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Many people may not know that Ma Yili once had a very good girlfriend named Liang Jing, but unfortunately many years ago, two people fell in love with a man at the same time, and finally the girlfriend broke off, and there was no contact for many years.
This man is Guan Hu.
To be precise, after Ma Yili and Guan Hu talked for four years, he turned around and married Liang Jing. At that time, there were many people who said that Guan Hu liked the new and was tired of the old, and some people suspected that Liang Jing's interference in the feelings of his girlfriend was immoral.
However, after so many years, the prejudices against the two of them seemed to be very wrong, and they loved each other for more than ten years, and finally found that the two of them were really compatible.
However, as a girlfriend, Ma Yili does not seem to have such a good life, and she has been married to the article for many years and finally cannot escape the result of divorce.
Many people can't understand that Ma Yili and Liang Jing are the kind of strong women who will do it without a word, but why after so many years, the fate of the two is very different.
In my opinion, the biggest difference between them is still their personality, especially ambition and compromise.
Continue with a cup of tea and listen to me slowly start from Liang Jing.
For Liang Jing's family background, there is very little information on the Internet, only that she graduated from the people's liberation army art college in Chinese and entered the entertainment circle in 1994 by hosting the program "Music Magnetic Field".
In fact, far more than that, it is reported that her father is a forward literary troupe actor and is quite famous in the local area. My mother is also an actress.
From the beginning of her understanding, Liang Jing hid behind the curtain, watching the actors perform on stage, make up behind the scenes, wear beautiful costumes, press the lever, and practice, so that she had a deep understanding and experience of this industry.
Coupled with the militarized management and learning, Liang Jing has a little more wit, frankness and a characteristic boyish heroism.
Compared with Liang Jing, Ma Yili's growth process seems to be much weaker.
Born in a very ordinary family, the parents are ordinary workers, but for the daughter, the family has always been "rich".
Although her family was not very wealthy, she not only enrolled in classes when she went to school, but also signed her up for dance.
So that in this environment, Ma Yili has developed an independent, strong and confident personality, and even some strong.
As the saying in "The First Half of My Life": Instead of letting others play umbrellas, it is better to give yourself umbrellas, study, work, and life, so the sooner you do this, the better.
Ma Yili has learned since she was a child that anything she wants must rely on herself to fight for it.
So later, when he joined the variety dance team of Shanghai Television Station, he earned that year's tuition on his own.
In essence, Liang Jing and Ma Yili are not "princess" personalities, assertive and independent.
Otherwise, two people wouldn't be attracted to each other and become friends. In dealing with life and career problems, the two people are not much different, but emotionally, the two are very different.
When it comes to the emotional entanglement of the three people, in fact, it has nothing to do with Liang Jing at the beginning.
Guan Hu, who was the fifth generation director at that time, had not yet become famous, and after making a movie, it was buried.
In 1997, Guan Hu once again planned to shoot "Night Walker", and at a glance selected Ma Yili, who was still in school, although she only showed her face in the film at that time, Guan Hu seemed to have some appreciation.
At this time, Liang Jing, who has hosted "Music Magnetic Field" for three years, has not yet stepped into the ranks of filming.
In 2000, Guan Hu prepared to shoot the TV series "Black Hole", in order to save money, he invited all his familiar friends, including his ex-girlfriend Kong Lin, including good buddy Huang Bo, including Ma Yili, who had a relationship with one side, and Liang Jing, who had just filmed.
Because of this play, Liang Jing and Ma Yili became girlfriends because of similar personalities, and thus got acquainted with the golden single Guan Hu. The three of them just got mixed up.
In "Black Hole", Ma Yili played a three-year-old girl, who was very charming with a smile and made Guan Hu quite satisfied. It didn't take long for her to have a romance with Guan Hu.
Ma Yili has her own standards for choosing a boyfriend, she once said that she does not like businessmen, feels too eager to make quick profits, she likes mature men with successful careers, but must have filial piety.
Obviously, this director was born, a talented Guan Hu, which is her standard boyfriend's choice.
In fact, she talked about a handsome guy in college, the two belonged to love at first sight, the boy was tall, handsome, and like many people, the feelings on campus were very pure, there was no selfish distraction, but the relationship ended when he graduated.
The three people in this period are very friendly to outsiders, and Ma Yili is also very lucky, with a director boyfriend, a like-minded girlfriend, and a steady stream of film appointments.
But no one expected that during that period, Liang Jing was also moved by Guan Hu, but all this was only buried in his heart.
Born in the military, she does not know how to express her inner feelings, and she knows very well that as a girlfriend, no matter what the reason is, you should not destroy the feelings of others, which is the minimum principle.
Therefore, Liang Jing was sandwiched between Guan Hu and Ma Yili, becoming a bridge of mutual communication.
In the years with Guan Hu, Ma Yili started very quickly, and Guan Hu tailored "Xi Shi Eye" for her, which made Ma Yili famous in one fell swoop.
To this end, she also got the role of Xia Ziwei in "Huan Zhu Ge Ge III: Heaven and Earth", and her career was in full swing.
After "Black Hole", Guan Hu also beat his fame with works such as "Winter Solstice", "Seven Days", and "Migrant Workers of Survival".
At that time, it was felt that the two of them had found the right person for each other, and they were achieving each other, and in time, the two were absolutely extraordinary.
Only Liang Jing, after filming "Police Have a Date" and won a best supporting actress award, she never saw her figure again.
