Alzheimer's Sea was also silent
Memory Fleet Gentle Trek
My luggage is piece by piece
I left quietly without even saying goodbye
I remember that Zhu Geun was Fuso
I remember smiling was friendly
But oh my God I don't remember you
Who kissed me under the tree
In the long vigil leading to dawn
All I remember is a strange gentle smile
Don't be my daughter
Don't be my lover
Forgetting is the cruelty of good happiness
I don't want Cruelty to seem so happy and happy
Alzheimer's Sea had sunk
This is "Alzheimer", written by Li Huanxiong, composed by Wu Qingfeng, and sung by Wan Fang, and I think it is the most moving song to write about Alzheimer's disease. Accurate sense of imagery, pain and restraint, beautiful and real, every time I hear it, I will be in tears, I will think of the night and early morning when I stayed with my son with my grandmother, the grandmother after the operation, the grandmother who was usually gentle and whispered, shouting loudly, talking to the person she imagined, we who first encountered this situation, froze! We desperately want to talk to her, to find the original grandmother who belongs to us, the gentle and intellectual, loving grandmother who will cook a good dish and wait for us to come home from the summer vacation, who will tell us stories, but, like a glass curtain wall, we can't connect with her, she gradually drifts to another dimension, and in this way of not remembering us and retrograde back to childhood, she makes a slow farewell to her dear family!
This year's September 21 is the 26th World Alzheimer's Disease Day, and this year's theme – let's talk about dementia: end the stigma, which the Alzheimer's Disease Chapter (ADC) in China translates to " Face calmly, no longer shy away".
It is not easy to face it calmly, even if people who have a certain understanding of Alzheimer's disease, when they first encounter this situation of their family, they will still deny, feel frustrated, emotionally arising, and even have moral judgments!
Grandma would repeatedly count the money in her wallet, repeatedly ask her where the money and milk powder were, and hide it like a child.
Mom asked Grandma who I was, and she said, "You're my sister." Grandma left her hometown of Zhejiang with her grandfather in her early years, and she dreamed of her hometown, and after she fell ill in her later years, she repeatedly "saw" that "mother" and "sister", And Azheimer let her return to her homeland and dream back to her childhood.
She often does not know my mother, but she will remember my aunt, and the disease will make people remember who does not remember whom, which really makes no sense, but it will also make relatives inexplicably frustrated.
Grandma forgot many things, but she could sing "Fishing Light Song" from beginning to end, without forgetting a word.
Grandma's symptoms are still gentle, and many patients will oppose their families and get lost again and again, bringing great pain to their families. One ms. Chen said that her husband had a nose and eyes and said that she had an affair, saying that he had seen it with his own eyes and was full of pain and anger. The wife who was inseparable from him was first angry and then hurt him, because in his place, his feelings were real, like an abandoned child.
On how to get along with alzheimer's sick relatives, in a show I once hosted, "Eight Minutes of Open Volume", Ms. Chen Xiaoxia, a civil servant, shared the book "The Old King in Exile" by Austrian writer Arno Geiger. Share a clip from the book –
Around 2004, my father suddenly didn't recognize his home, and it happened unexpectedly quickly, shockingly fast. He didn't have 5 minutes to say that the family was waiting for him and that he had to go home, which was really unbearable. My sister pointed to my father on the street and said this is your home, and my father replied, "No, this is not my home!" "Then tell me where you live!" The father said the correct road name and house number of the house, and the sister pointed to the door number at the gate and asked him what was written on it, and the father read it. The sister said, "Then what conclusions can we draw?" The father said quietly, "Someone stole my house number and booked it here"...
For a while he often thanked people. "I want to thank you sincerely in advance," I couldn't find the slightest thing to link up with thanks. I slowly learned what it meant to cater to him, and I would say, "It's nice to do this for you," or "No thanks," or "This is something I'm happy to do." From experience, we answer our father's words, and if they are approved, he is at ease and feels that everything is normal. It is much better than before when we always pursued and wanted to understand my father's intentions, which would only make my father feel ashamed and uneasy.
Because our loved ones can no longer reach us through the bridge, then we must go to him.
A man named Yuan Xiaodong in Nanjing set up the "Mutual Aid Association for the Families of The Elderly with Dementia" after his relatives fell ill with Alzheimer's disease, cheered each other up, and widely disseminated the scientific truth of "dementia". If avoidance only makes the people we love the most suffer, then why not learn and face it—
"Dementia is not part of normal aging, dementia is caused by brain diseases, can be detected early and intervened early, dementia loses not only memory, even if you have dementia, you can live well!" 」
In addition, families of Alzheimer's patients face greater tests, disease response, social cognition, and emotions themselves. Let's let go of our shame and seek professional help early! You are not alone, let's face it together!
About the author
Wenlan Jiangsu Broadcasting FM997 Jinling Voice Famous Emotional Psychology DJ, Level II Psychological Counselor. It is known as "the gentlest voice in the sky over Nanjing".
Source: Yangtze Evening News Psychological Weekly