The topic of fear of marriage and fear of parenting is very hot...
Especially for women, choosing to get married and have children seems to mean giving up the pursuit of ideals and making sacrifices for the family...
However, after watching this new film, you may find a new direction in life: "Bernadette Where Have You Gone"
Seattle, USA.
Bernadette, a full-time housewife.
Her husband is a talented software engineer at Microsoft, and her daughter is well-behaved, intelligent and beautiful.
A family of three lives in a large house on the outskirts of Seattle and lives a life that many envy...
My daughter is studying well and has recently been admitted to a good high school.
But Before Bernadette could rejoice, she began to worry.
Because the daughter proposed, as a celebration, the family of three went to Antarctica for a family trip.
Bernadette hated travel, she had serious social fears, she hated to go to crowded places, but to go to Antarctica, she had to take a boat and spend several days with more than 150 people.
However, she really can't bear to disappoint her daughter...
After booking a trip to Antarctica, Bernadette began to go wrong.
She became nervous, insomnia, anxiety, absent-mindedness all night...
Throwing tantrums for no reason, listening to songs and shedding tears, indulging in chatting with voice assistants...
At first, the husband and daughter thought that she was just anxious about the upcoming long trip and advised her to go to the doctor to prescribe some medicine...
However, day after day, Bernadette's problems are getting worse and worse...
The husband also found that she did not take medicine at all, but instead hoarded all the sleeping pills...
Finally, before the family of three was about to leave for the South Pole, Bernadette suddenly disappeared without a trace, and no one could find her...
Bernadette, where have you been, starred Kate Blanchett and is based on the novel of the same name by Maria Samp.
It was released in the United States in August 2019 and has just recently been released with resources.
The cast of the film is very strong, with Kate Blanchett starring as the heroine and the supporting roles as some of the biggest Hollywood names.
"Wasp Woman" Judy Greer, who played captain Morpheus in "The Matrix", and lawrence Fishburn, who was well known to the audience, and other familiar actors also cameo.
Kate Blanchett
Judy Greer
Lawrence Fishburn
The original novel of this film does not tell the story according to the convention, it is through the daughter's self-statement, Bernadette's correspondence with others, etc., to unfold the plot.
Such a form affects the rhythm of the film to a certain extent.
The structure of the film is somewhat scattered, douban score 7.3, it could have been better shot.
However, in terms of the current quality of the film, it is still a good enough, lighthearted, and warm movie that is worth watching.
In particular, the character of Bernadette, combined with Kate Bletchett's superb acting skills, is very interestingly shaped...
Bernadette is a particularly eccentric and unusual person.
Newly purchased clothes, even without taking off the tag, dare to wear it directly out of the door, without caring about the eyes of others;
She put the prescription drugs prescribed by the doctor into a large glass bottle, just because the pills were mixed together, colorful and very beautiful;
She hates to get along with strangers, and feels that there is no need for greetings and small talk between people, and people don't have to be liked by everyone...
In fact, Bernadette was no ordinary housewife.
Twenty years ago, she lived in Los Angeles and was recognized as a gifted designer in the architectural world.
The house she designed is no longer just a building, but should be called a work of art.
At a young age, she won the Architecture Award, and the handmade furniture she made was listed as a permanent treasure by the American Folk Museum...
She is both talented and creative and passionate about her work.
When Bernadette first entered the industry, the first task she received was to draw a map of the location of the office building toilets.
Such a simple task can be done casually.
But Bernadette went around asking when executives met, how often they went to the bathroom, and even the ratio of men to women...
In the eyes of others, this practice is very difficult to understand, is it just a toilet?
But she retorted: I need to know what problems my designs are designed to solve.
Although she is so fanatical and conscientious, her career has not been smooth.
As she was about to climb to the top, she suffered a heavy blow:
The house that took three years, spent countless painstaking efforts to build, and won the award was bought by a local tycoon with no aesthetics and demolished lightly.
Just because, the local tycoon wants to use that piece of land as his backup parking lot...
Bernadette's more than three years of hard work has been torched...
Disheartened, she quit the Los Angeles architectural circle in a fit of rage and moved to Seattle with her husband to live as a full-time wife.
This woman, who could have made extraordinary achievements in her career, began to take care of family chores, washing clothes, washing dishes, weeding, taking care of her husband, picking up and dropping off children...
Destined, she would not be an ordinary housewife.
She still did not want to talk awkwardly with people, went to pick up her daughter from school, other parents came up to talk, she ignored it, hurriedly stepped on the accelerator and left...
The noise of the neighbor weeding was too loud, and she was too lazy to communicate, so she stood up a huge sign directly to the neighbor's house to protest.
This childish behavior, a slightly sane adult, may not do...
The way she educates her children is also very different.
Bernadette's daughter, in order to help her mother out, scolded the neighbor: f**k you!
Ordinary parents, when they hear their children swearing, will more or less say something to stop it.
But Bernadette was very excited and said to her daughter: Baby, you just now are so cool!
These passages look absurd, humorous, and even laughable in the movie.
But in fact, Bernadette, who was in this situation, was very painful.
Parent-child travel has become the fuse of everything that erupts...
She felt that she was about to be engulfed in this mediocre, trivial, immutable life, and became anxious and depressed.
Her relationship with her neighbors was getting worse and worse, and the housewives of the whole neighborhood hated her very much.
Even her husband could no longer understand her, felt that she was suffering from a serious mental illness, and even wanted to send her to a mental hospital...
Is Bernadette really crazy?
In fact, no, she just can't adapt to this kind of short, chai rice oil and salt life in the parents...
Bernadette had a neighbor, an authentic housewife, completely different from her.
The focus of the neighbors' lives is only on the acre and three points of land where their street is located.
She set up a community neighborhood committee, held parent-child activities, family parties, she got along well with every neighbor, and from the time the child went to kindergarten, she established a good relationship with other parents...
She can arrange her life in every way, pour her heart into the family, and get great happiness from it...
Bernadette, by contrast, is a life idiot who doesn't get along with people yet.
But so what?
Bernadette could never get the family chores organized, and the neighbors could never design a house that would amaze the entire architectural world.
There is no right or wrong in this.
It's just that some people are suitable and good at living such a life, others are not.
A few years ago, there was a lyric that was very popular on the Internet, and it was very appropriate to describe Bernadette's experience.
This sentence is said like this: Who comes from the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, but is confined to day and night, kitchen and love.
This means that even if people have a very rich life experience and extraordinary life pursuits when they are young, they will eventually stabilize with age, form a family, raise children, and live a dull life.
That's what Bernadette did, from a well-known and promising artist to a willing to give up everything and return to her family as a wife and mother who lived an ordinary life.
However, in such a life, she lived a mess, and even completely lost herself...
At the end of the film, Bernadette comes to antarctica alone.
She learned that there was a research station that was going to be demolished and rebuilt.
As a well-known architect, she won herself the qualification to design this research station.
Hearing this news, Bernadette, who was originally listless, suddenly became excited, and her eyes glowed.
She was full of energy and vitality, and all anxiety and depression were gone.
She excitedly called her husband and daughter to announce the good news, dancing and talking about her newly designed plan...
At that moment, the housewife who had been crushed by life and depressed disappeared.
The artist who was passionate and passionate about his work has come back...
Although, in reality, there are too few extraordinary geniuses like Bernadette.
More people are still struggling in the chicken feathers of ordinary life...
But this movie shows us that not everyone has to live the same life.
Some people love their families and can get great happiness and happiness from ordinary life.
Others, only those who have been walking on the road of pursuing mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, will always shine...
Either way, it's a respectable choice.