People who are too honest in their lives often stammer in the face of others' questioning, difficulties and even bullying, even if they know very well that others are wrong, they also want to fight back, but they can't organize their words.
Some "honest people" choose periodic outbreaks to a certain extent, some "honest people" upgrade to "good old people" and choose to only erupt to the closest and most loved people around them, and some "ashes" sullen themselves until they are out of breath.
Most of these people are identified as "introverts" and misunderstood as "good bullies" by people with "extroverted" personalities, in fact, many executive leadership figures are introverted personalities, and they and they can adjust their mentality to calmly face reality.
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The plan mentioned in this article is the author's personal "small luck" summarized by collecting and sorting out some network data analysis, with the purpose of personal feedback to society and helping people who are suffering in their hearts.
No matter who you are facing, when and where are you facing different types of questioning, first calmly ask yourself if you really feel that you are wrong? If you judge from an objective point of view that it is indeed your own fault, you will admit your mistake with sincerity. The expression is as rare as possible to give people the illusion of arrogance and perfunctory such as "I am wrong", "it is my problem", etc., and can replace the overly simple confession of mistakes with such sentences: "Because of my... (words and deeds), resulting in... (Result)".
Second, calmly judge yourself from an objective point of view that you are indeed right, others have misunderstood you, and adopt a gentle attitude to communicate. Maintain peace and self-confidence, and express your views from the perspective of empathy, paying attention not to answer questions directly to prevent being questioned and being hatped.
In fact, this kind of person is very common, this kind of person is a typical personality is very strong, very assertive people, they have their own ideas in everything, do not want and do not like to be persuaded by others, he / they feel that others help him / she is justified, in the team, generally he / they are undesirable people.
When we have to face questioning people every day, the most important thing is that we must learn and then skillfully apply the skills of "empathy". People who master this skill will not suffer losses wherever they go, but will be respected.
First, conduct a comprehensive personality analysis of the person questioning you;
Second, understand and analyze the growth background of the person questioning you;
Third, with a kind and friendly attitude, put yourself in the shoes of the person who questions you about the growth background and the external environment they are facing at the moment.
The author believes that people who are often questioned generally have the natural qualification to observe people and analyze and judge people, and even if they do not, they will be forced out of this ability. So, keep confident and brave to face him/her, he/she is the person who must appear in your life, put away the complaints and learn to adjust your mindset and empathy.