The original family heals people, and the original family also hurts people.
Chen Guanxi's wife and daughter took photos of the family happiness moment, spilled the dog food, I can't help but sigh that Chen Guanxi has changed so much... His transformation from the unruly prodigal son of the past to the mad demon who loves his wife and daughter is really a difficult road, blessing their family of three.
Screenshot of a friendly station
The former Chen Guanxi was bleak due to the leakage of indecent photos on the hard disk, so it also implicated a number of actresses, and Chen Guanxi, who was originally brilliant, was also optimistic about the big guys in the industry, so the scenery was no longer beautiful and depressed. There are also more revelations about Chen Guanxi and his relatives in the "Shenzhen Evening News", but such a completely qualitative analysis is unreliable, and I tried to do some psychological analysis from the limited information I had, for reference only.
Screenshots of media reports
In public information, Chen Guanxi was born in Canada, lived with his mother and two sisters before the age of 9, lived with his father in Hong Kong after the age of 9, did not know that his parents had divorced until he was 14 years old, thus becoming sensitive and insecure, 10 to 19 years old was very rebellious, his parents compensated him financially, and when he did not have enough money, he stole it in the hands of his parents. At the age of 15, he was split by his girlfriend who had been together for eight or nine months, and the object of the leg split was still his friend, and Chen Guanxi was also hurt by this.
Chen Guanxi's father, the ninth brother, is also a handsome man, and the mother is even more beautiful and beautiful, unfortunately, both parents do not know how to educate their children, and there is a great possibility that they are problem parents, which can be seen from the above figure, after all, the children in this family have problems.
It is also rumored that after the divorce of the ninth brother and his wife, he was very close to the male star and was very close, if this is the case, this will also have an impact on the male offspring. Chen Guanxi's grandfather even spoiled Chen Guanxi.
Phenomenological analysis infers the probable cause from the result (the phenomenon), not the conclusive conclusion, but this has a positive meaning and at least helps us see what happened? How did it happen? What to do? Use these to guide our future lives.
How the radical and rebellious Chen Guanxi was refined
Before the age of 9, Chen Guanxi lived with his mother and sister, and the information mentioned that he began to rebel at the age of 10, which is the irrational choice of the "bad boy" subconscious, because it means getting attention. Children know from birth to perceive the world around them and observe the results of interactions, and they orient themselves and understand all of this, using this as belief to govern behavior.
When Chen Guanxi is a well-behaved child, parents will not pay attention to him, but when Chen Guanxi begins to have offside, attention appears, even if he is reprimanded, it is the realization of belonging, and the silent well-behaved child will not get attention in that environment. Everyone craves attention, wants to get a sense of belonging, and when the family can't meet the need for belonging, it needs to be sought outside, clubs, gangs, fox friends... When the sense of belonging cannot be satisfied in the group, the addictive dependence on substances and behaviors arises, and these addictive dependences are satisfied to some extent — I realize my deep psychological needs to be alive.
Another mistake of Chen Guanxi's parents is that the satisfaction of money is used as a replacement for family affection. Parents think that they have hidden the news of divorce to protect their children, but they have hurt their children and have not properly handled this matter. Excessive protection, but also let Chen Guanxi lose the reverence for the rules, parental alienation lost the influence of the child, constant compromise so that children do not realize the existence of boundaries, in the world without boundaries become chaotic, confused, even if they try their best can not find their own value, no direction.
Ignored revenge
This revenge occurs at the subconscious level, not necessarily at the rational level, you can find the psychologist Watson's kinship relationship, the fate of future generations...
To expand - adults or minors, they all slowly learn to be strong on the way to growth, but the children in their hearts are always eager to be noticed, and they are afraid of being hurt, holding the corners of their clothes and silently hiding in the corners of their clothes that are not conscious. This child craves warmth, craves a loving hug.
Chen Guanxi once said in an interview with the media that his favorite movement is very radical, the hard disk incident itself is also intriguing, which is likely to be a mental disorder, there may be factors such as heredity, secretion status during the fetal period, and care received in the history of growth, which is multi-caused and one-effect, the influence of the original family will be there, but it cannot be asserted if it is not a decisive impact.
Chen Guanxi and his beloved wife
Chen Guanxi met Qin Shupei in 2016 after the nude photos scandal, and Qin Shupei must have understood what this relationship would mean when he accepted Chen Guanxi! However, two people are still together and have the crystallization of love, it can be said that this requires a lot of courage! A mother's emotions are the emotions of the family, good relationships nourish people, love can heal!
Chen Guanxi, who is a father, often posts his wife and daughter in the media, which is really warm and happy, in order to protect his daughter's anger and rebuke the douyu anchor, he has also been praised by netizens, Chen Guanxi's metamorphosis has not yet ended, but he has become a courageous and responsible grandfather!
Chen Guanxi angrily rebuked the Douyu anchor
From not finding your own sense of worth and belonging, to finding your own direction and position in life, this is worthy of respect! It is great courage for adults to accept their past! Only by accepting your past and recognizing your mistakes can change happen.
Many people with psychological disorders and mental disorders will blame all their misfortunes on their parents, which is unfair, some destructive inheritance is inherited from generation to generation, they can only throw it to the next generation if they can't catch it, "successive generations of parents" do not have good functions, what should they do? The influence of the family of origin on a person is important, but not decisive.
Accept what has happened and change yourself to meet the happiness of the future.
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