Romain Rolland said: 20 years old is the age when dreams flow freely. 30 years old is the age of reality and randomness.
I don't know when it started, 30-year-old women suddenly have social standards to live.
In the secular definition, a 30-year-old woman with a baby has become the standard, and marriage has become an indicator.
In fact, 30 years old is the most beautiful age, 30 years old women have stability in terms of ideology, economy and so on.
30-year-old women, they are beautiful and more feminine and attractive at the same time.
Kan Qingzi, 33, has her own anxiety.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" > age anxiety</h1>
At the age of 30, Kan Qingzi always thought that she was in her best years, living a free life in a big city, with money and a job and her own free time.
At the age of 33, Kan Qingzi suddenly developed a sense of anxiety about age. It turned out that during this year, she encountered two rejections, all because of her age, and the director and actors hated that she was too old to cooperate with her.
In Kan Qingzi's cognition, an actress should be most valued for her acting skills. She was rejected 2 times because of her age, which was the aspect of her blow.
In this era of strong involution, the stars of the entertainment industry have also encountered it. Kan Qingzi revealed a lot of work, if you call you once, you will not come. Then you will not have a job offer, and people will not use you next time.
This is where second-tier actors are passive. There is no confidence in the first-line actors of the big coffee, and I hope to be able to make myself hot through exposure. Anxiety arises naturally.
Will the frequent participation of celebrities in variety shows affect filming? Kan Qingzi believes that she does not participate in variety shows frequently and shoots dramas every year. It's just that the broadcast rate of variety shows is higher and the amount of exposure is also greater.
As an actress, Kan Qingzi lamented that she could not solve that every play could be broadcast on time. As long as you make yourself excellent, you can resist this anxiety.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="17" > drove 300,000 cars</h1>
Kan Qingzi once said that she could not afford to buy a house of 20,000 yuan in Shanghai Yiping, and she still rents a house in Shanghai.
Why can't afford to buy a house of 20,000 yuan in Shanghai, buying a house in Shanghai is a prerequisite. Putting aside those conditions, Kan Qingzi is not unable to afford a house, but he can't afford a mansion. Refer to Zheng Shuang's 150 million mansions in Shanghai. Kan Qingzi did not yet have the economic strength of Zheng Shuang.
Kan Qingzi currently drives 300,000 cars, compared to other female stars who often have millions of luxury cars, Kan Qingzi is really a very grounded actress.
She has one of her biggest dreams, which is to be able to open a shop after retirement. Taking advantage of the fact that she can still make money from filming, she wants to try to do a side business and open a store, in order to give herself an economic sense of security without drama.
Kan Qingzi has opened restaurants, education and other stores, all of which have failed.
Kan Qingzi opened a one-day pop-up coffee shop at Dong Li's container shop. Kan Qingzi's execution is really strong, saying that he will do it, and it takes a day's preparation time to open a store.
She invited her good friend Zhang Lanxin. Zhang Lanxin is a woman with connotations, she is bold, real and hardworking. She alone managed to help Kan Qingzi win half of the business.
If you don't know, you really think that this shop is opened by Zhang Lanxin.
In the end, Kan Qingzi's shop naturally failed due to lack of experience. Kan Qingzi, Wang Wensi, and Zhang Lanxin were busy for a day, and after deducting 200 yuan of staff fees to Zhang Lanxin and Wang Wensi, they also lost 148 yuan.
And that doesn't include the cost of shop rent, utilities and coffee beans.
If you calculate it carefully, Kan Qingzi lost at least a thousand yuan this day.
You still have to shoot a good movie, don't open a store. This was Zhang Lanxin's advice to Kan Qingzi, and besides Dong Li, she was the second person to admonish Kan Qingzi.
Zhang Lanxin is definitely a friend who lives thoroughly and deserves to be deeply made.
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Kan Qingzi is a very real and grounded actress, she does not have much ambition and desire.
If she hadn't gone to a big city to become an actress, Kan Qingzi thought that she could live happily in a small city, and that she would have her own hobbies and jobs in a small city, and she could better support herself and live more comfortably.
You don't have to be happier in a big city.
Kan Qingzi believes that living in a big city is stressful, and it is possible that after twenty or thirty years of struggle, he still can't get what he wants. Time passed quietly, her parents gradually grew old, her struggle was worthless, but she lost time to accompany her parents.
Kan Qingzi believes that there is a lot of pressure in big cities, and he also urges young girls to not think that finding a rich man will be worry-free.
Rich men are more concerned about equal love. Whether women are strong and men are weak or men are weak, there is inequality, and sooner or later such inequality will collapse one day.
Women still have to rely on themselves, they are strong, in order to find a better man.
After a sister-brother relationship with Ji Lingchen, Kan Qingzi was very opposed to sister-brother love. She thinks that the chances of a sibling love breaking up are too great, and she is not willing to spend her youth growing up with a boy who has not seen the world.
She couldn't wait anymore, and she didn't want to wait any longer. She wants to find a companion for men of the same level who understand her understanding. Kan Qingzi wanted to find a man who had seen the world as evenly matched.
The word "understand" alone carries a lot of weight. First of all, for a man to understand you, he must be mature, successful in his career, and have connotations. Such men generally look for women in their twenties, so why look for a woman who is 30+?
This is Kan Qingzi's current embarrassment, her family has been urging marriage, and it has not been able to move. She was also a little numb, and could even be said to be enjoying the life of being single alone.
If the 33-year-old Kan Qingzi is looking for a man of the same age, or older than himself, he is basically married.
What do you think of a second-married man? Kan Qingzi believes that married men are just one more card, and there is no need to exclude second-married men.
I remembered that Wu Xin had also expressed in front of his mother that he did not mind the second marriage of men. The odds that 38-year-old Wu Xin wants to find an excellent man of the same age and single are already very low.
Kan Qingzi believes that a second-married man does not mean that it is bad, and she values more that the two people have the same three views and can get along. She doesn't mind finding a second-married man.
After all, he was still injured, which was Jiang Sida's summary of Kan Qingzi.
After Kan Qingzi and Ji Lingchen broke up, she seems to have been grumpy, and has been evaluating this sister-brother relationship in front of the camera, and has not given praise, objectively speaking, she has not really come out.
After a failed relationship, Kan Qingzi actually changed, and she became more mature. She knows how to spend her mind on herself, and she knows how to rely on herself, not to cling to a man.
Women themselves become excellent in order to attract equally good men.
Women reach the age of 30+ and know how to deal with themselves and their relationships.
That's happiness.