The day before, he was just exposed to be slashing his husband with a knife to the police station, and the next day he issued a divorce statement with lightning speed. Suddenly, the whole network was circled by Zhang Yuqi, a decisive and neat domineering royal sister, and even some netizens said that "domestic violence should be sentenced, but Zhang Yuqi dares to love and hate."
After 19 days, today for the first time more Bo, for the newly recorded variety show "Challenge Bar Space" publicity, still full of vitality, it seems as if the person who was caught in domestic violence and divorce some time ago was not her.
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Most people are impressed by Zhang Yuqi's dashing treatment of feelings, and even pursued. But the reality is that we all long to say love and love, and if we want to let go, we turn away and don't look back, but we are pulled by the memory.
A sentence seen on the Internet a long time ago, "Why can the marriages of the parents' generation almost go hand in hand?" Because in their time, when things were broken, they would only think about sewing and mending for another three years, and now, when our things are broken, the first reaction is to give up. ”
abandon? It's actually the most powerless choice, especially in relationships, because it means that your time and efforts will become meaningless, and even the memories will be slightly pale.
To suddenly pull away from the person who has been with you for a period of warmth, probably few people can really do nothing. Even if you continue to live calmly and calmly on the surface, deleting all traces related to ta, the mobile phone input method will stubbornly remind you that ta has been here.
I have a friend, Coco, whose first love was a tall and handsome boy in the next class in high school, who fell in love at first sight on the side of the basketball court.
So I secretly inquired about everything related to him, and also bought a beautiful diary to record his little crush. Carrying a bottle of water at every sunset on the side of the basketball court, carefully preparing gifts for every festival that does not fall, every day of life has his shadow presence.
It took her three years to finally turn the boy into her boyfriend on graduation day.
We all think that if they keep the clouds open and see the moon, they can see the sun. However, after a long crush, the boy is accustomed to Coco's almost bottomless goodness to him, and Coco is more afraid that he will suddenly leave one day, so he repeatedly compromises in this unequal relationship, divides and merges, and finally lets go.
Therefore, constantly compromising, "stitching and patching" in the feelings, the crack will only become a scar, ugly and prominent, it will not be smoothed out with time, but faintly painful on every "rainy day".
Some people envy and admire Zhang Yuqi's decisive determination to feel emotional, but I am a little distressed about her. On the surface, "dare to love and dare to hate", but it is another scar on the heart. Just like Mao Xiaotong, who quickly moved after finding her boyfriend split his legs for four hours, he pretended to be calm on the surface, but in fact, his hands were shaking when he sent messages to his friends.
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In the "Spit Conference", Zhang Yuqi frankly confessed her emotional history, domineeringly saying, "My vision of choosing a man is indeed not good, but I can." In a short sentence, he achieved his status as a queen. Not attached, not far-fetched, I can love you, or I can let you go alone.
I have my own life capital, so I can leave you so decisively.
Why is it that girls who buy their own lipstick and bags are the hardest to chase?
"Now girls can buy their own clothes and red envelopes, eating, drinking and having fun housework can be solved, and boys give them love." Because they value men's ability, sense of responsibility, and character more. The funny thing is that the girls are self-sufficient and want to be the president, and the boys want to find a wife to be a nanny. When you meet girls who buy and buy, they say that they worship gold and spend money indiscriminately, should boys reflect on it, girls could have lived a good life by themselves, why should they lower their living grade after being with you? ”
Whether it is in the circle of friends or the major short video apps, the girls seem to have suddenly found an emotional outlet, and they are busy labeling themselves - "I am such a girl".
As everyone said, "The funny thing is that girls are self-reliant to become presidents, and boys still want to find a wife to be a nanny." While clamoring for economic equality between men and women, on the other hand, he has identified the family status of male superiority over female inferiority in his bones.
The "seams and patches" of the parents' generation are because the women of that era are weak in life, and few of them can live a better life on their own after divorce, so they are infinitely compromised and passively accepted. It seems like a full life, but if you ask her if she is happy? The answer is unknown.
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We often look for love in other people's lenses.
"The boy who can coax his girlfriend the most on the whole network" and "She has a hundred reasons to be angry, and he has a thousand ways to coax her.". Many girls often seem to make a mistake, that is, to indulge in the sweetness of other people's love, but to find fault in their own love.
Test it today, get a little temper tantrum tomorrow. An occasional unreasonable teasing may be the spice of life, but in the long run, tired and tired, consuming feelings, only endless coldness and separation are left.
Finally separated, the girls will call the "scumbag" again, knowing that the boys do not have a good thing.
The boy's excessive compromise in the relationship again and again makes the girl slowly turn a blind eye from habitual, and the final result can only be a regretful wave of farewell.
Therefore, feelings are not clothes, "sewing and patching" can not make it stand the test of time and become more durable, the traces of needle leads are reminding each other over and over again, and there are many cracks in our feelings.
So, be a cool girl, don't be a demon, don't cry, and have a good time in your own years. Love with your heart when you love, and don't look back when you want to go.