However, as Guan Hu and Ma Yili became more and more famous, more and more scenes were filmed, so that the time for the two people to get together was less and less, and the contradiction began to appear.
Whenever two people have a conflict, Liang Jing plays a round field left and right in it.
Unexpectedly, some feelings are doomed to go to the end, and in 2004, Guan Hu and Ma Yili chose to break up.
In less than a year, Guan Hu and Liang Jing came to the news of the marriage, which stunned everyone for a while.
To this end, Ma Yili and Liang Jing's girlfriend relationship broke down and never came back again.
At a prize receiving event many years later, Ma Yili chose not to attend, because Liang Jing appeared, which shows how much this incident hurt her heart.
Ma Yili and Guan Hu broke up, and many people expressed surprises, but in fact, their own personalities were not suitable.
Once in the show, Guan Hu was asked: "You and Ma Yili have lived together for many years, why did you break up?" ”
He said: "She was too strong. In fact, Ma Yili's strength is obvious to everyone, and she is also very strong emotionally, and she has to decide on big and small things, and it will be very tiring to be with her."
Guan Hu is a very casual big man, but in fact, he is a small boy who needs to be taken care of.
And Ma Yili, who is thriving in her career, can't let go of everything to be the woman behind the man.
She once said: "You can't change Guan Hu's personality, otherwise, his achievements in art will be reduced, and I can only go with the flow." ”
But for an ambitious and purposeful woman, how easy is it to conform to others?
But Liang Jing is different, she knows Guan Hu, she thinks that Guan Hu is a person with a full personality and advocating freedom. The in him, marriage and family tying him up, is a completely impossible thing. So there has to be someone to compromise.
You must know that in the first year of acquaintance, Liang Jing had a different feeling for Guan Hu.
She once said: "The first time I met Guan Hu, he was dressed very sloppily, with a big beard, thin hair, and no trimming at all, but I unexpectedly felt 'this is the aura'." "The so-called aura may be love at first sight.
But at that time, Guan Hu and Ma Yili were together, and she had no way to fight for it, so she chose to endure and wait.
This guard is 5 years, five years, Liang Jing has shaken countless times, feeling that she is too stupid to stay by this man's side, but there seems to be a voice in the dark telling her to persevere.
So in the end she had to comfort herself and say, "Follow your own voice, if I don't wait I will be very uncomfortable, because I love this person, I don't wait for him, I look for someone, because I still love him, then I will simply wait." ”
Unexpectedly, the result is really like that, Liang Jing waited for his love. Although it seems a little immoral, but who can say that love is clear?
Ma Yili's biggest problem is that she is self-centered, unwilling to communicate with her relatives around her, and has no patience to listen.
However, Liang Jing is different, when she first fell in love with Guan Hu, she quarreled and quarreled, but she had an advantage, that is, she was willing to listen.
Every time there is a quarrel, Guan Hu will teach her: "You have to learn to control your emotions, if the stone collides with the stone, it must be a lose-lose situation." Women are water, you can't even control your emotions, you still want to control me. ”
It sounded very rough, but Liang Jing understood the meaning, and only then did she understand that since she loved each other, she should not do anything to hurt each other.
Liang Jing seems to give people a fiery, fashionable and capable strong woman image, in fact, she knows better than anyone what is a real marriage relationship.
"The chai rice oil and salt in life, bit by bit, will really wear away a person's insistence on his own ideals, especially if he marries such a man, he is very idealistic, and I should protect his ideals." 」 "If I marry someone who is not as strong as me, then I am supreme, then I am strong." But if I find a man who is stronger than me, I should assist him, because two people can't be strong together. Strong together will definitely go wrong. ”
Therefore, she is willing to be the woman behind Guan Hu, which is not a compromise or a tolerance, but a mutual help and cooperation between husband and wife.
Many people envy the love between them, and it is not easy to handle the marriage relationship harmoniously for more than ten years. In fact, for them, it is not difficult.
"Nothing to worry about, I thought it through myself. The relationship between the two of us may not be understood by the average person. Our outlook on life and values are basically the same, and if there is a dispute, it is all trivial, and we try not to allow these trivial things to spend the night. When friends get married, I give them three words: communication, space, and trust. I think the main thing is communication. If there is no communication, you will guess, and then the contradiction will become deeper and deeper. ”
Although Ma Yili has experienced more emotionally than Liang Jing, her understanding of marriage is still far less than hers.
After the article derailed many years ago, Ma Yili responded to his attitude with "do it and cherish it", and now it seems that it is just a stopgap measure.
Ma Yili is a woman who can't tolerate sand in her eyes, so no amount of explanation and effort will help, and the things she believes will never change, but in the world of marriage, how can one person say the truth?
In this era, it is not that the more experienced it means that the more experienced, feelings and marriage are the most difficult problems in this world, but communication, tolerance, and trust must be the root that can resolve all problems.
It is undeniable that Ma Yili's divorce from the article is a mistake, and perhaps she will meet someone she loves more in the near future, but if she cannot understand the true meaning of marriage, the happiness index may not have Liang Jinggao.
And Liang Jing, after having children with Guan Hu, did not completely detach herself from her own essential work, nor did she let herself become an "old mother", she has her own goals and directions, and under the balance of career and family, she is more mature and wise.
Such an attractive woman, which man does not like?
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Original Author: Zuo Xiaocai
A pseudo-youth pretending to be literary
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