The Oscar-winning film "The King's Speech" tells the story of the death of Emperor George V, the successor Edward VIII abdicated because of love, and the Duke of Yorkshire was appointed king (George VI) on the verge of death, but because of severe stuttering, he could not speak in front of everyone, and finally with the help of language corrector Logue, he successfully overcame stuttering and delivered an inspiring pre-war speech.
In the ten years since its release, "The King's Speech" has been well received and inspired by the audience, whether it is a reference to public speech to overcome timidity, or an inner inferiority to self-confidence, this film will be mentioned again and again as a case.
The story of George VI, who suffers from severe stuttering in the film, from resisting treatment at the beginning, to accepting the language corrector Logue, gradually overcoming inferiority and fear, and finally moving towards self-confidence, is a very classic textbook from inferiority to self-confidence, and today I will interpret the king's mental journey with you from the perspective of self-development psychology.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1, face up to inferiority, find the root cause of inferiority</h1>
After meeting with George VI again and again to establish trust, the therapist Logue began to talk about his childhood experiences, and learned that George VI was forced to change from left-hand to right-handed at a very young age, the X-shaped legs were forcibly corrected every day with metal splints, people around him laughed at him, the nurse was very eccentric to his brother, but he was always punished, often pinched him, did not feed him, until three years later, the parents found out about the mother's behavior... These childhood experiences, with which others disagreed with him, struck a blow to his self-confidence and created an inferiority complex for the Duke of Yorkshire, which led to his stuttering.
Psychologist Adler proposed in the book "Inferiority and Transcendence" that everyone has an inferiority complex. Adler said that the so-called inferiority complex is:
"When an individual is faced with a problem that he cannot cope with, he says that he will never be able to solve it, and the emotion that arises is an inferiority complex."
Logue helped George VI review his childhood experience and find the root cause of his inferiority: because of his childhood experience, George VI was particularly afraid to talk to his father and brother, and his brother sneered at him, causing George VI to be extremely inferior in front of his brother.
Self-development psychology points out that a person needs to face the true love and fear in his heart, and needs to change his way of thinking in order to usher in real change.
So Logue instructed George VI in a serious tone: Don't always take the shadow of your father or brother, don't be afraid of the things you fear when you are 5 years old, because you have become an independent individual.
Every person with low self-esteem will have such an inferiority complex, which quietly hinders self-growth. What we have to do is to face up to inferiority, to face the root cause of inferiority, and then to overcome it.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2, overcoming inferiority and starting with self-acceptance</h1>
George VI's inferiority complex made him always want to meet the expectations of others, unable to be himself, unable to be a confident king. War was on the verge of breaking out, and George VI did not want to disappoint the people when they needed them most, did not want to be a king who could not speak, so he never accepted the fact that he was a king, and did not dare to face any speech.
George VI really began to accept himself because of one of Logue's guidances. In a conversation before the coronation, Logue sat down on the king's chair, and George VI burst into flames, shouting angrily: That is the chair that only a king can sit on, I am your king, and what I say has weight. It was only then that George VI finally accepted himself and admitted himself as a king.
Later, George VI successfully delivered a pre-war speech, and Logue told him that he would still stutter when he pronounced W, but George VI confessed that he could not be too fluent, and would be suspected of being a stand-in. At this time, the king truly accepted himself, accepted himself as a king, and accepted himself as a stuttering king.
Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, once said:
"In this world, only if you overcome your fears and don't care about other people's eyes can you grow."
After yu Minhong, who was born in the countryside, was admitted to Peking University and saw the gap with the people around him, he fell into a deep inferiority complex. Later, when Yu Minhong resigned from Peking University to start a business, he posted a small advertisement at the school, full of fear in his heart and felt too humiliated. It wasn't until he met his students who took the initiative to come up to help post advertisements and found that in fact, others would not care about his humble actions, that he realized that the best way to overcome inferiority and fear was not to care about the eyes of others, accept themselves, and do what they thought was right.
The key to overcoming inferiority and moving towards self-confidence is to identify with yourself, to accept your past and flaws, and then to start from the new and be yourself again.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3, transcend inferiority and find the meaning of life</h1>
Unlike his cynical brother, George VI was always concerned with the fate of his homeland and royal honor. When it was learned that his brother Edward VIII abdicated in order to marry the widow Mrs. Simpson, George VI wanted to do everything possible to keep his brother on the throne, but Logue frankly said that "being a king is your duty, you can do better than your brother", this sentence completely angered George VI, but Logue saw through the true thoughts of George VI, but George VI himself never dared to admit it.
At the time of the death of his father, George V, George VI always remembered the last words, "Bodi is braver than the other brothers together." His heart has always ignited a sense of mission for his homeland and a sense of justice in his heart, and it is this sense of mission that quietly pushes him to overcome fear and inferiority.
One of the support points for transcending inferiority and building self-confidence is to find the meaning of your life and then do your best to complete it.
There is a saying in the movie "The Godfather": "Everyone is not born great, but becomes great in the process of growing up." ”
On the other hand, each of us individuals, whether they have more or less inferiority or experience or experience large or small setbacks, ultimately accompany us to survive is the belief and strength in our hearts. Finding the meaning of your own life will push you beyond inferiority.
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Inferiority is not a bad thing, Adler wrote in the book "Inferiority and Transcendence": "The existence of inferiority is not a bad thing, because it inspires people to constantly pursue excellence, overcome their own obstacles, and exert the greatest value in the limited space of life." ”
King George VI, with the help and inspiration of Logue, gradually overcame his inferiority and fear and found the value of his own life — to become the great king that the country needed in times of war.
Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, in His Book Know Yourself, Accept Yourself, states: "We are not prisoners of past experiences. ”
Not being bound by past experiences, not being trapped in the inferiority complex experienced in the past, facing up to inferiority, accepting yourself, and then finding the meaning of life, you can transcend inferiority.
Each of us has a moment, and George VI has the same inferiority complex, not afraid of the past, in order to have a better future.