she was no longer worried, and separation anxiety did not seem to her to have happened.
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Is always holding a comforting doll, causing fetish behavior?
Miki hugged a comfort doll everywhere he went, and a friend had kindly reminded me. It is not good to say that the child always holds a comfort doll, which is not conducive to the formation of an independent personality of the baby, in case of dependence on an item, what should I do if I can't quit it when I grow up?
After the baby has accepted the comfort doll, the need for the comfort doll is not only normal, but also healthy. Soothing dolls are one of the important emotional relationships that can establish a deep attachment to people and things, which can help them find an inner sense of security and gradually become independent.
A few cases are not ruled out as to whether there will be a dependency on appease dolls, but generally not. I think many people have a favorite doll when they were young, right? But now as parents, how many of us will rely on them?
If moms are really worried about this problem, prepare a few more comfort dolls for their babies. Just like Miki, I buy her dolls in different periods and let her choose her favorite. In this way, the baby will not be particularly dependent on a certain one, just like Miki, who is now more than four years old, basically does not hold dolls during the day, and only holds the two small rabbits that are fixed at night.
When it is found that the child is overly attached to the doll, it is not possible to reprimand or laugh at the child, and it is not possible to forcibly snatch the child's doll. Some parents think that the behavior of their children's fetish is a manifestation of squeamishness and timidity. Sometimes they also say children, "How can you be so timid?", "So old and still holding toys, not ashamed" and so on. In order to change their children's problems, more parents will force their children to give up comforting dolls. As everyone knows, the child holds a comfort doll, showing the child's inner tension sometimes, and can only rely on this doll to ease emotions in specific occasions. Reprimands and ridicule can only increase children's inferiority and guilt, and parents must not be hard.
Moreover, as a parent, if you provide your child with a wealth of daytime activities and give your child high-quality companionship and interaction, you do not have to worry about this aspect.
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