Someone once said: a good woman is a good school! I know it.
What I call strict wife management is the kind of woman who never lets her husband make mistakes on many issues of principle, and I am indeed marrying back such a wife, making me a veritable wife and strict; my wife Zhang Tong was a colleague with me before marriage, and she often said that I was a typical "rotten good person" in the company, a rotten good person without principles! Friends who are in trouble, I am certainly obliged to lend a helping hand, even if that friend does something illegal, I never shy away!
In fact, I am enthusiastic, there is no other ability, can not see the friends have a problem, I also admit that I do not have any principles, I thought, anyway, to help others, who still wants to have a stake here, who still wants to distinguish what responsibilities, what consequences? As soon as I mentioned helping others, my brain was hot and I was eager to use all my strength. Zhang Tong said that this point of mine, like a good man in ancient times, is both stupid and cute! So she had to manage me in. It was for this reason that she married me magnificently!
After getting married, she said that she wanted to make rules for me, at first I didn't care, who knew that when I was just married, the next day I went back to the door, I went to her mother's house. On the third day, she talked to me in a real, serious way, about making rules. I muttered in my heart: Don't you just want to manage my money so that it can be moved to your mother's house? I thought: As long as she doesn't go too far, I will open my eyes and close my eyes, who let me put this wife in charge?
Who would have thought that my wife Zhang Tong would really seriously divide my affairs into two categories according to people and things, make a special list of individuals I have interacted with in the past, and then specially divide the unreliable things I have done in the past into a large category, always reminding me that I can't do this, or this person wants me to stay away from him; at the same time, for an absolutely legitimate reason, I have confiscated my salary card, the name: comprehensive supervision of me!
At the beginning, I felt uncomfortable, my former friend needed help, I had to report to her, and then, waiting for her approval, reply! Before it was three days of drinking with friends at both ends, how comfortable and happy, now, I am Luo Pot up the mountain, front tight! It is inconvenient at hand, and the tone is not hard when it comes to speaking! I feel that in front of my friends, I really have no face!
For former friends, some people even if they have something to do and need help, Zhang Tong also tried his best to stop me and prevent me from associating with them, and she also said it beautifully: This is all for your own good! They are the kind of people, you better stay away, these people are not a problem of help or not, but a problem of not being able to communicate at all! Sometimes, when I was forced to be anxious, I would yell at her with my throat straight: I have lived for twenty or thirty years, and who do I still use you to manage? She smiled and said, "You'll know later!"
After the fact, it turned out that my wife was right, married for more than ten years, some of the friends I used to associate with, some of them have been in and out of the bureau, gradually, I am far away from them, they also know that Zhang Tong managed me very tightly, and no longer came to me, so that I saved a lot of trouble; my past wine and meat friends basically did not come to me, these ten years, they spent how much money on the wine table is not to say, and there are a few drunken drunks who either went to see Marx or suffered from various diseases. Some are also heavily in debt!
And since I married Zhang Tong, she has taken good care of our family every day, in addition to taking good care of the elderly and children in the family, she also tightly controlled the family's economy and did not let me spend a penny outside! At the end of each year, she would report to me how much money we had saved at home this year! It seems that she did not spend more money on her mother's house!
Over the years, I have truly felt that I am much more mature than before, both in my thinking and in my dealings with people, at least, I have learned to calculate the consequences for what things will cause adverse consequences, and I am no longer the stunned young boy I used to be! At the same time, Zhang Tong clearly formulated several systems, which are the "red lines" that I cannot touch in my life, and I am now announcing them, hoping that the old irons will supervise my implementation:
1. Stay away from tobacco and alcohol, and do not participate in meaningless parties;
2, throw away those jianghu righteousness, away from those past wine and meat friends;
3, do not be allowed to fill the head outside, as long as it is a party with friends, it is best to advocate the AA system, everyone fair communication, no credit, no debt!
4. Frequently visit both parents and often go home to accompany the elderly;
It can be said that in the past ten years, I have done all four of these things, and now when I look at my family, it is the harmony of husband and wife, the filial piety of fathers and sons, and the joy of family! I really didn't expect that I would have a strict wife and live so moistly, thank God for giving me such a good daughter-in-law!