The Three From Four Virtues is the code of conduct and moral code used by ancient Chinese feudal society to restrain women, and the "Three From" and "Four Virtues" are the combined name. According to the principle of "internal and external differences, that is, the social division of labor within men and women", Confucian etiquette regulates women's life in morality, behavior, and cultivation. The "three conformities" refer to women who are not married to their fathers, married to their husbands, and who die from their sons; "four virtues" refer to women's morality, women's speech, women's appearance, and women's merits.
Therefore, in the feudal society that pays attention to "three from four virtues", there are not many women who take the initiative to divorce their husbands, and the more famous one is Wen Xiu, the last empress of the Qing Dynasty, who once left her husband Puyi in the early days of the Republic of China and set off a monstrous wave in public opinion. In fact, as early as the Ming Dynasty, there was a female "Xiufu" incident. In the middle of the Ming Dynasty, there was a queen's clan, and a letter of resignation dismissed his husband, the anti-Japanese hero Qi Jiguang.
Qi Jiguang fought against the Wukou on the southeast coast for more than ten years, swept away the troubles that had plagued the coastal areas for many years, and ensured the safety of the lives and property of the coastal people; later, he fought against the Mongol tribes in the north for more than ten years, ensuring the security of the northern territory and promoting the peaceful development of the Mongolian and Han nationalities; moreover, he also wrote eighteen volumes of "Ji Xiao Xin Book" and fourteen volumes of "Actual Records of Military Training" and other famous military books.
So, why did this woman dare to risk the world's great disobedience and leave the famous national hero?
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Speaking of General Qi's emotional experience, it is quite intriguing. Qi Jiguang and Wang Clan were engaged at an early age and became relatives at the age of twenty-one, but they can also be regarded as two small unsuspecting door-to-door pairs. According to the records of the literature, Wang Shi was the beloved daughter of General Wang of Nanxi Wanhu, but she was very different from the ordinary Miss Qianjin, not only virtuous, but also very sensible.
Qi Jiguang was in his twenties, had not yet been appreciated by the imperial court, and his career was hopeless, and his poor clanged. However, Mrs. Qi has never abandoned her husband and has never abandoned him. One night, Mrs. Qi bought a big fat and tender fish, and after cooking the fish, she first ate the head and tail of the fish, leaving the best taste of the fish to her husband. When Qi Jiguang went home to see this scene, he couldn't even say a word in excitement.
Just as the so-called "Tiger Girl of the Gate", the Wang clan from the Xingwu family has quite a military talent. When her husband led the Qi family army to fight the Japanese Wokou, the Wang clan often advised her husband and helped Qi Jiguang win the battle. During the Battle of Taizhou, Lady Qi stayed in Xinhe City with the families of her soldiers, and because the strategic position of the city was not high, there were not many defenders stationed in the city.
The cunning Wokou detected this situation, and a group of Wokou rushed to New River City to sneak up on the families of these Qi family troops. The situation was 100,000 urgent, and Madame Qi immediately stood up and demanded that the women and children in the city change into military uniforms and stand on the city wall. Wokou heard that there were only women and children in the city, and did not take the defense of the new river city seriously. However, when they came under the city walls, they found that this was not the case.
I saw a dense group of defenders on the city wall waiting in a tight line to fight the invaders to the death. When the Japanese army saw the situation, it also thought that the main force of the Qi family army remained in the new river city, did not dare to act rashly, and immediately retreated hundreds of miles. In this way, Madame Qi staged a living "empty city plan" and successfully frightened the Japanese invaders by using the method of grass and trees.
It stands to reason that the couple has become legendary heroes, and their marriage should continue to be happy and happy. Unfortunately, the relationship between the two has serious problems, and their marriage has gradually ended. Because Mrs. Qi has no fertility, there is no way to pass on the family lineage. In order to ensure the continuation of the incense, Qi Jiguang took a room of concubines at the age of thirty-six.
Although Lady Qi was reluctant to give a hundred thousand, she still acquiesced to this fact. After all, the ancients ruled the country with filial piety, and the concept of "no queen is great" has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, and she must make tolerance for the future of the Qi family. What she could not accept was that Qi Jiguang actually tasted the sweetness of beauty, and after taking a concubine, he unsatisfactorily accepted a new concubine. Out of debt to her husband, Mrs. Qi once again chose to tolerate.
However, at this time, she had lost hope in her marriage. Eleven years later, Qi Jiguang took a third concubine, and the elderly Lady Qi finally broke out, and she was greatly hurt. This time, she did not tolerate her husband, but chose to "include what she has and return to the kings" and bid farewell to the identity of "Lady Qi".
"I have also wandered in the Blue Musk Room, I have also been fragrant and fragrant in the fish tent, I have also trembled in the palm of his hand, and I have also hung on his heart socket." Who bears the hope, the golden bullet hits the Mandarin duck, and the Zhilen Yaoqin does not phoenix. I am here lonely and alone in the warbler flower village, where he laughs and groans and fish water towns. It's hard to be a little, fake warbler's petite appearance; Hugh is busy, the old godly woman is viciously doing one! ”
This song "Double Tone, Wild Goose Falling Belt Victory Order", in fact, is a true portrayal of Wang's married life. She invested her life in Qi Jiguang, but in exchange for despair and negativity. It is conceivable that when the decision to divorce was made, what kind of psychological struggle did wang shi experienced after a year of confusion. This old and fading woman struggles to escape the dying married life in exchange for the dignity of being born as a human being.
He Zeng, when she faced the fierce and vicious Wokou, she had never been so sad as now. Now, in the face of this negative Han Qi Jiguang, who had frustrated her several times, she chose to leave resolutely. Even if he is a heroic martyr who has been famous for thousands of years, even if he is a national hero who has attracted everyone's attention, Wang Still defends his dignity fiercely.
The author believes that this woman is probably the most correct woman in the ancient concept of love, and also the pioneer of feminist thought.
Resources:
["The Biography of Ming Shi Qi Jiguang", "Double Tone, Yan'er Falling belt to win the order", "The Typical Deeds of the Anti-Wu Hero Qi Jiguang Afraid of His Wife"]