By example, this word is not unfamiliar to everyone!
Because we can see such a plot in various TV series or movies: a chivalrous man with a sense of justice saves a woman who is bullied by bad people by chance.
The woman felt that she did not have a particularly valuable gift to return to the benefactor, so she promised herself and used the rest of her life to repay the benefactor. According to the normal plot development, the two people have loved each other since then, achieving a good marriage story.
Such an ending is undoubtedly beautiful, and it is also the most anticipated and recognized by the audience, especially the recognition of female audiences.
Why?
Because making a promise to each other is often accompanied by a hero saving beauty!
For women, even if they are not princesses, they will not meet princes. But at least I had hoped that my other half would one day step on the colorful clouds to marry herself. And this is the typical hero to save the United States, when the desire in women's hearts becomes a reality, then under normal circumstances, they will be willing to give their own consent. In this case, after the two are happy, the ending is undoubtedly beautiful.
But there is another situation in which the body is allowed. That is, you are kind to me, I can only promise each other, I thought I would fall in love with you, but in the end I did not really fall in love with you.
So in this marriage, women will always suppress themselves and convince themselves, but when the admirer who really likes women in their hearts appears, the marriage that seems to be happy will be in jeopardy.
The recent hit drama "The Sea of Stars", starring Liu Tao and Lin Feng, has such a bridge section: the heroine mother played by Liu Tao, because her husband is kind to her family, will be willing to marry a tailor who she originally did not look up to. Later, because of the birth of her daughter Jane Ai, coupled with the considerate care of her husband all the time, her mother suppressed her heart, and on the surface it seemed that this was also a happy and loving family.
Daughter Jane Ai wrote the essay "My Mom and Dad", which won an award in school. And this article is exactly what Jane Eyre wrote about having a happy home.
But reality often jealous of all the good stuff!
On the day Jane Eyre's first menarche came, because she came home early, she broke her mother's private affair. And so began a tragedy.
When Dad learned that Mom had cheated on him, he was furious. From the initial anger and irritation to the helplessness and grievance when she finally heard that my mother insisted on leaving, this showed my father's wishful thinking all the time. The mother's resolute departure, even the dearest daughter can not keep her, so the excessive father did something ridiculous under the impulse.
When she woke up the next morning, Jane Eyre had become an orphan from a little princess. Mom and Dad left her forever.
Mom's desperation and father's impulse are not achieved overnight, in this marriage, in fact, there have been problems long ago.
Early in the morning, my mother had just woken up and watched her husband still busy in front of the sewing machine without sleeping, and she did not care about the inquiry. But it was the husband who thoughtfully said that he was going to make breakfast. When he went out, the husband saw that his mother, who had not eaten a few bites, did not take anything and left, and chased out in a hurry, handing over an umbrella and a warm meal.
Looking at the princess dress that her husband who had not slept all night and sewed for her daughter overnight, and watching the breakfast made by her husband, my mother was not touched in the slightest.
Dad's wishful thinking can only be a shackle in the eyes of mom, a shackle.
This marriage was a mistake in the eyes of my mother, so when my husband questioned himself and asked his mother and lover to break up, my mother said what she had always wanted to say: "At that time, I was too young to mistake gratitude for love." ”
Because of her mother's inner depression, she will not hesitate to say that they are not a world at all, can not live, she will resolutely divorce such words.
It wasn't that Jane Eyre had broken her mother's private affair, and this ridiculous thing didn't know how long her mother would hide it.
The seemingly happy marriage on the surface is actually because of a woman's repression, and if there is no painter, then there will be another painter in this marriage. This marriage will eventually go to an end.
To be gracious is to say that one's noble moral sentiments are high. However, in real life, if you encounter kindness that you cannot repay for the time being, then please do not do things against your will. Especially in women's hearts, we must clearly know our own principles and bottom lines, all the roads in this world have to be taken step by step, and taking shortcuts will eventually pay a price.
The same is true for kindness, we are grateful, and pass on this kindness, even if we can't repay the kindness of others now, but one day we will pay off this human kindness in another way.
Secondly, as women, we must first know that we are not a commodity, and marriage is not a transaction!
No matter what kind of kindness, unless it is love, the rest cannot be promised by body. This is the bottom line and the principle.
There are only two ways to reciprocate kindness. One is still now, one will be returned later.
Later, I will say later, and now there are no more than two kinds.
Can afford and can't afford to pay back.
You can afford to be afraid, and you can't afford to be nothing more than two.
Don't go beyond the bottom line and go beyond the bottom line.
If you don't go beyond the bottom line, you are not afraid, and if you want you to pay back beyond the bottom line, it is not called grace, that is called emotional blackmail, emotional kidnapping!
In this case, you have to think about the other party's motivation.
Especially now, some men like to help girls in various names, saying that it is okay and doing it by hand. In fact, he wants you to accept his human feelings. When encountering such people, we must keep an eye on it and be cautious.
Girls are always easily moved by the hero's rescue of beauty, so they can't distinguish between grace and love. When true love comes, they are helpless and even do ridiculous things, so I advise all women, heroes save the United States, but more often in various critical situations can save us is still ourselves.
So the real heroes are always ourselves, not others!