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In the name of love, we exert influence or positive or repressive influence on family members, although the intention is good, but the impact is not the same. In the movie "Journey to Heaven", when the family affection is blinded by layers of estrangement.
The seemingly happy and harmonious relationship of home may not make people feel happy, but in emotional redemption, the moving emotion of family affection can still make people feel the purest and most unsolicited emotional power in the world.
In the movie, Father Frank discovered the truths hidden by the children for many years during the search for relatives, and the emotions in the acceptance and release of the arms were sublimated, reflected to reality, and many viewers will have empathy, and thus trigger thinking about life and emotions.
Frank embarked on a journey to find relatives 8 months after the death of his wife, Frank and his wife had two sons and two daughters, the eldest daughter Amy was a company CEO, but the seemingly happy marriage had long been broken, and the husband's extramarital affair led to family discord;
The youngest daughter Rose, who works as a dancer, tells Frank that she is the lead dancer and hides that she is a gay single mother; the eldest son, Robert, is an inconspicuous little transparent, while Frank has always thought that his son is a famous conductor; the younger son, David, is a painter, Frank deeply thinks that his son is a good mix, but David is in trouble because of excessive pressure to smoke contraband.
Unsatisfactory life is good to know, at least do not let the parents who are worried about themselves know, this is the voice of many wanderers who have just stepped out of society and are wandering. Frank may not have thought before his wife's death that the pains in the lives of his proud children had never been shared with him.
After the death of his wife, Frank became a widow and an old man, and his children never returned home, and Frank embarked on a journey to find his relatives. The first stop came to the youngest son, David, but he did not return home after waiting for him - at this time David was taken away by the police because he was in trouble in Mexico because of the forbidden use of drugs.
Frank then comes to the eldest daughter Amy's house, Amy and her husband's relationship is frozen, but in the face of the sudden visit of her father, Amy still invited her husband back to accompany her to play a family harmony scene, she does not want her father to see that she is not doing well, do not want to disappoint his father.
Frank's third stop was the home of his eldest son, Robert, and approaching the recital hall with great anticipation, Frank found the little transparent drummer in the corner, his own son.
After witnessing everything, Robert knew that he had disappointed his father, but he still forced himself to hold up his last dignity, lying that he was going to perform in Europe soon, and cheating his father. Hiding in the corner and watching his father leave, Robert's inner contradictions and reluctance were not told, but it was the ultimate mission not to let his father worry.
Frank's fourth stop, the house of his youngest daughter Rose. After learning the news that her father was coming, Rose rented a friend's luxurious suite, and the lover with the child was prevaricating that she was a neighbor and her child.
She did not dare to tell her father the truth about herself, that it was her lover, that it was her own child. Frank was a traditional and old-fashioned father, and all this was bound to blow him.
Woven by lies, Frank has always lived with pride, and this pride stems from the achievements and happiness of his four children, but a trip to find relatives shatters the lies. Everyone has pain and sorrow in their hearts, especially the closest parents.
Poor work outside the home will disappoint parents, family problems will make parents worry, financial problems will make parents anxious, for these reasons people are willing to use lies and glossy whitewashes in exchange for parents' peace of mind and comfort.
Of course, these lies are not malicious, more out of good intentions, even if they are trampled in the dirt by life, they must be full of joy to tell their parents: we are fine, don't worry.
Frank was not well aware of the situation of his children and was dissatisfied with his fathers and children. Frank used his hard work to create good material conditions for his children, and at the beginning of the film, Frank, who embarked on the journey, said that "a million feet of wire has made them what they are today."
In his eyes, his children are excellent, and frank has set a "goal" for his children from an early age, the eldest daughter must be the first in grade; the younger daughter must become a good dancer; the eldest son cannot be just a drummer, he must become a great conductor; the younger son cannot be a painter to be a painter.
Frank is very satisfied with his arrangement, in the process of growing up the child did not care whether the child really loves, whether there is a lack of ability, stubbornly believe that the child should grow up in his way, become excellent and perfect.
Although his love for his children is unquestionable, this shackled love can become heavy. Imposing something on a child in the name of love can be overwhelming, so stop using "I'm here for your own good" to coerce love into too much imposition on your child.
Frank's affection for his children is unquestionable, but for a long time he and his children did not live in the same world. The writer Lu Sihao once said: How far is the distance between people?
Your world is really lightning and thunder, but he can't hear any sound, but don't be sad, because I will eventually encounter understanding, maybe not much, but it is deep.
Frank's bond with his child is built on a relationship divorced from reality, whereas his wife, the child's mother, is more able to understand the child's heartache and the pains of life.
Frank's deceased wife was a good listener in the children's upbringing, and the children were willing to tell their mothers about their troubles. When people are vulnerable, what they need is not to follow the rules, but to simply warm each other.
Imagine yourself telling your grief alone to give you a "review" and accuse you of wrong practices in certain links, and this feeling is never what you want, and a simple hug is better than these condescending words.
Frank's wife let the child's reasons spit out her misfortune and inability, in fact, for parents, there will be pressure in their hearts when they hear about their children's unfortunate encounters, but she is still willing to be a faithful listener. Listening can bring the soul closer together, and listening attentively is the connecting bond that binds emotions.
Whether it is Frank's love for his children or his children's white lies to him, the starting point is to use love to promote the warmth of the family, but the name of love can not become an obstacle to the way forward, parents have ardent hopes for their children, there is a hope for adulthood, but the burden imposed on children is too heavy will also make people lose themselves.
In the name of love is pampering and companionship rather than manipulation and imposition, parents are accustomed to condescending or experiential talk as people who have come over, defining life choices as right or wrong, absolutization is equivalent to limitation, and what binds children is more possibility.
Like Frank's children, the children have followed the established path as he wishes, but how many are as good as they want? The parent-child relationship can be more harmonious, and the child's life can be more subjective, to practice what he thinks and realize his value.
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