In the circle of friends, a mother who has had a child for more than three years suddenly changed her avatar into a picture of "no loss of twenty pounds and no change of avatar", and after a few words of chat, she said that she and her husband attended the unit party together, and the result was lost.
Because after he came back, his husband said that his colleague asked him, "Is my wife changed?" "You should know that this mother friend has never weighed 3 figures before marriage, but now it has been stable at about 120 pounds."
On the spot, she was not too calm, looking at herself in the mirror, and then looking at the photos of a few years ago, it was like two people.
Since getting married, she has been preoccupied with her family and has never paid attention to her body again. In the past, I only heard others say that once a woman gets married and has children and becomes a yellow-faced woman, it is difficult to grasp her husband's heart.
Therefore, she suddenly had a sense of crisis - although she was messing around, her husband's age was the golden stage in a man's life, and there were infinite possibilities.
Because of the friend's matter, I couldn't help but fall into contemplation.
Most people strive to show their best side to each other before they get married.
However, with the increase of time spent together, especially after marriage, the ears are grinding, so hiccups, farts, purring, teeth picking... These vices arise without hesitation.
Especially after women have children, most of the focus of life attention has shifted to children, it is difficult to care for themselves, but they do not know that when a woman neglects to manage herself, it is also a subtle change in feelings.
Women with high appearance and good figure are always more able to attract men's attention, and everyone yearns for beautiful things.
After middle age, do men still mind their women's looks and figures? The answers of the men are really heartbreaking.
@Mr. Zhang
Mr. Zhang has been married for 7 years and the child is almost 5 years old.
He said that before marriage, his wife was a very beautiful woman, who paid great attention to personal image, and had to spend an hour or two on makeup before each date, and the two often had friction because of the dating time.
At that time, the wife said who doesn't want to be a beautiful little fairy? A woman's youth is short, seize this limited time, dress yourself well, and live up to the years.
Mr. Zhang is also irrefutable, although he thinks that women do not wear makeup and nothing, but which man is not willing to take a beautiful woman out, so that he has face.
The wife is still quite beautiful, plus 7 points of dressing, friends and colleagues are envious of Mr. Zhang married such a heavenly fairy-like girl, his own heart is also beautiful.
However, after the wife gave birth to the child, everything changed at home full-time.
Every day is a big T-shirt and shorts, and the hair is just casually pulled in a bun. There is more supplementary nutrition before giving birth, and after the child is born, the wife takes care of the baby all day and has no time to recover.
At first, he often complained that he had sacrificed too much, and slowly he became accustomed to it. Every time Mr. Zhang came home from work, he saw his wife's disheveled appearance, because of the exhaustion of childcare.
He said that he missed his wife who liked to dress herself up beautifully, but he also understood that his wife was really hard, it was not easy to take children alone, and life could be like this.
No one can be beautiful forever, and the well-dressed women in the TV series are probably not eating human fireworks.
@Mr. Lee
Mr. Li's child is less than 1 year old and his wife is breastfeeding.
In the past, when he chased his wife, he spent a lot of effort, and she was the courtyard flower of their unit.
But when he really got married, especially after his wife gave birth to a child, Mr. Li suddenly had a very tired feeling.
He said that in the past, when he saw his wife, he always felt pleasant, but she gave birth to a child, and there were many stretch marks on her body and a lot of pregnancy spots on her face.
Although the wife's figure has recovered to a certain extent, no matter how you look at it, it is the appearance of having a child.
He didn't quite understand why someone else's wife was in better shape and had much more delicate skin than before after giving birth to a child, and why his wife seemed to have changed into a person, several years older.
In fact, men who have such ideas as Mr. Li also occupy a certain number.
Women who have given birth to children will have a period of time to recover, some people have a shorter process, some people will grow a little longer, on the one hand, they need personal will, on the other hand, they cannot do without the encouragement of their families.
However, Mr. Li has high requirements for his wife, but he has not practiced it, accompanied his wife to exercise together, and strived to restore his body shape as much as possible to before giving birth.
And after having a child, a woman needs the warmth of the family even more, and cold words will only make her feel cold.
If men only pursue women's figure and appearance excessively, and thus ignore women's real needs, I am afraid that it will cause great harm to feelings.
@Mr. Lin
Mr. Lin, who has been married for nearly two decades, said that he and his wife have long belonged to the rich type of figure.
He ran a small company, and in the early years, his wife started a business with him, and he did not suffer less. When people reach middle age and their children grow up, Mr. Lin let his wife return to the family.
He said that it was enough for a man to struggle in the family, and his wife had worked hard for the first half of her life, and it was time to enjoy life.
Speaking of his wife's figure and appearance, Mr. Lin said that after so many years together, who would take these as the focus. The key is the tacit understanding of the two people together, and the mutual care of each other.
Of course, everyone likes beautiful women, but the wife is still the original match, people will always be old, and it is not a sad thing that the beauty is late.
After middle age, do men still care about women's looks and figures?
Definitely care. Who does not want his wife to grow face for himself, but people's aging and body shape are inevitable.
The figure can be exercised, but the face cannot get around the scratches of the years.
When a man and a woman are together, the most important thing is whether the two people live a good life with one heart and one mind. External things, in fact, are not the point.
However, if a woman can manage her own body while running a good marriage, why not be a more perfect thing.
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