The King's Speech tells the story of Duke Bertie's psychological trauma and a stern father, who suffered from stuttering, extreme inferiority and evasion in the face of himself and life.
Bertie's wife went to many doctors and tried various methods and treatments, but the situation was still very bad.
Finally found the language therapist Rogge, although Bertie constantly evaded and gave up in the treatment, but Logue still did not give up on him, with the help of Logue, Bertie was cured, and overcame stuttering, became king, and gave a wonderful speech.
This movie brought me 3 revelations:
01 Be kind to others
Bertie used to be a left-hander, and because he was often punished, he changed to his right hand; he used to have his knees turned upside down and was required to wear a metal splint day and night; the nurse hated him, and cried at him every day when he should see his parents, and then he had to go back to let the nurse take care of him, and the nurse would not let him eat, and he was far away, causing his stomach to leave a sick root, and he was not good when he grew up.
Bertie's brother often laughed at him for stuttering, and Dad hated iron and steel, always putting pressure on him.
Logue says that in stuttering patients, forced correction is a common cause.
Bertie gradually loses himself in the environment of not being understood and cared for, and he can only resist with escape and abandonment, and his heart is full of despair.
Forcing others to obey their own wishes is a common problem for many people, and as long as they see something that they cannot accept, they will force others to correct it.
Everyone is different, differences are taken for granted, and we can't force others to change, and we don't change in order to please others.
Generally, when facing relatives, many people will use "I am all for your own good" to be harsh, and even make excessive behaviors and say ugly words to relatives.
People's hearts are fragile, and if they suffer long-term injuries, they will make people miserable and leave a series of sequelae.
Be kind to yourself and others, leaving a rose in your hand instead of a thorn.
02 Everyone needs encouragement and companionship
Although Bertie's life is dark, he has a wife and two daughters who love him, which gives him hope.
Every time Bertie failed to treat, his wife did not abandon the company, constantly encouraging and comforting him, the daughters did not abandon him, and finally he met his best friend Logue, let him out of the haze.
Everyone has unsatisfactory times, if there is someone to encourage and accompany them at this time, they can recover quickly, and if they are hit or ignored, the situation will worsen.
When people encounter pain, they must learn to call for help from others, hide their pain, only let themselves collapse, in the face of others' help, you can lend a helping hand, a small action may be able to change a person.
03 Understanding and listening are important
Bertie's cure was not psychologically treated, and Logue used only understanding and listening.
Psychologist Rogers demonstrated the importance of both with one case:
A mother came to Rogers with a mentally ill child, but Rogers and his team did many treatments for the child and could not cure him, and finally Rogers could only say to the child's mother, "I'm sorry, we didn't cure your child." ”
The child's mother was disappointed, and when she was about to leave, she suddenly stopped and asked Rogers, "Is there adult treatment here?" Rogers said yes, the child's mother sat down to talk to Rogers, but Rogers has never tried this treatment, he can only listen patiently, the process did not give advice and treatment, the miracle is that the child's mother has come a few times after actually improving, her child has also changed, things are developing in a good direction.
It was only after that treatment that Rogers understood the power and efficacy of listening, and later incorporated this approach into the treatment plan.
In people with mental illness, being understood and listened to is a good medicine, and the more accepted you are, the faster you recover.
Everyone will have dark moments, but believe in yourself, as long as you don't give up, you will eventually usher in the light.